Reverse consent iin? did i do wrong to fuck her?

Yeah. You did a bad thing. Only from what little info you gave, I think you were wrong. You aren’t an awful person, but I think you could’ve handled it better.

She may be dealing with differing ideals right now, or may even have some mental issues that she needs to sort out, and was hoping you would help be her rock to stabilize her.
You didn’t.

It’s like if your friend tells you to not let them drink too much. You go out, they have a good time, they want to keep drinking, you say “nah, you told me not to let you do that”

She might know she has “moments of weakness” and was hoping you’d be a good enough man to help her achieve her goals. Again. You didn’t. She knows she can’t trust you now, that’s why she poofed.
Boooooo.

Did you even ask her if she was absolutely sure she wanted to have sex, and remind her that she didn't want to have sex before? Or try to talk to her about it to convince her that there's nothing wrong with sex?

One interpretation of this scenario is that you were just hoping she'd give in to temptation for long enough to have sex with you, and then if she deeply regrets it afterwards then too bad. You got what you wanted, who cares about her feelings. I don't think you are that horrible though or you wouldn't even be asking this question. But you did decide to risk her regretting it for your own pleasure, which means you were a little selfish. Maybe you thought it'd be a pretty safe risk, and that she'd also be happier herself after it, so it wasn't really that bad at all. But even so, in principle it wasn't the most righteous thing you could've done.

Sounds like a ridiculous fantasy of how you were irresistible to the girl who wanted to save herself, but just couldn't contain herself and had to have you.

The more likely scenario is you were making out, feeling her up, she resisted a little but you pushed and pushed her till she gave in. She didn't outright object, but feels like shit now, and is ghosting you because she feels borderline date raped.

Why do you even ask questions dnm? Youre just gonna get roidy at anyone who doesnt say what you want to hear.

Why would one search her own name? You're not only obsessed with me but also a narcissist?

You ask if what you did was wrong, almost everyone here is telling you that it was wrong, and you still try to defend your actions? I'm sorry what? You literally asked people to judge you, yet you're getting mad at people for judging you. How does that make any sense?

She simply changed her mind.

Girls are weird with shit like this. They say one thing but mean another. Why she ghosting you? Maybe there is another guy on vacation, maybe you were a bad root or maybe she is on vacation so she wants to enjoy her vacation and not sit by her phone.

Many women are highly conflicted about sex. They grow up getting all sorts of messages - subtle and blatant - about how "good girls" don't have sex and "save" themselves for Mr Perfect who can give them a happy-ever-after. But the fact is that women are just as much sexual beings as men, and the vast majority of people are wired to want sex.

It seems to me that whether or not you should feel guilty depends on what happened in the run-up to you two having sex. If she basically took the lead and pushed things in the direction of sex all the way, then you have nothing to feel bad about. If you took advantage of what she'd said earlier, set up the situation and nudged things along, then maybe you should feel at least a teensy bit ashamed. But you say she gave clear consent when the crunch moment came, so I don't think you should feel a huge amount of guilt.

How she reacted afterwards is consistent with her earlier text. What she said then suggests that she's an emotionally immature person who has problems accepting responsibility for her own actions, and she tends to blame others for the things she does. In this case, I suspect she feels guilty about having sex for whatever reasons, and rather than owning that and dealing with it, she's deflected all the blame for her feelings on to you. If she truly didn't want to have sex with you and if she understood herself well enough to know that things just might go that way sooner or later, she should have decided not to spend time with you in situations where it could happen.

KholatKult says this situation is like a friend telling you not to let them drink too much when you go out. People who have problems dealing with drink or drugs are responsible for their own actions, and it's illogical and immature to blame others if they succumb to temptation. If an alcoholic is going through a difficult phase in his life and he agrees to go to a bar with some hard-drinking friends, it's not their fault if he starts drinking; he's set himself up for the fall and he needs to take responsibility for that decision.

This woman doesn't seem to understand what she really wants and needs. She may figure that out at some point, but for now, I think you're better off without her in your life.

Stop following me. Am I obsessing you this much?

Is what normal?
That she asked you to promise?
That you refused?
That you fucked?
OR
That she ghosted you?

If you'd made the promise not to then I think you would have done something really bad, but you didn't make that promise. Perhaps you shouldn't have done what you did, but you got consent, man.

If you were a super good guy then you wouldn't have stuck your dick in, but your word is still true. She needs to learn some self-restraint and willpower if it meant that much to her. Dude, this isn't a free guilt card, because you didn't have to be "the guy", to do it. But if she couldn't resist after it supposedly meant that much to her then you're either Romeo reborn or she quite clearly didn't have it in her to actually play out the fantasy she previously wanted.

You should of told her tommorow. Give her a week and if she still wants to then you'll fuvk her brains out. Mans it entirely her choucs with time to fully think it through

Ps, I would have done what you did, I would have fucked her.