No labido, and scared of sex (i'm only 19)

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Okay, so it all started when me and boy friend had sex about a year ago and it hurt pretty bad. When we first started going out we had sex all the time and it was great, but after the time it hurt, it continued to hurt. It was like he was hitting something inside me. The problem I had was that despite it hurting, it really didn't seem like he cared, and he still wanted to have sex all the time. I asked for comprimises like not going in as far and such, but when he did try, it wasn't for long. I started to think he didn't care about me much, and wanted to avoid sex. To this day I'm really not into it. We're still together and working on it, but I need advice. Has this ever happened to anyone else? I'd really like to know if i'm the only one who gets that "hitting something" feeling, is it normal for us females? He is "well endowed" and i'm a small person.(Also: I don't have any STD's and I've had a pelvic exam, the doctor says theres no reason I should be experiencing this)

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  • Dulse.
    12 years ago

    Maybe you have no libido, because you are so scared. Take it slow, Good luck!

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  • EAT_IT
    11 years ago

    A burger bun on his winkenstein will help reduce the depth.

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  • Dozis
    12 years ago

    Dyspareunia from deep thrusting And hitting against: your cervix.
    If it is that painful, your only option is changing partner.
    For some women the pain becomes a part of the intercourse they are willing to put up with or even enjoy. For other ones, such as yourself, becomes a reason of discomfort. And, yeah, most guys are taught not to care about it.
    Some clinicians apparently see it as a woman flaw. And suggest treatment, which I have no idea what is all about, other ones suggest it isn't an illness at all and should get removed from the dsm altogether.

    So it is either you go through this treatment and let him keep wacking you from the inside or he stops going so deep in you and you won't need any treatments.

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