My neighbor sick of me?

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Does it sound like my neighbor is sick of me? I may have messed up by asking him to give me rides on average a couple times a week, since I don't have a car. But the thing is, he's told me he doesn't mind giving me rides. But his attitude in general has gotten more surly with me lately. If he told me he minded, I'd stop asking. But he says he doesn't mind. But still acts like I'm such an annoyance. And then 2 days ago, I came to his apartment telling him about these bad muscle convolsions I just got (because I get them sometimes). And just today, I sent him 2 texts saying that I haven't gotten any more and that I'm feeling better. But he couldn't even respond to that. I would think that he would text me back saying "that's good" or something. But nothing. So between that and the surly demeanor he's been showing me, does it sound like he's getting sick of me, and he just won't tell me that?

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Pilum

3 years ago | pl

Take the obvious nonverbal hint and give him some space. It's called "wearing out your welcome", what you're doing. He shouldn't have to come out and say it.

He probably still likes you but doesn't want to have to interact with his neighbor so frequently. I know i dont, and I like them.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  I've done things for him too though. I've given him gas money for every ride. And I've given him food sometimes if I've made something and have extra leftovers. I should've mentioned that up top. Now that I have, does your response still remain the same as before about him needing space from me?
  
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  - Pilum
    
    3 years ago
    
    Yes. As for me personally it's just a nuisance to have to speak to my neighbors more than necessary unless we are close friends. But I'm an antisocial person though so that's just my perspective.
    
    So even giving gas money and food and things doesn't change it for me
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      3 years ago
      
      I think that my mistake has been that I thought me and him were becoming close friends, but I was wrong. I've only known him all along the past 7 years as a neighbor. I guess that when you say close friends, you meant someone that you go way back with that you've known besides just a neighborly setting.
      
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1WeirdGuy

3 years ago

No man trust me he minds. People do not like when others ask them to do stuff for them. Some people are really nice and say they dont mind but they really do. He feels like you are taking advantage of his niceness so he's not being as nice.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Yeah, I guess that's why he doesn't give a shit when going to him about my health. If he's that tired of me, I just wish he would've told me instead of saying "it's ok" but grumbling under the surface.
  
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Cuntsiclestick

3 years ago

Despite the fact that you gave him gas money, he probably just feels annoyed that you kept asking for gas and feels like you wore out your welcome. For some reason, most people don't say anything when they're annoyed about stuff like that.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  You're right, they try to be polite, even though in other ways they're not very good at covering up how they really feel. They let you know, just not in words. Oh, and I think you meant to write "..probably feels annoyed that you kept asking for rides.." instead of "..probably feels annoyed that you kept asking for gas .", no big deal
  
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  - Cuntsiclestick
    
    3 years ago
    
    Ugh yeah, I was on my 45 minute break trying to fight off the sleepiness. Sorry about that. XD
    
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whythisworld

3 years ago

I personally think, your neighbour does't actually care much about you. Yeah when you ask him, he gives a ride, when you ask him, he gives something. However, I don't feel like you are that important to him when you share about your muscle convulsions. Because he just doesn't care. He need not be a bad person. Just that he might not care many people he comes across.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  You are very likely correct. Anyway, this is how I've decided to handle it now, I'm no longer going to ask him for rides or anything, and I'm no longer going to share any of my issues with him. I'll say a quick "hey" to him in random passing him in the hallway and that's about it
  
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Anonymous Post Author

3 years ago

I understand. I guess that I just simply mistakened a friendship where there isn't one, and that it has nothing to do with whether we're neighbors or not.

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- Pilum
  
  3 years ago
  
  Well, you shouldn't feel dejected by it. You seem like a nice person
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    3 years ago
    
    I am nice. I can handle it, I just come onto here for advice sometimes. Thanks for yours
    
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a-curious-bunny

3 years ago

Have you even offered to pay gas? Whenever a coworker gives me a ride I offer gas every time. They arnt big on that admittedly but it is what it is

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- donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
  
  3 years ago
  
  gas grass or ass
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Yes, I have given him gas money, every time. And I give him food sometimes, just as nice gestures. He's still really sick of me to the point that I annoyed him by going to him telling him I'm having muscle convulsions that are almost to the level of seizures.
  
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[Old Memory]

3 years ago

Doesn't appear that he likes you very much.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  You're right. See my response to Whythisworld, that's how I'm now gonna handle this
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    3 years ago
    
    If you were a female then things would probably be different.
    
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SwickDinging

3 years ago

I would find this very annoying if I was your neighbour.

Not trying to be harsh, just giving an honest perspective.

