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Since I was 11 I have been self harming, and I can't stop, it's not like I do it all the time but it does help when I'm sad. I feel better after, I am weird?? I don't want to go on any medication, that will probably make me worse, what do I do?? I'm stuck in this loop, of cutting from time to time and I can't stop.
I used to do this too but haven't in a long time ..
I hated it when people told me to use mindfulness (sort of accepting that you feel sad, but knowing that the sadness will pass and just waiting it out) it does take a long time to learn but really does help ..
Other stuff to try could be the rubber band around the wrist, drawing on your arms in red pen, headphones on full, going outside for fresh air ..
You should try to stop before you start relying on it :)
I voted you up but some moron had voted you down: your post is very thoughtful and I hope OP takes notice of it
Watch onision videos on self harm.
Cutting is extremely stupid and you're old enough to know this
If you can't control yourself now you need to be in a supervised environment until you can
It's not about OP being "stupid" and you are yourself both stupid and insensitive to use such a term to someone who's obviously very troubled.
I did not say OP was stupid, unlike yourself I would never call a person this and have no reason to believe OP is.
I said cutting is stupid which it is.
I offered practical advice to OP, all you did was respond to other people in the comments.
Assault is assault, it doesn't matter if its coming from somebody else or yourself.
OP needs to be protected from the person cutting their body which in this case is OP.
That takes firm words, I have no doubt hearing "oh poor baby" will do nothing the next time they feel the urge to do it again.
Ive had self destructive addictions myself and my friends told me I needed to fucking stop plain and simple, and take the steps to prevent relapse. I love them and am blessed to have people who do this.
OP needs to be admitted to a supervised institution until they can be responsible to no longer damage their body.
I am a grown woman with a beautiful, sweet child. Stay at home mom living in a wealthy neighborhood with a successful fiance. I drive a nice car. I carry a designer diaper bag, wear contour, and I dress like a normal responsible looking adult. I look like a respectable member of society. I smile and laugh a lot.
I also cut the shit out of my left arm to get through hard days. No one but my fiance knows or would ever suspect. I think it is pretty normal, but it is definitely not healthy.
self harm is a common outlet for suicidal and depressed people, so yes, in a way, it's normal. however, you should really try to stop normalizing it. it shouldn't become the norm for you. seek some help. i hear going to a therapist is really helpful! reach out to your friends and loved ones, they really do care.
a tip: everytime u want to self harm, try drawing something on that place instead. it's calming. and remember, seek help. you cant do this on your own.
I do it too. It distracts me from pain and gives me a feeling similar to being drunk. It's not normal for the majority of society, but to a lot of people it is. Just becareful not to cut too deep. I did once and bled for 20 minutes straight and got blood everywhere. Also try to hide the cuts if your family doesn't know already. Mine know ive been doing it for years, but I wish they would've not foun out as early as they did.
You shouldn’t worry about anything at that age you should be playing out with your friends enjoying life there not enough time in a persons life to do everything do what you can before it’s over
An alternative to cutting that doesn't leave visible scars is to heat up utensils with a lighter and use them on small mammals.
it’s normal in sense that a lot of people feel the same feelings you do when they self harm. hell, i used to but i am nearly 5 years clean. i was like this from grade 7- about 1 year after i graduated high school. and i can’t stress enough how important it is to get help. i regret self harming so so much. the scars and shame i feel for doing that to my body. it’s really embarrassing to me for people to notice them. i went on medication and while some do make it worse, you might find one that makes it SO much better. that’s what happened with me. and if a medication is making it worse, you can go back to your doctor immediately and try something else. medication is sometimes trial and error. your doctor may also recommend therapy which can also be extremely effective in your recovery and isn’t as scary or weird as it seems. and again, if you aren’t really liking your therapist, you can’t try another! YOU are in charge of your recovery. and let me tell you, it is so so so worth it. being happy is so much better, and it is in reach for you too. it’s possible. but probably not on your own. i really hope you choose to get better and seek help. because i was there and i’m glad i’m not anymore.
Stay strong! Ik its hard and i understand it will be hard trying to talk to someone, but try get yourself into a routine.Throw away anything you use to harm yourself also. When u wake up on a morning, why not get some fresh air…take your dog ( if you have one ) for a walk. :)
medication will not make you worse. tell your doctor so they can prescribe something. trust me, you’ll wish you started it earlier