No real friends; making friends is hard :(

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So, I'm feeling really low because my one friend, outside of my boyfriend, got upset with me because of something she said - and I couldn't quite understand where she was coming from. For this I apologised for but now she's not talking to me...

At the moment I'm thinking, why can't I have a normal friend?
I'm not a bad person, really I'm not. I've got friends from high school and people I've met in the past that are just on my FB page and the way they talk and say things...I'm no where near as...forward like that. Anything I say or do on fb...not many people seem to care about what I have to say.

I feel like - you have to be attractive to gain a multitude of friends. If you're an ugly duckling like myself...no one seems to give a crap about you.

Deep down, I know I can be a good friend. I listen to what people have to say, I try be funny. I'm out going most of the time and simply...I would never do anything intentional to hurt anyone.

All my life I've had friends come and go and some have betrayed me. I can understand that people move on - so no hard feelings to those who don't want anything to do with me.

But the cycle is getting really...really old...I gain a friend, something goes wrong and they no longer want anything to do with me. I get that perhaps I have some annoying traits but seriously, everyone does and there's no reason why people can't be friends with me.

Is making friends really all that hard? Or is this normal for most people?

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  • Blackhawk6969
    7 years ago

    "Real" friends are hard to find. Everybody has friends in high school that say, we are going to be best friends forever. I had a few like that, but now I can't tell you the last time I saw or talked to any of them. Well, I did call one once because I was having problems with my marriage and he got mad at me because it was after 11:00 at night and he thought it was rude for me to call him that late. I don't like calling people after 9:00 pm but at the time I thought it was important and I needed to gear a friendly voice since I was on the West coast and all the friends I grew up with lived on the East coast. Needless to say, we don't talk anymore. Many people will be your friend because of convenience, meaning when they need something, they know they can call you to help them out because they want to bother their real friends or because nobody else has the money or the time to help them out. Real friends don't care, what you look like, how much money you have, or don't have, what you can or can't do for them, or any other superficial thing. A real friend is there when and wherever you need them to be, to do whatever it is to help you out and Loves you for the person you are. If you are lucky, you will have a few friends like that. That is the friend I try to be. If I find a true friend, I consider myself lucky and I try to be the very best friend that I can be, and I actually look for people that need a good friend. Because if you can be a true friend, you will have a true friend. Good luck, and if you good friend, let me know.

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  • Almightymeow
    7 years ago

    Sorta like me...... I gain a friend, maybe a year later or so they leave I'm like WTF SERIOUSLY!?!

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    • sour_cherries86
      7 years ago

      So they just randomly stop hanging out with you? That's really sad man. I don't get why these things happen. Some people can be giant dicks and have a multitude of friends haha but some people just make people go away.

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  • _Jesus_
    7 years ago

    How to make friends:

    Men: wear the same shirt as another man. "Bro!".."dude!". Best friends.

    Women: friendships between women is a myth

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  • Boner_Face
    7 years ago

    If you're attractive, say an attractive woman. Yes, you gain a multitude of "friends" not real friends, but a multitude of people who hang out with you. Heterosexual guys who want to have sex with you, that maybe you friend zone or friends with benefits blah blah....

    Maybe other women looking to associate with you because by association they will get to meet some of these guys you attract, etc, etc....

    Good looking guys have it even less easy if you wanted to go that route. People expect good looking guys to be easy going, confident, self assured blah blah blah...If they deviate from that well everyone gets confused about it.

    Yes, making friends with truly decent, kind hearted people is fairly difficult to do.

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  • Azaman
    7 years ago

    I'll be your friend :)

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