Obsessed with bf's ex girlfriend choices
I feel horrible writing this but I need to hear what people have to say.
I started dating my bf almost a year ago. I like him, he is a nice guy who is trying hard to make things happen. In the past he smoked weed everyday and followed bands.
That's fine, however, his choices on ex girlfriends bother me. One of them looks very trashy and has a horse face. He broke up with her because she was "crazy" he says, and I have been able to get past it.
But the one he dated before me for two years and lived with for a year bothers me. She is so fat and so plain. I feel shallow having this bother me. He told me she gained around 60 pounds after their breakup. However, a girl that went to HS with her said she was always "husky." When I confronted my bf about this he said that wasn't true. That she wasnt that skinny but she was not nearly as fat as she is now. The girl seems plain, she has a very unattractive boyfriend now. He says the reason why they broke up is because he felt they had nothing to talk about. He says she is a nice person but she doesnt like politics and is not adventurous. I am very adventurous and involved in social justice causes; he loves that.
What bothers me is how did it take him 2 years to figure out he had nothing to talk about with her. That's so long. What kind of person stays with someone for that long with that going on (maybe it wasnt always like that). I have heard the girl is nice so after dating the crazy horse faced girl, maybe she offered that.
Why does this bother me soo much? I feel so weird having thsi bother me, hanging onto his past.. he is cute, shouldnt he have better standards?? I have never had this issue with ex boyfriends since the girls they dated I considered attractive.
Any comments?? IS this normal??? Advice please??