It's nice for neighbours to be friendly and help each other out, but it sounds like you were asking a lot from him and giving nothing in return. Perhaps you should leave him be for a while. Maybe in the future he will ask you for a favour and you can return his goodwill. Otherwise I would just leave him alone for now.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Actually I was giving him gas money, and food sometimes. But that wasn't enough to keep him getting sick of me. Anyway, see my response to whythisworld, that's what I'm going to do now
  
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Ummitsstillme

3 years ago

I'm sure its quite the opposite and he is avoiding you because you don't share enough of yourself with him and he is dissapointed. Perhaps you could mention that stubborn rash that won't go away, or your failed romantic endeveaors.

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Tommythecaty

3 years ago

He thought you were going to suck his wiener, then when you didn’t he stopped giving a shit.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Whoaaa, you're on the wrong page. I'm not into nothing like that.
  
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  - Tommythecaty
    
    3 years ago
    
    Well that’s why he stopped helping you.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      3 years ago
      
      No, it has absolutely completely nothing to do with that. You're bringing up something that does not exist in this matter.
      
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      - Tommythecaty
        
        3 years ago
        
        How the hell do you know, it’s not like you asked him about it 🤣
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        3 years ago
        
        Because he's not a homosexual. And even if he was why would he be interested in a very plain looking not too attractive middle aged guy?
        
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- 1WeirdGuy
  
  3 years ago
  
  Thats the only logical conclusion
  
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    3 years ago
    
    Absolutely the ONLY logical conclusion indeed.
    
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Mini69

3 years ago

He probably just wants you to open your legs for him. But he’s probably realised by now that’s not likely to happen so he’s lost interest in giving you a lift places. If you want to salvage your friendship give him what he really wants, otherwise make other arrangements for your travel.

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- S0UNDS_WEIRD
  
  3 years ago
  
  You are amazingly sexist. You remind me of the angry lesbian stereotype that gives lesbians a bad name and you're straight as far as I know. This isn't based on this comment, by the way.
  
  Who hurt you? Also I'm (sincerely) sorry they did.
  
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  - Cuntsiclestick
    
    3 years ago
    
    The funny part is most of those angry lesbians that complain that men are desperate, horny, and psycho wind up acting the exact same way once they find a chick they're interested in. I'd know. I've been pursued by angry lesbians before. XD
    
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    - S0UNDS_WEIRD
      
      3 years ago
      
      Did they also hate their sisters for having partners, or worse yet, men for partners?
      
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      - Cuntsiclestick
        
        3 years ago
        
        They hated men because either at some point they were hurt by a man and just wouldn't shut up about it or they simply blamed men for taking all the pretty girls. They'd wonder why they couldn't get a girl but after being sent unwanted pics of boobs and hairy vaginas, being texted a ridiculous amount of useless texts, and having the classic "I wanna kill myself because you don't like me" thrown at me, I can see why nobody wanted their negative asses. Never look for people on free dating sites, btw. It seems like most people there are nuts. XD
        
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    3 years ago
    
    What's with Tommythecaty and Mini69 bringing up sex into a matter that has absolutely nothing to do with sex?
    
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    - S0UNDS_WEIRD
      
      3 years ago
      
      He's just like that and she hates men.
      
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  - nonpareil
    
    3 years ago
    
    Its most likely a dude or trans woman projecting their own fantasies. You never hear regular women do the "i hate men" + "give men exactly what they want" like this bitch does. Looks like one of "my_life's" alts.
    
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    - S0UNDS_WEIRD
      
      3 years ago
      
      They've said to give men what they want? All I've seen her say is stuff like "men have some use when they know their place" which is very different from my_life's constant insistence that women just need to be knocked around by men to know their own place. I also don't recall my_life being homophobic.
      
      You could be right but so far they've just seemed like a total man-hater to me. I guess I just haven't seen the other side yet.
      
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      - nonpareil
        
        3 years ago
        
        "If you want to salvage your friendship give him what he really wants" no man-hater would even suggest that, it reeks of sissyboy to me. Most of "her" answers suggest having sex with a man albeit in a dominant manner. Same as the "chastity cage" / "spank his balls with a spoon" moron. Men being degraded is their fetish.
        
        my_life was a phony act to get as much negative attention as possible. If they were smart, they would realize the best way to get negative attention off a site full of conservatives is to roleplay as a man-hating feminist who's into sissies.
        
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        S0UNDS_WEIRD
        
        3 years ago
        
        I didn't really take that as a real suggestion. It felt more like "but hey if you want to be a worthless piece of shit who gives into men you could always do this".
        
        Still, my_life or not, I decided it's indeed most likely a man. They seem A-OK with lesbians yet they were extremely homophobic to a gay guy. That's a lot like a lot of male homophobes.
        
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