My husband hurts me unintentionally daily?

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My husband and I have been together for 4 years and we like to play wrestle and stuff like that. But I don't think he understands just how much stronger he is than me and he puts too much pressure. He likes to pin me down and tickle me alot but when I try to get up he held me down by the wrists(gripping tightly) and tells me to relax. And when we play wrestle he hits me in the face and puts me in a chockhold. I freak out because it hurts and when I try to run away he laughs and say we're just playing. Then he pins me down and I freak more because I can't move then I panic. He gets mad when I tell him to go easy on me and calls me a pussy. It's starting to get to the point where I have to scream loudly let go for him to understand I want to stop playing. And sometimes he sneaks up behind me and pushes hard me against a wall and says are you scared and caress my face then walks away. When we have sex, I'm not saying he forces himself on me I be afraid to tell him no and I let him do whatever but it hurts sometimes and I cry when he falls asleep.I love him and he's really sweet, I know he will never hit me but he doesn't understand the seriousness in this situation.

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Tealights

7 years ago

He sounds immature, and borderline emotionally abusive.

Immature, because it's common sense to go easy on your partner, especially if they're smaller and weaker. Playfully wresting as a couple is suppose to be fun for both, even if it's not a real fight.

Borderline abusive, because he dismissed your feelings by calling you a pussy, he holds you down until you have to yell at him, and he's randomly pining you to the wall trying to scare you. Those are signs of a controlling man, and he has you mentally, physically, and emotionally.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  But other than that he is sweet. He takes me shopping, takes me out to dinner, goes with me to visit my parents even though he hates their guts. He helps around with household chores like dishes and he's an excellent cook. I'm trying to get him to go to marriage counseling but he is reluctant.
  
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  - Tealights
    
    7 years ago
    
    Sadly, I'm no good with helping those in denial of their abusive situations.
    
    I wish there are magic words I can tell you that will help you understand that no amount of good can outweigh the seriousness of the bad, and that you shouldn't downplay his controlling behavior. The fact that you have to mention marriage counseling means there's a lot more going on that's pushing you over the edge. You either think about your happiness/safety or continue to tolerate his behavior.
    
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rayb12

7 years ago

I think you'd have better results showing him this post than us. Also men do have testicles

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crygypsy

7 years ago

He sounds like he has MAJOR little man syndrome. And could be the manipulative/controlling type who lacks empathy for others and thinks he's "so macho" but in reality he's just a little bitch.

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barrysbigbeanbag

7 years ago

Kick him in the balls and hit him over the head with a frying pan!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  I think that will make him angry.
  
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McBean

7 years ago

This is more dangerous than you think. Some way, you've got to get away from this guy.

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MR.mr

7 years ago

I understand this somewhat, I'm stronger than I often realize and have accidently hurt past friends and girlfriend simply because I don't realize my own strength.
That said I don't understand how you have to scream to get him to stop, if I accidently i hurt someone I stop and appologize and usually feel bad about it, I don't keep up or call them a pussy because of it.

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Ellenna

7 years ago

He hits you in the face but he'll never hit you? He's not "sweet", he's bullying and physically assaulting you, includng pinning you down and putting you in a chokehold, and you love him?

I do hope you're trolling, I really do: if not, I hope you soon see him as he really is and get out of there before you're seriously harmed.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  What is trolling?
  
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  - MR.mr
    
    7 years ago
    
    trolling is basically making fake posts or comments, usually for shock value.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      Oh no this story is very real.
      
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GerardWay

7 years ago

please leave him.

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Justmehere

7 years ago

Guy is an abuser and gets off on overpowering and scaring you..Leave his ass..Show him you're independent and don't need his insecure, childish antics..

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Solomama

6 years ago

This man is abusive.

You are in an abusive relationship

It will get worse

Call your local women's centre and have a conversation

If you aren't ready or don't want to leave, call them anyway, keep in contact as there will be a time when you will need to leave

It will get worse

Take care

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herpesfreesince93

7 years ago

For some reason I see you as a male in my head. Are you two a gay couple?

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  - herpesfreesince93
    
    7 years ago
    
    Oh. Well then you should tell him that you have a fun new game. Tie a dog collar round his neck as well as a leash.. then cable tie his hands and feet together and tie him to a post. Hit him in the ballsack with a baguette numerous times. Then poop on the arch of his back while he cries in pain. Then take a lighter and burn the bottom of his feet and shove a cucumber (unlubricated) up his ass. Stab him in the gut twice and rub salt and lemon juice in the wound. Buy some flies and have them lay their eggs inside his gut and then close his wound.
    Now for the real fun.
    Get a small hammer and hit his fingers one by one. The hammer should be light enough so that you have to hit a finger at least 4 times before it breaks. After that you can take a bolt cutter and snip his achilles tendons off clean. Then take a cheese grater and just mutilate his back.
    After this, you let him lay in the scorching Mexican sun for a few days, feeding him only small amounts of worms and corn husks.
    Then you throw rocks at him and tell him that you really don't like it when he hurts your wrists during playtime.
    
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    - Takuto
      
      6 years ago
      
      Please, for the love of God, write a horror book.
      
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    - Azure_Diana
      
      5 years ago
      
      How you gonna get him to Mexico tho?
      
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