My mom controls my life

My mom doesnt want me to be indepedant. She say read my texts to be in the loop of everything I do. She tries to set me up with ladyboys like mamas boys who have no backbone. She get mad at me and call me names if I dont want to date them. She try to insult guys I like. One time forcing me to bring her to my first date with a guy because she said its unfair and evil of me not to include her. She then was mad at me and crying for days because I didnt pay more attention to her and act like "a loving daughter" infront of him to make her look good. She was mad at me that im a bad person and want to always hurt her and told me I better choose between them so I was very sad because he was such a great guy it seemed but I ghosted him and apologized to my mom.
She want me to spend time with her and all the time. If I dont include her to everything in my life she is sad and insulted. She says shes the expert on life so if I wanna be a happy person only she can make it happen. I have no freedom because if im out too long she get mad yell at me insult the guy if I was on a date, demand to know if we were intimate and all.