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Is it normal for all my qualities to contradict each other. I am smart, nice, a natural bodybuilder, depressed, have a low self esteem, social, funny, shy to attractive girls, and make good decisions (no drugs, cheating, lieing)
Yeah. People are often very complex and multi-dimensional. This is why people say "don't judge a book by it's cover", because judging someone by only one or two or even three of their qualities or their behavior in only a handful of situations often can produce a wildly inaccurate judgement of how a person is. This is why it's important to not make generalizations (save for this one :P) and to reserve judgement.
I couldn't agree more. I especially dislike it when people judge someone else based on a few qualities, and then when the person they've judged does something a bit negative, the person says that's them "showing their true colours", like everything else about them was fake. That one really annoys me.
They don't contradict each other.
Contradicting qualities would be:
kind and cruel
happy and sad
smart and stupid
We all have a mixture of positive and negative attributes. You've just described a typical multifaceted human.
Being social does not mean you have great self esteem. Being confident might mean that. Being strong does not mean you are a complete idiot. Unless you really believe in stereotypes. Being funny does not mean you are not shy when you talk to girls. Another thing which trait of these indicates you would be a druggy, alcoholic, cheat or lie?
Lol, are you saying that us natural bodybuilders are horrible stupid people? Haha
Btw I don't know what you look like but many of your qualities sound very appealing, you shouldn't be down on yourself, keep your chin up
I wouldn't say they contradict each other, I think most of your qualities are very good and although you may get shy, some girls (myself included) may find that cute. I would suggest letting go of some shyness since you may pass up a good opportunity to be with someone if you let that shyness get the better of you. Also your depression, where does it come from, is it an event that happened or has this always been a problem?
That you may want to seek therapy (positive thinking try that first before hopping onto medicine)
So you are me and I am you...a year ago with bodybuilding, though. And 12yrs ago with shyness.....hmmm, I bet you're taller too. You're starting to be less like me. Whatever, we are who we are