Our 13 year old daughter is pregnant

My wife and I are deeply religious and have raised our 13 year old daughter with decent Christian morals. We all attend church regularly.

About 4 months ago our daughter brought home a 24 year old male member of our church who had gotten into a fight with his parents and was kicked out of the house. My daughter felt sorry for him and convinced her mother and I to let him stay over for a few days.

A couple of weeks later she told us that another member of our church, this time a 34 year old man, was going through a messy divorce and was feeling very lonely and she wanted to comfort him by staying over at his house for a few days. Confident that our daughter knew right from wrong and was showing Christian compassion we allowed this.

However, we have recently found out that our daughter is more than 3 months pregnant. This came as a terrible shock to us as parents.

She refuses to tell has who she had relations with. It is a great shame to us to have to suspect members of our church.

How do we confont these men and where did we go wrong? We have always taught our daughter that sexual relations are an evil and dirty sin and is only intended for marriage.

Any advice would be appreciated.

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  • I call bullshit.

    If you (and your spouse) are writing this post For Real, then I feel sorry for you because you are obviously dumber than a box of rocks.

    Let me see if I got this straight: First a 24 yr old guy had a fight with his parents, got kicked out and you let him stay with you a few days? - This is just Barely possible, so I will let it go.

    Then, a 34 ( ! ) yr old guy breaks up with his wife, so you let your THIRTEEN YEAR OLD DAUGHTER stay at his place for a few days?

    BULLSHIT.

    Fake post or two dumb to be allowed to run free on the streets!

    Tobra Marie

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    • Nice observation dumbass

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  • darkmage

    It is NEVER appropriate to let your 13 year old daughter spend the night with a 34 year old man (let alone 'a few'!?), EVER! I don't care how religious you are. You *should* have known something was fishy, and I would go "all in" that he's the man you are looking for.

    I don't mean to add to your grief, but I would almost be wondering if he didn't force himself on your daughter, or had been planning this all along. But then...they both could have been planning 'that stay' together and you are looking at a relationship that has gone on for much longer than you realize. Does she have internet access to a computer?

    Just because you think you raised your child with deep Christian morals and values doesn't mean they are taken to heart. Young minds cannot always grasp the complexities that we as adults can, and a young child looks to adults for guidance, praise, acceptance, etc. and this person might have preyed on those emotions with your daughter.

    I hope, as do the others who have commented, that this is a hoax. If not, I would suggest that you both re-evaluate your own perceptions and outlook on things and update them accordingly. We all want to trust each other, but protecting our children comes first. You should have taught your daughter to say, "No!" and donkey-punch him in the b@lls when he didn't take that as his answer.

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    • ya best advice but not that real.

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    • ilovemyself

      do u think it can b real????????????

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  • nancygonzalez

    if this is fake then GOOD

    if its real- u guys are dumb parent... who the eff lets a 13 year old girl with men like that...

    dum dum dum...

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  • iheartdoggies

    ok lets see. if u tell someone that sex b4 marraige is a dirty sin then that makes it way more tempting.
    and no, if u let a 13yr old stay at a 34 yr old's house god will not stop them from having sex.
    open your minds a little.....ur a sucky parent who thinks god is watching over your daughter, and your daughter is a fricken whore

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  • Judgeofbros

    Congratulations! You have convinced me that you have poor character judgement skills.

    Or this is fake. Gonna go with fake.

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  • FluffyGreenNugz

    Uhhh just because someone is a member of your church doesn't mean that they aren't capable of taking advantage of a 13 year old CHILD. What is wrong with you people? I would never EVER let my 13 year old daughter hang out with a grown man..... especially without my personal supervision. Quit basing EVERYTHING you do on the bible and religion and grow some common fucking sense!

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  • Yazorin

    The problem with you people is that you taught your daughter that sex is dirty and should only be done during marriage. this obviously made your daughter wanna lash out against your oppressive rules. This is the kind of thing that happens when parents tell their kids to "wait until marriage" sex isnt evuil and dirty, it's just a simple physical act, and marriage is just a title. your old timer beleifs are so stupid

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  • GiannCarl08

    Greetings sir, Your daughter must not let anyone in because the 24 year old who fought with his parents, is a criminal or a convict, plus the 34 year old man, was a pervert rapist, You will have to confront the two men first and know them well before letting them stay inside your house. You have gone wrong because you did not watch your daughter well, you have to send her to the doctor and know what makes your daughter pregnant. If the 24 or 34 year old man was responsible for making your daughter pregnant, report them to the police. Since I rate this abnormal, It is considered, your fault. So good day to you sir.

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    • GiannCarl08

      I almost forgot, You will have to watch your daughter while she stays at the 34 year old's house. Otherwise she got pregnant as well.

