My professor at university is using the wrong pronouns

Is this normal?

My professor misgendered me by referring to me as he. I let it go for a while but because it's really stressing to me I decided to finally tell her my pronouns and kindly said in the nicest way possible I'm not he/him I'm they/them/it. She just said okay but didn't really seem to listen so the next day she referred to me as he again. I let it go again but then decided once more to ask if I can have a talk with her so this second time I was very polite again and I said I'm not he/him I'm they/them/it and even educated her on it since she's in her 60s so may not be understanding or accepting of it as much.

She said she doesn't follow it.. and that she believes in biology but biology is not gender so this really felt like harassment to me and I'm thinking about reporting this as harassment. Being transphobic is never okay and it's just as bad if not worse than racism. I haven't been able to sleep or eat because I can't stop thinking about this and it's making me really anxious. Please any advice or tell me if this is normal for a professor to be transphobic thanks

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Comments ( 45 )
  • Clunk42

    It sounds to me as though you're being a bit of a wimp.

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  • bigbudchonger

    Suck it up buttercup. She's going to misgender you because

    Tangible, verdicial reality of biological sex > socially constructed gender.

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  • hauntedbysandwiches

    I can't sleep or eat because someone called me human when I identify as a hamster. It's hard out there

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  • Somenormie

    Get over it smh.

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  • megadriver

    She's right. Do you look like a "he"? If you do, it's natural for your professor to call you that, she can't keep track of all the people she has to give lectures to.

    Get over it, shit like this should be the least of your worries in your adult life.

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    While I do believe a person should be called what gender they want to be called, let's be real here: You really can't expect a person to change overnight and suddenly start using pronouns they were never taught. You also can't force her to call you They if she doesn't want to. I suggest you let this one go and finish your semester. There's worse things for an adult like you to be worrying about in life.

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    • LloydAsher

      I'm never going to use their pronouns. If you need special pronouns I'm gonna to just skip the entire pronoun use in the first place. Best way to do this is A not being your friend. B talking as little as possible to you.

      I'm not required by law (yet) to be your friend

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      • 1WeirdGuy

        My position use to be "idc what you do its a free country" but at this point I hate these people.

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        • LloydAsher

          Hate is too strong of a word. Disliking their collective stupidity is my stance.

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          • 1WeirdGuy

            Id be happy if every teacher in schools teaching kids about this were round up and shot

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            • LloydAsher

              Too extreme that's what makes republicans look crazy. Your saying shit that's not much better than the communists

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          • Cuntsiclestick

            I find it ridiculous that some people in the LGBT community want to make it illegal to misgender someone. Like, I really don't get the point. How would that silly law even be enforced? XD

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            • LloydAsher

              The full name for the community is LGBTQQIP2SAA now. Dear god am I the only one that remembers the straight gay alliance? That at least promoted working with eachother. This is just becoming a toxic mess of people with mental issues mixing with legitimate homosexuals.

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  • 1WeirdGuy

    You are cancer to the earth. You are not that important. No one is gonna change their world view because u wanna prance around pretending to be a girl. You look ridiculous trying to play pretend. Fooling no one.

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  • SailorTerra

    This is trolling.

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    • LloydAsher

      If only there weren't people who actually exist like this in real life, then I would be far more inclined to believe it wasnt a troll.

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    • hauntedbysandwiches

      Too many like this for real though

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  • kelili

    Transactivist are going wild right now.
    Let me be clear, I am for people to live like they want to if this doesn't harm anybody else. Boys should be able to be boys no matter what they wear and girls too. Gender is all about stereotyping: I am a girl because I am now wearing a dress and I feel like a girl and those who do not agree with me are transphobic. But the translobby is hurting women. Men can just claim that they are women with penis and get access to 'safe' place which were for women only. The places exist for a reason and the transpeople are just taking away the rights of women who have fought so hard and so long.
    Get me right, live your life the way you please but I would never consider a transwoman as a female or a woman. He is a male who represents the stereotyped woman.
    Biology is real and gender is a social construct. WHy we are so keen at validating gender?
    Gender dysphoria is real.
    The world does not revolve around transpeople. Those women is Afghanistan cannot opt out of their oppression by identifying to man. This transcraze is only in western society because in other parts of the world and in western countries there are still women who are oppressed not because they identify as women but because they are woman (biological woman).
    It's all beautiful to be inclusive but this inclusiveness should not wash away the rights of an oppressed group.

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    • LloydAsher

      I feel you. I'm in the exact same position when I criticize hijabs and burkas. Its fundamentally anti woman. No matter how much feminwashing modern "feminist" do their are still countries where its 100% a ok to cut the clitorus off of young girls without painkillers, as well as grown ass men marrying prepubescent girls... that's with an s because polygamy is ok for when men do it but if women do it they get stoned to death. Nothing changed from 2000 years ago.

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      • kelili

        I've been called a terf more than once because of my opinions. And I'm a feminist but we should stop validating lies.

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  • MonteMetcalfe

    I have to wonder if this post is just a troll. Realistically doesn't a teacher usually address a student by their first name, or first person pronoun (You)? How many times in any given semester does a teacher talk about a student in the third person?

    In a report wouldn't it read something like "Student shows great progress...". No need for He, She, They, or It.

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    • hauntedbysandwiches

      If you're in groups, get a group email or on google classroom I'm sure it would come up

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  • jethro

    It sounds like you need to grow up and drop the pronoun shit.

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  • Tommythecaty

    Good.

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  • Curiouskitten444

    Seek professional help is my advice. It sounds like this is really interfering with your wellbeing.
    You should also be careful with your statements like “its just as bad, if not worse than racism”

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  • Vvaas

    aw ok rip

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  • Vvaas

    hey do u wanna join my discord

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  • Correction

    It’s so funny to me that there’s these comments calling OP a wimp and telling them suck it up, but a few days ago somebody was complaining about there being a space on name tags for pronouns and nobody thought that poster was wimpy or needed to suck it up.

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    • LloydAsher

      Because when the company puts you in a mandatory position to call someone by their pronouns its disrespectful to the personal freedoms of those who does not prescribe to the ideology.

      The OP is being a wimp here is because they want OTHERS to call them by their identifiers dispite it being completely on them to get offended or not.

      It's not a personal freedom to require other people to use your pronouns, as it is a courtesy at best.

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      • Correction

        Anybody who thinks a blank space on a name tag is disrespectful has no business calling anybody else a wimp.

        If you want to disrespect people by calling them the wrong pronouns, that’s on you, but that doesn’t mean they can’t tell you what their preferred pronouns are.

        It’s not a personal freedom to censor other people so you don’t have to see or hear something just because you want to pretend it’s an ideology.

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        • LloydAsher

          I mean it is an ideology. Most of the world only sees two genders. Expecting someone to use pronouns other than the standard is a bit silly. Silly enough to be annoying

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            Even if we pretend it is an ideology, nobody gets to infringe on the personal freedoms of other people because they think they’re silly or annoying.

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  • Tinybird

    Gender > SEX

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    • LloydAsher

      Gender = Sex

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      • hauntedbysandwiches

        Exactly. Gender is sex and the fact they think it's two different things make me laugh. It's biology lol

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        • 1WeirdGuy

          They change words in the dictionary. I went out and bought an old dictionary from the early 90s and its hilarious reading all the new definitions. Nationalist is another one they butchered.

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          • hauntedbysandwiches

            For real I heard that too it's madness. These mentally ill people force their illogical beliefs down our throats and if we disagree with their insanity we're insulted it's horrible

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            • LloydAsher

              At least radical Christians would just say you'll burn in hell. Boom done, they wont go on to destroy your professional and personal life.

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