Need real advice. i'm afraid my friend is being taken advantage of,

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An old friend of mine from high school is in trouble but I don't know what to do.

A few years ago he was dating a girl, abbey that he'd planned to break up with but she, ''accidentally'' got pregnant. So he being a good guy stayed with her and took care of her and his new daughter. Now he's busting his ass to take care of them and put her through nursing school.
Recently he brought in Abbey's younger brother to live with him due to a bad family situation and now he's planning on renting out his old camper he used to live in to Abbey's grandmother, who will live on his property.

He knows Abbey purposefully stopped taking birth control because she wanted him to pull her out of her shitty family situation, just like he's taking care of her 17 year old brother now.
She manipulated him and now he's putting her through school, and I talked with him today the 17 year old brother has been disrespectful and they've been butting heads.

While all this is going on he's having serious issues with his own family.

He's being taken advantage of and I don't think he realizes how much. That is apparent but there's something else... this is just a feeling but for a long time I've felt like Abbey is going to leave him and take the kid as soon as she's done with school. But It's just a feeling, but my insides are screaming it at me.

I don't know what to do, we're friends but not best friends and even if we were, I'm not sure it's my place to say. IDK what to do.

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  • Morrow
    6 years ago

    This is why you should save yourself for marriage, but the damage is done. I'd like to say I'm impressed with your friend's conviction, you see too many willing to run away from a situation like this. All this garbage he's facing in his current situation, shouldn't be looked at like a bad thing. Rather he's facing the consequences of his actions, and be thankful he's doing it like a man. Just hope he can stay true, and one day teach his child not to live a life of hedonism.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Hmm... just a random thought, maybe he should get a paternity test just make sure the kid is his.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I've thought that for a long time, but I can't imagine a way of bringing that up.
      Plus she's 4 now, I don't think a paternity test would change how he feels about her at this point.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    6 years ago

    Oh man, that's a really tough situation ...
    If he knows she tricked him with the birth control then he knows what's happening, but he apparently decidet to stick with it. Probably because he wants to be a good dad.
    If you want to talk to him, I suppose that's where you should start: His child. What is best for this kid's future? If her family uses up all his recources then he won't be able to give this child a good life and I'm sure he doesen't want that. He might be too scared or selfless to stand up for himself but people are quite different when their kid's wellbeing is on the line.
    It sucks so much seeing good hearted people being walked all over, I'm sorry.

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