Normal feelings? transgender? i don't know if i feel comfortable

My advice -

First, do not do anything that would get in the way of living as you wish, however that is. Do not marry, get pregnant, don't get in trouble with the law, don't get into debt etc.

There are people who live as the opposite of their birth gender. Some people, like a post above, will discourage being transgender. However, YOU are he only one who can decide what is right for you. If people do not like that some of us live as the opposite of how we were born then tough shit. If someone is not paying your bills nor providing you a home then they have no say in how you live.

“Lose her daughter”? It sounds like she never had one to me.

This may sound harsh but at the end of the day it’s your life not your mother’s, she should love you unconditionally and not expect you to live in misery as a cis woman to please her.

Also ignore the troll using slurs and calling being trans a “trend”. Whether you identify as cis, trans, genderqueer or anything else you are valid.

When it comes down to it you need to ask yourself is your happiness and well being more important to you than making others happy by embracing tgere ideas of who you should be over who you are

I don't know how old you are or what your income/freedom situation is but I would recommend removing yourself from as much influence as you can from your mother. She doesn't understand or care how you feel in regards to your gender.

This doesn't mean you should excommunicate her from your life in every way, but she is and has seemingly for a long time been projecting her ideas of what you "should be", and how to "behave" in her eyes.

I am the only girl, I have 3 older brothers and was a tomboy though my formative years. I never desired or embraced anything feminine and was pretty much an outcast in social situations outside of athletics growing up.

Personally I never thought of myself as a male or ever had the desire to become one, but maybe that's because my parents didn't badger me with gender/sex things. I was neglected once my brothers went off to college.

With therapy I found out I had/have many deep rooted issues nonetheless.
My advice is to seperate yourself from a parent that is projecting their values on you if physically possible. Seek therapy if available.

Do whatever you can to find yourself with healthy guidance. Don't listen to the people here that are politically motivated... "be progressive be trans yay!" Or " you're born a girl, stay that way or reap repurcussions!"

You should ignore anyone who has their own personal interests ahead of your own and just find yourself. Know that you are beautiful, amazing and fantastic no matter what. Your gender, your sexuality, your life, your decisions should be yours alone.

OP, don't listen to fuckwads on this site with nothing better to do than spew hateful shit. Being transgender is medically recognized by virtually all large and credible health organizations, including the WHO. People who think they are smarter than decades of research and premier medical experts are fucking idiots and need to get their brains checked.

Moreover, it isn't a new phenomena, nor a newly researched one (see Institut für Sexualwissenschaft for an example of an LGBT research institute that had decades of research on both gay and transgender individuals burnt in the Nazi book burnings).

I'm not transgender (although I know people who are), but I think the best thing to do is to think over things and (if you truly believe it is something serious enough to think further about and are conflicted) see a therapist specializing in these matters if you are interested in the more medical side of things, or just if you need help figuring things out.

What I would say is that gender stereotypes do not determine whether you are male or female. Not liking "girl toys" or "carrying yourself like a girl" has nothing to do with gender, only your personal preferences. This is not to invalidate your feelings, or anything else, simply to help you get that presentation and likes/dislikes are different from gender identity, although there are certainly many trans people who many have exhibited or stated similar things.

My understanding from transgender friends is that dysphoria is not always severe and overpowering, sometimes it can simply be a desire or preference for certain physical parts. You can always try out temporary things that would be more affirming physically.

Finally, if you're happier with being seen as androgynous or a man and referred as such socially, then I don't see why you shouldn't. Live your life how you want, as who you want. It can be intimidating, but your mother shouldn't insult or try to control you over it, nor should anyone else. You shouldn't feel like you're "lying" for trying to figure out yourself.

Yea I cant be fucked reading all that

The advice I'd give you is stop listening to all this new age bullshit. You're a girl. Life isn't fair. You can never be a guy. It doesn't matter how you "identify". Even if you turn tranny everyone can tell you're a girl, no matter how much testosterone you're on.

And then what will you do when this transgender trend is gone? This transgender crap was unheard of 10 years ago. Its brand new. Now everyone feels like a different sex. Dont listen to this new age bullshit. You are a girl. Not trying to be harsh. The truth hurts, life sucks.

You never liked being a daughter, but you are. Deal with it.

First, we use labels to familiarize ourselves with things. Biologically, men have estrogen but at a LOT lower levels than women. They have testosterone at a LOT lower level than we do.
The main reason we start out as female is it's more efficient for a developing fetus to form testes and a penis than to have to break it down at a later time.
Even during the pre-teen/teen years that is when we are starting....starting to find out who we are. Stereotypes exist b/c there is truth to them. A straight man can be into fashion and design but gay men tend to pursue this career.
Clothing is made for body types. Dresses don't fit men. Male underwear doesn't fit women. We are biological compliments to each other.
How you end up perceiving yourself at that time on, is from nature AND nurture. How your family adults treated and 'taught' you will influence your thinking.
Long hair and fingernails is a person choice by either men or women. Society has formed stereotypes as well. Nothing is stopping a woman from having short hair or not wearing dresses often. Nothing is stopping a man from growing his hair out or 'dressing well' (suits, button shirts, slacks, etc).
I won't get into the transgender topic. For one, no one can diagnose you over the internet. It's illegal and one can go to prison for it. If the issue affects your life so much then see your primary care doctor and maybe get a referral to a psychologist.