Normal my boyfriend with autism is sometimes difficult to deal with?

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Im neurotypical and I love him and I accept his autism and he's incredibly high functioning but sometimes it's hard. He will misunderstand something I say completely or hold a weird view on something and I'll disagree with him and he will start ranting at me without a single breath so won't let me get a word in. The rant could last a full hour straight too which is a lot. Then he won't listen to me and will withdraw from me for the rest of the day and not talk to me until afternoon the following day.

Also during the loss of my sister I was in a bad mood and upset and he took that as I was being rude to him and suddenly started ranting at me.

I'm unsure what to do when this happens.

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  • Whatintarnation
    1 year ago

    It's kind of what you signed up for though. I'm not trying to make light of it but that's how the autism is manifesting itself in him. Gotta take the bad with the good.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      1 year ago

      Yeah I know but do you happen to know any strategies to avoid these? Lol

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      • Whatintarnation
        1 year ago

        My step son is autistic. Mainly a pretty normal kid but once in a while he'll have a melt down and can constantly obsess about things that bother him or that he likes. Somedays it's very trying on your nerves. Sometimes you just gotta take a second to yourself and realize that this is something he can't help. There's also alcohol.😉

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  • Yaidin
    1 year ago

    Very normal for a guy with autism. Doesn't mean you have to be dealing with it tho

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  • horny_simpletons
    1 year ago

    Well if he's selfish or goes off on you for no reason or over something trivial, that's not an autism problem, it's just him. I'm high functioning autistic and I hate it when people associate autism with selfish or asshole-ish behavior. When I was with my ex I would misunderstand his words sometimes and he'd get mad at me and I would apologize profusely. If you're unhappy you should reconsider the relationship.

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  • GuvnorsOtherWoman
    1 year ago

    I'm autistic myself so yeah, normal.

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  • Somenormie
    1 year ago

    I do that too, misunderstanding things sometimes. I can in every way relate to that.

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  • kikilizzo
    1 year ago

    High functioning just means it's not visible to others.
    I am a high functioning autistic woman and i'm pretty far from high functioning in some ways, I just have the ability to not do stuff like stim in public and to temporarily surpress reactions to triggers that causes those considered lower functioning to have a meltdown on the spot.
    All of that holding back causes burnout instead though, and for me periods of depression with no energy because i've used up so much energy acting neurotypical, so it's quite questionable why the high functioning label gets used at all.
    I'm a woman though and from what i've noticed men with autism are different, and that's what my therapist has said as well. I have a guy friend with autism and he's the same way in that he can rant about something for an hour straight and you can't even get a word in and he doesn't notice if you are disinterested in the topic.
    I've never been that way as i'm too much of an overthinker and don't want to make anyone uncomfortable. That said though entering a relationship with anyone who isn't neurotypical when you are it should be common sense to be aware that it's not going to be easy. There's always going to be challenges and your boyfriend will never be like a neurotypical and you need to get used to it or move on and let him find someone who accepts him for real. Therapy can help but only so much.

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  • RoseIsabella
    1 year ago

    Dump him!

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    • Tommythecaty
      1 year ago

      Isabell!

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      • RoseIsabella
        1 year ago

        Tommykins!

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  • olderdude-xx
    1 year ago

    Normal for anyone who has autism.

    Can you adjust to that? You can if you want to.

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