Scared about going out out!?

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I'm 22 and I always remember being scared about going clubbing everyone my age was doing it but I never had, for a start I never really had friends to go with, and my anxiety was too much to handle, I'm a shy timid girl and I thought it was something I could never face.
but my cousin asked me out and usually turning around and saying no I accepted sure I was nervous as hell but my mind pushed me on, since then I've been out with her about 10 times in the past 9 months , I enjoy it but I'm still always nervous before hand, her friends are always there and I never know what to say, I never stay out as late as them as I hve work at half 5 the next morning.

we are going out tonight, 2 people I haven't met and I'm worried and overthinking and it'll be packed with it being Easter. I've nearly talked myself out of it but I'm trying to handle my feelings.
any ideas what to say as my social skills are none, and is it normal to feel this way?

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  • yourdeepestshame8
    8 years ago

    Never take your eyes off your drink.

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  • joedoe
    8 years ago

    Do you actually have bad social skills? Or do you just judge yourself harshly?

    Id say it's normal for people with anxiety to feel that way and a lot of people have anxiety. My advice when nervous is to just confront itz face it and ask yourself deep and sepexific questions like "what about this is making me nervous" etc. Like example answer "making a bad imprssion in front of Jamie"... Dig deeper and realize no matter how you act you can't make everyone like you. So all you can do is be you. Because if you act like you, the people who like you will like YOU. And that's what you want out of relationships.

    If you want to have things to say, read the newspaper and you'll be able to talk about the world better than 95% of people. In an interesting and relevant way. Most people have nothing to talk about but their work, or personal lives.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Thanks for the reply, that's what I needed.
      I think I have both, bad social skills because I get so nervous and overthink and I'm scared to say something silly.
      my self consists of being quiet, I hate speaking up unless I know it's something I can talk about.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        You know what? You are just fine. Fuck everybody else if they don't like you as you are. Go out and RELAX. Have fun. Have a few drinks and RELAX.

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