Rejected and don't know why

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This may sound like a silly worry, but I can't shake it off. It is romantic rejection. I don't really get rejected these days, but that's because I have no confidence left to confess anything to anyone. When I was younger I used to tell people I had a crush on them all the time with all the confidence in the world, but I got turned down nearly every time. I could justify the rejection by expressing the fact that I may have said something too soon or sexuality could have been standing in the way. (I'm a lesbian) But it still gets to me regardless. I'm always worrying about it and it's silly. I guess I just don't understand why it's happened so much. Especially since I look back at who has rejected me and I get frustrated when I realize that they weren't anything special. (I know that sounds harsh) Anyway, I'm just looking for some reassurance, some advice and wondering if anyone out there relates to this. I'm going to post a link to my blog, so I guess that will give you a wider picture on who I am (I'm not going to waste time by talking myself up or down, I'll let you decide) I'll also post a link to photos of me, again just for a bigger picture. I'm going out of my mind worrying about something so minuscule. I hate having a big rejection list and would love to hear your thoughts. Thanks :-)

Me: http://elphaba-night-rain.tumblr.com/tagged/Pictures%20of%20me%20:)

Blog: http://elphaba-night-rain.tumblr.com/

Just bad luck/timing	14
I relate/have had similar experiences	12
I think you're cursed :-(	6
I don't understand	6
Why does it matter if it's the past and doesn't happen anymore?	10

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Anime7

11 years ago

You are very beautiful.

Everybody gets rejected, but you shouldn't let it get to you. It just means that they missed out on getting to know a great person.

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  11 years ago
  
  Thank you!
  
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bananaface

11 years ago

Aww, I think you're pretty:)

I know a lot of great people who get rejected, for reasons I don't understand. Just don't let it effect you too much.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thank you. :-)
  I guess it wouldn't effect me if it only happened a small few times, but it's happened heaps. I don't know anyone who's been rejected as much as me. :-(
  
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jellokatt

11 years ago

awww!!! you're an adorable little baby bat!

i think it's probably the confidence thing (assuming the girls you were confessing your crush to were actually into other girls). sweetie, you are super-cute and seem like a pretty cool person from what i've read. just know that you are awesome, and be happy with yourself.

don't look to others for validation - it never works (and if you DO end up in a relationship in that mindset, it is usually a miserable one). go find some other goths to chill with, and just enjoy life. the right person will probably come along when you least expect it.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thank you very much! <3
  
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Corleone

11 years ago

Judging by the information you gave me, I think you come on to strong. How long are you generally dating someone before you confess your crush?

Also, if you're a lesbian, it's normal you get rejected a lot. Make sure the girl you're after is a lesbian as well, otherwise you're bound to get rejected.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  I agree with you. :-)
  I used to just tell people I liked them right away, I basically gave myself the rejection.
  I guess I was just learning the rules of the game and shouldn't let it play on my mind, but for some reason it does. >_< Pathetic.
  
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Lonely2

8 years ago

gettin rejected a lot can fuck up your head...I know..because I literally can no longer ask a girl out...even when i think i can i cant...but because you are lesbian you have a smaller option list

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Justsomejerk

11 years ago

I didn't masturbate while looking at your tumblr.

No really.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  :-( -Confused by what you mean-
  
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  - Justsomejerk
    
    11 years ago
    
    I'm not a lesbian, but if I was I would have flicked my bean clean off.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      Haha, flattering ;P
      
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Aleks85

11 years ago

Too bad you're a lesbian. Goth chicks are hot. But I'm sure that look/lifestyle doesn't appeal to everyone.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  I didn't realize I was a goth chick :O ;)
  
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  - Aleks85
    
    11 years ago
    
    Well, your pictures are dark and mysterious, so if I had to guess...
    
    In any case you are a very lovely young girl.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      :3 Thank you! You're lovely too!
      
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ItDuzn't

11 years ago

You're a woman. That's why.

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- Justsomejerk
  
  11 years ago
  
  Very clever.
  
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Boo!

11 years ago

Maybe the people you told were all straight.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Possibly o.o
  
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  - Boo!
    
    11 years ago
    
    Yepp, so dont be sad about it. Move on and another door shall open. Cheer up.
    
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