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Im 24 yr old female, is it normal to think that sex before marriage is a sin?!? Is it normal to save myself for my future husband?
100%% normal, if anything you should be proud of yourself for not giving in to what seems to be the standard nowadays.
No one but yourself and you beliefs should govern your choices for waiting. =]
Ok look here's the deal. Good for you, I stand up an applaud you for being a virtuous person. Thats hard to come by these days. Relationships are not about sex. Yes sex is a very intimate and beautiful part of a serious relationship, but it must not be a defining factor in it. Bottom line, if you are in love with someone your gonna think they are great in everything they do, including sex. Its unconditional love that stands the test of time. And when you and your husband finally become intimate it is going to bring you even closer.
Don't listen to these hoochies that condemn religion to excuse their frequent trips to the free clinic. You cant turn a hoe into a housewife. Trust me coming from a guy.. there are girls you bang and girls you marry. Which one do you want to be? You must ask yourself. People are freakin nasty and crazy these days.. and try to corrupt those who are not. So yes is is normal as it should be. Good for you. You will live a healthy and disease free life full of love and no unplanned pregnancies.
It is no big deal one way or the other and up to you. But I do challenge you on the "sin" part: I mean come on, do you really believe that God cares and would be offended by premarital sex?
You will have a MUCH better, happier, more intimate marriage if you wait until after marriage to have sex.
of course.. u should be committed to ur partner in marriage.. i hate the hit it then quit it mentality that alot of people have assumed these days..
Most people on this thread did not respond to the actual question. Strictly speaking, premarital sex is a sin. If you're religious, it is absolutely looked down upon. I honestly think it is a decision to make for yourself, don't let your religious beliefs or your hormones decide for you. It's somethat takes careful consideration and you need to be confident in your choice. Good luck!
If you are a Christian then yes, it is a sin in the eyes of the church. You dodn't ask if it was wrong, only if it was "sin". Plenty of scriptures backing up that rule.
The only reason you believe this is because you have had it drummed into you by religious advocates, most probably your parents. My mother was a fundamentalist Christian, so I'm quite familiar with this.
Step back, for a moment, and think about what is being asked of you. In marrying someone, you are asked to make a life-long commitment--'till death do us part. At the same time, you are prohibited from engaging in the single most important mutual activity the marriage will entail, with your chosen partner, until that commitment is made. Moreover, you are asked not to engage in such activity with any other men.
In other words, you are asked to make the most important decision of your life, while simultaneously being deprived of information that is critical to that decision: (1) How good is your man in bed? (2) How does he compare to other men? (3) And most importantly, what does sex actually feel like, and how important is to your life? You cannot judge its importance without actually experiencing it.
The only reason religion can get away with imposing such an outrageous condition is by denigrating and belittling sex. Christianity, for example, regards sex as being dirty, filthy, low, unclean, "of the flesh." It views the purpose of sex as solely for procreation; and any associated pleasure as unimportant, at best. It regards sex for the sole purpose of pleasure as immoral, and by extension, sex outside of marriage as immoral.
Now, ask yourself, why would an act that is completely natural in the animal kingdom, and by extension, completely natural among human beings--such act causing no harm to oneself or to others--be condemned as immoral?
The religious advocates, of course, present a complex labyrinth of "arguments," but these fail the tests of logic, and the whole body of beliefs ultimately boils down to nothing more than "faith"--belief in something, in the absence of evidence.
To this I reply: Why should anyone make the most important decision of her life, purposefully depriving herself of information that is critical to that decision, for reasons that ultimately boil down to nothing more than "faith." Would you fly in an aeroplane, piloted by a man who lacked verifiable aeronautical skills, but who had "faith" that he could fly?
i so agree, marriage is a huge step, and how will you know wether that person is "the one" unless you know all there is to know about them. I think divorce is a sin, so when i get married i want to be 100% certain.
