My mom frequently calls me selfish

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I have an anxiety disorder, which she is aware of, that makes socializing very difficult for me so I don't always want to go to family get togethers. Tonight my sister was having a game night with my niece and nephew and wanted me to go but I didn't feel comfortable doing so because she has a very small apartment and it would be crowded. Because of this my mom informed me that I was "A very selfish person". Another time I didnt want to go to lunch at my brothers house because being in other people's houses stresses me out. She said to me that "You are a rude and selfish person, people just want to spend time with you but you can't even do that". My family sees me as an unemotional person so I try to ignore how much it hurts when she says those things and tell myself I'm being too sensitive.
Is it normal for a mother to say things like that to a teenager?

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    She loves you, but she does't understand.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Your mother sounds like an ignorant person.

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  • sissycakes
    5 years ago

    i used to be so afraid to leave the house and always feel guilty about it especially when it was for my brothers or sister. i would want to leave the house so bad for them, but i just could not. if you do feel guilty you should not. by the way i am better now. it took a lot to get me to this point, but it is possible. your mom just wants you act like she maybe would have acted at your age. you can never do everything that your parents want. it sucks to have a parent put you down but i have somewhat learned not to worry about it as much although it took a long time.

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  • Haru
    5 years ago

    Unfortunately, a lot of mothers can be like that. They act like they "know everything" and "know what's best for you" without really understanding you.

    I recently saw the third episode of the Netflix original series Hilda. When I saw this post, I thought it sounded a lot like the way Hilda's mother treated her in that episode. I'd encourage you to see it if you have Netflix.

    Sometime within this past month, I told my parents that I wanted to go to the last BronyCon this year. I then said that, if I couldn't go there that I would at least like to go to Anthrocon, which is less than an hour away from where I live. They said yes, but I overheard my dad asking "Why can't he ever go on 'normal people' vacations? Why does he always have to go to these 'weirdo conventions'?" I remember one time when I asked my mother about Anthrocon, she asked "What if someone you know sees you there?"

    My mother was like that when I was in high school as well: more concerned about my reputation than my happiness. She would never let me bring MLP merch into school with me, because she was worried that people would make fun of me. They never did when I wore an MLP t shirt or anything. I went to school at a different time and place than my parents did.

    Every parent seems to want their kid to be "normal", but that isn't always the case. They need to just grow up and accept their kids for who they are.

    But yeah, I would say that it is pretty "normal" for her to be like that, but that doesn't make it right.

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