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Is it normal to fear a relationship because of possible nagging about one's flaws/habits?
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jeez, some of these comments are pretty negative. there's nothing wrong with fearing having your flaws pointed out, that's relatively normal. and you don't have to get into a relationship until you feel ready. "ironing out" these perceived flaws, so to speak, may not necessarily make you feel ready, either, it could just kill your self-esteem further. as long as they're not harmful to anybody, i'd recommend trying to accept your flaws, not even for the sake of feeling ready or able to start a relationship, but in order to better your relationship with yourself, because, as cheesy as it sounds, that's the one that lasts a lifetime. :)
I'd suggest working on those flaws and bad habits before you get into a serious relationship. If the other person cares enough about you to nag you about something in the way of self improvement that means that person truly cares about you. You know what's fucked up about you. So work on changing those things before you get into a relationship with someone that you truly care for. And then you end up losing that person because you refused to change.
Your fear of criticism is unfortunately normal, and it will hurt you in all aspects of life. Learn how to kill your ego--the perfectionist inside you.
Playful nagging is a great way for a partner to get honest criticism through, a necessary for any relationship.