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He Takes a shower once a week. He smells like a shit. His clothes and foots are always dirty. And he does alot of other things to look more dirty or get me far away from hım. His soul perfect but...
What can I do for this attituades and body?
First thing that springs to mind is dump him. Why would you want to be with someone like that in the first place?
Cut off the punany til he smells like fresh cut flowers. That should be enough of a motivation.
If you really want to be with him then talk to him. Don't beat about the bush, be very clear about it. Tell him how him not washing affects you.
It's not a conversation you should need to have twice. If he doesn't show any signs of making an effort to wash more then that means he probably never will and there is no point in continuing the relationship.
If a girl was smelly, I would kick them out instantly. No one wants to be put of by vile smelling people.
You need to have a gentle conversation with him about this. Approach it as nicely as possible. I've had to have this talk with a couple of friends and told them, "I am not saying this to insult you, I am telling you this as a friend because I would want you to tell me if you noticed I was doing something that could be harmful to myself, or embarrassing". I have also complimented them on the days I noticed something about them was clean. For example, I had a friend who would occasionally wash his hair (which was usually extremely greasy from weeks of not washing it), and I would tell him it looked nice. Sometimes that may encourage them to continue to do it.
There's also a chance that his lack of hygiene may be related to a mental health concern, as it's a common side effect with depression. Or, he could have just never been taught proper hygiene.
My partner also had a hygiene problem from depression so I'm glad this person mentioned that. I had to have a talk with him about actually how concerning it was. He has an essential customer service job and I worried for him about contracting viruses. Since then hes amped things up to showering 2 a week and washing hands after using the bathroom however continue to struggle with brushing teeth and clean his clothes
Its unfortunately a sign of depression and things like this take time, but you think he has a beautiful soul and you're probably right I mean I hardly know the dude but I am no stranger to depression so I know how taxing a feeling it is. If you really care and think he's worth it you would stay but tell him to exercise more self care
Either just dump him or withhold any kind of physical intimacy from him until he agrees to improve his hygiene.
Get him some exfoliating scrubby gloves and tea tree oil body wash for Christmas and give him the rest of the year to figure out how to use them
Henpeck him until he changes. Loads of guys are dirty bastards who a good woman sorts out.
Why are you with this person if he's so dirty, and gross?
Have a serious talk with this dude about his lack of proper hygiene, and leave him if he refuses to change.
Stop showering yourself, especially 'down there' so your nose gets used to it.