Normal to dump acquintances by ignoring them?

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How much of an explanation do you really owe acquaintances?

I started to talk to this girl during 2016 summer, we hung out for walks maybe 4 times, I invited her to come with me and my friends once.

After that I sort of felt I couldn't really stand the person so i started to withdraw

First i replied to her messages now and then, but she always wanted to hang out so I briefly said i wasn't feeling it at the moment and then I hoped time would help me vanish.

Well, it didn´t .

She´s kept writing now and then, almost thought I lost her but then i ran into her twice during a week.

I am very distanced, fuck i'm rude. Almost too rude,.

But I just cannot bring myself to harshly tell her to fuck off.

Which is more rude? keep ignoring (As i've done for ... maybe six months now) or just tell her i'm not into it, and risk the "why" question?

We live in the same small area.

Is it normal to not feel like you owe acquaintances an explanation?

I don´t like people in general, it takes a whole lot for me to let people become my friends. She seemed to be lonely and I thought "lets give it a chance"but she showed personality traits I just cannot deal with.

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  • Adopt-a-thot
    7 years ago

    That's rude asf. In your defense though, you can't force yourself to be someone's friend. Tell it to her straight.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      "hey i just thought it was time to say that i dont want to hang out"
      "why?"

      it´s the "why" I fear because all my reasons are things that would hurt her.

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  • Sluts
    7 years ago

    Most people are like this. You only get a few true friends in life and people move on in different directions all the time.

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  • Rihyae
    7 years ago

    I do that all the time, sadly ):. Only true friends that I can connect with get my attention. It's not your fault and prolonging it passively isn't fair to either of you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      thing is, I don´t think I´m giving her mixed signals either. I´ve stopped replying or even reading anything from her on social media.

      When I see her outside I ignore her, if she approaches I´m very short and yes straight out rude.

      I just feel like she should get the hint? it´s a strong one at that also.

      I love to spend time alone, I want to focus the social energy I do have on people I like.

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      • Rihyae
        7 years ago

        Maybe yell? She seems daft. Or write a card.

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