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Is it normal that my kids HATE going to church on sundays ? Once we are there they are fine but the moment I say 'time to get ready for church' they beg me'please mom I dont want to go its so stupid and Boring'. Five kids ages 5 6 7 8 and 13.
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Yeah, I think that's normal.
I'd say they should be allowed to choose if they want to keep going to church. Or, maybe they can go every other week instead as a compromise.
Make most kids dress up on a weekend morning and take them to a place where they have to be quiet and sit still for hours and they probably won't want to go.
Don't force them to go to church. Trust me, my mum used to force me and my sister to go, and we highly resented both our mother and the church. Now we refuse to have anything to do with religion because it was forced onto us from a young age, and we were never given a choice in the matter.
I'm an atheist, but I was raised Christian and went to a catholic school until 5th grade.
Literally everyone in every class I had through those years despised church. I assure you that your children are perfectly normal.
YES, GOING TO CHURCH IS BORING AS FUCK, AND YOU SHOULD SPEND YOUR TIME AND YOUR KIDS TIME ON MORE INTERESTING THINGS THAN GOING TO A PLACE THAT JUST WANTS DONATIONS AND DOESNT DO SHIT FOR THOSE WHO REALLY NEED IT
Church is boring, scary, the priests are really creepy and people try to force their views on others.
If they don't want to go, they don't have to go. Don't force them to go!
I have to agree with Avant on this one, plus she was speaking about church & church only. Every situation is different, you know?
I understand you trying to better them & you sound like a great mom for wanting the best, but church isn't what it used to be and times have changed. When I was younger, I was FORCED to go to church. I was baptized, did my confirmation, communion & even went to a catholic school up until it came to 6th grade. I BEGGED & PLEADED that I didn't want to go anymore & my parents finally accepted me for who I was.
I turned out to be a good person, I have a great job, go to school, volunteer, etc. I do all of this not because I used to go to church, but because **I** wanted to. It all comes down to wanting to do something, and it sounds like your children don't want to do this.
You have to realize that to them this is just ANOTHER chore. You should give them the choice, so that later in life they don't link the relation of chore & church. You don't want them to resent you. I wish you all the best! <3
School is necessary for an education which is required to be successful later on in life. Holding down a job is necessary to make money in order to make a living. Church CAN be helpful, (it also could not), but is certainly not a necessity in order to live. If it has helped you, that's great, but again, you shouldn't force your religion on them.
Of course they don't wanna go, just like school or anything that will take them away from watching cartoons, playing with toys, etc. I was the same way. Not that it is important but I don't go anymore. I believe you its alright to bring them there but once they are old enough to think for themselves don't push religion.
I find it so weird that parents take their kids to church. I think the last time I was even in a church service I was maybe preteen and that was only with school for christingle.
In answer to your question perfectly normal, church sucks we all knows this. Don't you watch the Simpsons?
If you still want to go, i guess youre going to just have to tell them to toughen up and deal. I didnt like going either and thank god we dont anymore but when i was a kid and it was time to go to church it wasnt put up for debate lol. And i dont resent religion, im not spirituality phobic and on top of that i dont need years of therapy just bcuz i was forced to go to church as a kid, i mean give me a break guys lol. You must have been some spoiled ass kids if youre just like "i resent religion now bcuz i was forced to go to church as a kid." I dont agree with everything christianity says either but its bcuz i actually have my own opinion, has nothing to do with being made to go to church as a kid.
i would say yes for the reason that, since they are still small they do not quite understand why they are going, if they start to understand they can see things more clearly than they might not have a problem with it
Holy moly, I admire your ability to have a kid a year for 4 years in a row!!
That being said, it's very normal to not like going to church. As a kid, it's pretty tedious and boring, and more often than not you are patronized and preached at (and no, I don't mean the pastor's sermon) by others, and generally given a large list of behaviors that are inappropriate and must not be done. It's just human nature at that age to find it frustrating.
Also the 13 year old is getting to the age where they will start reaching out and attempting to form their own idea of what spirituality and religion means to them. I think the best you can do is talk to them about your faith and say "that's one way of looking at it, and it works for me" but don't insist they see things the same way.
It's completely normal. They're kids, they probably don't fully understand the concept of religion. I'm not a religious person, nor do I have kids but if I did I would not force them to go to church. It's boring for them!!! In time they'll figure out what they believe in, but forcing them isn't going to do a single thing
It's totally normal. Give them the option each time you go, and if they say they don't want to, let them stay at home.
My parents never forced me to go to church, only when i was really young and they couldnt let me stay alone at home. my parents never go anyways, it was only for my grandmother.
I used to hate going to church. Children are usually fussy about doing things like that, I used to have a babysitter that always insisted on taking me and my sister outside when she was over. We never wanted to go because it was cold etc etc. we always enjoyed ourselves once we were out though.
Of course theres the whole "your forcing your kids into religion" argument, but I guess thats your decision. I used to go to church and am now non-religious and it didnt really scar me
It's normal. But keep in mind that if you continue to make church a forced thing they might stray away from it as they grow. If they don't want to go (and they are old enough to stay home) then you should let them. You cannot FORCE god on anyone, all you'll end up doing is pushing them away from it when they're old enough to make their own decision on the matter. Ask them why they hate it and perhaps discuss the true meanings of it.
Normal.
This might seem strange to you, but it is possible to be a good person without going to/being dragged to a place that has long and complex speeches about things they might not understand....
It's only fair to allow children to want to explore themselves, and being made to go to a boring place where you have to sit and stand at particular moments for a few hours while being talked at in a way that is irrelevant and too complicated for them can't be fun.
Isn't there a Sunday school, at least?
I think some others have said that a good compromise would be taking them only every other week. I would go as far as saying every once a month, or less often depending on how much they want to go.
You're not spoiling a child or pushing it into hell by not taking it to church all the time. Even adults don't feel like they need to go all the time.
I went to church on school trips and that was generally enough for me.
Maybe let your kids live in this century instead of the 17th one.
Also, don't let children near priests, for God's sake.
And God doesn't exist.
And Sunday mornings are for relaxing, not brainwashing yourself into non-reality.
I never enjoyed sunday church either. The only way my mother would get my siblings and i to go was by taking us to the mall afterwards.