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  • snemomma

    Being 'decent Christians' has done nothing but allow you to decieve yourself into believing your child holds the same 'high moral standards'. Instead of teaching your little sweeness to think of sex as dirty and bad- which by the way is idiotic!! - teach her that sex should be tied to love and when all else fails buy her a box of condoms and get her on the pill.
    Be religious all you want but while you are being religious be responsible parents.
    Now that you have made this particular bed have a good time raising your little girls' baby as she will tire of the whole mommyhood responsibility thing in just a few minutes and you will be left holding the diaper bag, and good luck trying to get an kind of financial support from whichever 'grown-up' knocked her up in the first place...if you can figure out which one did the deed with your baby.

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  • dunno2010

    fucking hell, you really are dumbass's. shes 13 he's 34. like he's not gonna try anything and she ain't gotta chance up against him. this really cannot be true. omfg !!!!!

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  • RedAvarice

    No surprise being raised as a Christian. Morals shown in the bible like underage sex, rape, murder etc. seem to make this almost believable.

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  • darkprince

    your a dumbass.. that's for sure

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  • karld

    No even in the middle ages people kept it within 3 years either side you two are the most dumb,thick,always asleep,blinded people I have ever heard about inn my life,the bible doe's not say to let a thirteen year old sleep with a 34 year old who could easily trick her or rape her to get her pregnant,now this better be a hoax or somebody's going to report you for 'child neglect' now if this is real get the f*ck out of here,re-start schooling and grow the f*ck up!

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  • As much as you are religious you should remember there are people who arent. Religious people are naive to the world and your daughter cannot offer comfort to a man 20 years older. He is probably not even religious and your naiveness is bordering on stupidity and see the consequences now

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  • BOYracer88

    haha you stupid fuckers serves you right, UNLUCKY

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  • GodsNotReal

    Gods not real.

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  • FinDuMonde

    If this is real, then it's the fault of the stupid parents. Religion itself is for fools and idiots. Sex before marriage is NOT a sin, even for 13 year olds. But allowing her to stay with an older man is a sign of stupid parents. If she had been having sex with boys her own age (or near her age) then there is nothing at all wrong with it.

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  • Sweetz

    You lack parenting skills

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  • jasonapple

    She sounds like a caring sort of girl. Maybe she'll grow up to be some kind of Mother Teresa.

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  • BOYracer88

    by the way `how do we confront these men?` you confront them with a kitchin knife, `where did we go wrong?` well that answers itself doesnt it you dumb, ignorent, arrogent motherfuckers lool :)

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  • Laddie2468

    Airport her during the pregnancy. She is going to feel very sad she may also come around to telling you who the father is

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      Sorry not airport. Support

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  • EbonyMT

    I call BS as well.

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  • Relations? You are a moron.

    Also, falcon punch or coat hanger.

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  • Punch
    Her
    In
    The
    Belly

    Kthx

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  • weirdnormal221

    Well you probably pushed her away with your Christian Crap. you totally lost her because you forced your dogmatic religion onto her and now you you face a reality that you nor your dumb God are accustomed to- REALITY. You have only yourself to blame but you probably will blame your daughter instead and push her farther away. Which would be the best because you are Christian and have no idea of real life.

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  • RamennoodleMaster

    Go to the police immediately, they will arrest the men and force them to have DNA tests. Insist on multiple tests and make sure both men are supervised during testing. If these too are the culprits they are sick and should be in jail. Don't confront them personally as that would be dangerous.

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  • nooofucknoooo

    First of all, WHAT THE FUCK?!? You could have stopped them! You two are disgraceful and neglectting, she is THIRTEEN he is THIRTY-FOUR get the difference? What kind of parents are you?!Are you going to do something or are you going to sit around praying god will help her? For all the human race knows GOD MIGHT NOT EXIST! and IF he does its not his job to step up and take resposibility of YOUR actions, no you should. Get up off your lazy shitty butts and DO SOMETHING!

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  • jb95

    ok so one your terrible parents second your naieve to allow those two men to be near your daughter unsupervised all that time and cowardly not to confront them third there is nothing wrong with sex befor marrige or young sex hell its the most natural thing for a humanbeing to do next to eat sleep and breathe and fourth your terrible parents because chances are you started treating your daughter differently or forced her to put the child up for adoption this is your fault and you deserve all the humiliation you may get and any heartache that comes your way. i say accept the situation keep the kid move get the prick who fucked your baby girl to pay child support and move on.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing

    You do realize this is neglect? You neglected your child and now she is pregnant. This is all your fault and one day you will go to hell. They devil will make you suffer a hundred times worse. A 13 year old is not even strong enough to conceive a child. She will die and her blood is on your hands.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing

    What the fuck!

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  • I agree with mr october

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  • Shibby666

    I agree completely.

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  • superorc

    1st of all i Christian is full of ballshit the same for the rest but that me there nothink worng to have sex befor u r marriage but have sex at that age is some think that sood be done when bofe sides r deepy in love so just let it sild bal bal and just love her as a duaghter and gandchild like any 1 ells and if she dont what to be cristian then just let her do her own thing and if u gith her crap like being sent to hell what kide of dad r u

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