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I'm sure this is probably an "everyone's different" type of thing, but I'd be interested to know.
Do you have a complete aversion to sexual activity, or is it simply that you don't WANT to do it, but you wouldn't mind either?
Your nerves still work, so you would still get pleasure from sex, but it's just that you don't get horny, right?
| I have an aversion to sex | 4 | |
| I would have sex with my partner if they are not asexual | 3 |
I just have no interest in it whatsoever, but would not be interested in trying it, at least at this point in my life. I'm also a bit repulsed by the thought of myself having sex, which I know sounds irrational considering it's a natural part of life, but there's just nothing appealing about it to me.
An asexual can still enjoy sex, as in getting pleasure out of it just like anyone else, the point is an asexual does not desire it regardless and it is individual why that is.
It can be finding it to be gross and unnecessary which is how I kind of see it. I see it kind of like how I enjoy candy but I rarely actually crave it. I still like it if I have some but i'll likely not feel like I need to get more of it.
Others are completely against it and refuse to have it even with a commited partner because they are so disgusted by it.
Then there are those who masturbate but has no desire to have sex with another person for various reasons.
"Your nerves still work, so you would still get pleasure from sex"
I don't get pleasure from sex at all. It's like rubbing my hand against a wall, I feel everything my hand is touching I just don't get orgasmic pleasure from it. Same thing with my penis.
What I think is wrong is the part of my brain that sends out dopamine isn't activating when I perform intercourse, because if I enjoyed it I'd be fucking every whore that would have me since I have an addictive personality (unless I was dating someone because I wouldn't cheat).
And to answer the question about would I do it with my partner if I had one, yes to make them happy.
It's probably 50/50 like Lloyd Asher said. I'm demisexual so I only feel pleasure when I'm with someone I've been dating for at least 4 months and I created an emotional bond with them. I can't feel any sexual feelings or thoughts before then it's just dull and boring.
Also, just because someone doesn't want to have sex, doesn't mean they're asexual either. They might still get crushes, aka feel attracted to people, which means they are not asexual.
If I'm not wrong, it's possible for asexuals to still feel romantic attraction, just not sexual. Not feeling romantic attraction is aromanticism, and aromantics can still feel sexual attraction. Then, there are people who are both (asexual and aromantic, a.k.a. no romantic or sexual attraction). It's kind of a spectrum.
Demisexual, AFAIK, is when people only develop a sexual attraction when they get to know someone. Asexual is when someone doesn't experience sexual attraction, though they may experience romantic attraction. Aromantic is the opposite. Of course, asexual and aromantic are not mutually exclusive, and it's possible to be both.
If you are attracted to people, or desire sex, then you are not asexual. Simple.