My stepdad makes me uncomfortable

Trust your gut that it's weird. He knows exactly what he's doing and it's not okay.

You need to tell your mother about it asap. He’s molesting you and must stop before he gets the idea he can go farther.

He's totally out of line.

Women should always trust their gut feelings when it comes to guys. If this feels wrong to you, then there's most likely something squirrelly going on his his head. Whether it's something really nasty, only he can say, but it would be wisest for you to assume the worst.

If you like the guy and you think that he and your mother are good together, then dealing with this might be a little tricky. Telling your mother about this would probably be the least confrontational thing for you, but it could create all sorts of tensions in the house.

I suspect that maybe the best first step would be for you to tell him clearly that you don't like what he's doing. If he really is a decent guy, he should simply accept that and stop. If he asks you to explain why, tells you that you're being over-sensitive, tries to dismiss your request in any other way or just ignores your request and continues, then he's really not a nice guy at all, and you'll need to involve your mother.

If she doesn't accept what you say at face value and take your side, then she's not a very nice person either.

Its' unclear if this is intentional or not.

Please have a direct conversation with him. Start with "Dad - we need to talk about something important" to get his attention.

Then tell him that you are growing up and consider your body as your private property. That you do not think his touching your butt (outside of an emergency situation) is appropriate, and whatever other contact area you consider off limits.

Tell him that you understand that he may not have recognized that. Then tell him that you expect him to treat you property as a young lady; and that you want a fantastic father daughter relationship.

Sometimes people need someone to clarify things - as they are carrying on behavior from when you were younger and it was harmless.

My guess is that he will apologize and things will resolve themselves.

If they don't after that - then you need to seek other family intervention help before things get worse.

I wish you the best with this...

Do you trust your mom? If not you may need to reach out to services for help. This is not okay and he knows what he's doing is wrong. It's inappropriate and when you're older you'll understand how terrible what he did was.

He isn't a super nice guy and he is definitely doing this on purpose.

What's your relationship like with your mum? The best thing in most circumstances would be to tell her, but this only works if she's a good mum.

I would try to avoid being alone with your step dad as much as possible. If telling your mum isn't an option, or you tell her and she doesn't protect you, then please tell one of your school teachers.

You NEED to tell your mother!

Sounds weird.

Next time he does it say stop thats pedo shit

Make it clear to him that you do not like the behavior. If it persists, tell someone you trust. These days it's easier to get someone to listen. An adult, especially if it's your stepdad, is supposed to be a mentor. He does not need to be touching your butt.

You need to tell your mom asap. Tell her to throw the creep out. If she doesn't do anything call the cops.

Extremely NOT normal tell somebody already. He is dangerous and he will do it again and even worse. Trust your gut girl and if he ever touches you again call it out ( as long as u think its safe ). Make him uncomfortable and never show him fear.

He can come across as Mr nice guy, but he’s a perv. You should speak to your mother about it.

100% WAY out of line. He’s not your stepdad. He’s your moms boyfriend / husband. That’s it. I say tell somebody about what he’s doing man seriously

Very nice.