I agree & it's not at all normal. "Saving yourself" is like buying vanilla-cherry-red-ant ice cream. It might be good, but wouldn't it be better to taste it first?
personally, i dont think its a sin.
but then again, i dont find taking two cookie samples at lowblaws a sin either.
personally, i think you should just have sex when you feel ready and when youre with someone you trust. dont hold back if you really dont want to- this might lead you into marrying someone just to suduce them! how sick/sinful is that!
also, having sex with someone makes you feel really close to your partner, and afterwards you could see them in a whole new way. what if you dont like it?
and then, of course...
what if they suck? all that time spent waiting... wasted! what a sin! (hahahahahaha)
well you can't let "human sense" overtake the word of God. The whole point is to make sure sex does not get in the way. You need to be with someone for who they are and learn to love them whether they are good in bed or not. Some great people may not be very good at sex, but they deserve to be with someone regardless of their performance. If you marry someone for the sex, what happens when the sex is gone even if it takes till 50 or later. It's about the person and not how good they are in bed.
Holy F#@% its really a sin !?! Oh well I won't be the only one going 2 hell for that... hope to run into all of you there :)
Having sexual urges is normal. Sin is just a word created by religion to inflict fear in you. According to religion, we are born into sin so we instantly have this burden put on us. Religion is a disease that tries to control our lives. Have sex and stay away from religion and you'll have a good life.
Sex before marriage isn't a moral sin. it depends if thats part of your religion or not. for example, the Catholic Church teaches that sex before marriage is a sin because that expressed love is infatuation and not committed pure love. I am Catholic and i've had sex with my boyfriend a number of times. but i waited until i was truly comfortable with him and really loved him. We have been together for 3 years now and talk about getting married. I don't believe our physically expressed love is a sin, because i love him more than anything and i know our connection isn't based on infatuation.
yes u should save yourself for your future husband and i think in the bible not sure wich chapter it says sex before marrige is a sin
I will have to say it is not right to have sex before marriage. Dating yes, sex no. Marriage is a two way street and should be taken seriouslly by both parties. I would like ask you to go to MORMON.ORG This is a website by THE CHURCH OF JESUS CHRIST OF LATTER-DAY SAINTS. There is a part in there that talks about marriage. worth viewing. Plus it has other good topics as well.It is worth looking at. So please take the time.
You can run into very serious problems if you do the wrong thing. Your life should be a HOUSE OF ORDER - NOT A HOUSE OF CONFUSION. Think about it. Just don't climb into bed with the first guy you come in contact with. You wouldn't buy a house without checking it out first Would you? If you like what you see on this website, then you can sent for more info if you wish to, its free.
Love has nothing to do with sex.
But sex does have something to do with total compatibility.
Say you remain a virgin.
get married.
you like sex and want more hes a small dick low sex drive man.
you drop two kids.
he divorces you after 5 years because he found out he was gay.
You hit the singles scene and fianally find out what good sex is like.
Now, how did " saving yourself " matter, or benefit anyone?
I believe that originally, no sex before marriage was more appropriate b4 birth control was available. You don't want to conceive a child b4 marriage, right?
Although full fledged promiscuity isn't necessarily wise either, right? Well, I think that, at least for me personally, I believe that it's appropriate to equate sex and love, so don't have sex with somebody w/o love.
It really up to you.
If you want to "save" yourself for your husband keep in mind that he has probably fucked half a dozern people before you.
But really it is all up to you.
It IS a sin. Don't think that's it's not just because the majority of people who sleep around everywhere say it isn't.
Hosestly i don't think it's neccessary to wait till your married, i just think you need to wait until you fall in love with the right person, because marriage is a big step and in my opinion you need to be absoulutely certain that person is the one, and how will you know unless you know everything there is to know about him or her =)
Wait, why is the percentage so low? A girl that doesn't want to take part in promiscuous behavior is not normal nowadays? What has come to this world ?
Okay, I'm Christian and I'm going to save myself not because it came out of a book or it's what someone told me to do, it's because is what Jesus wants me to do and he has a purpose for that and personally I wouldn't want it any other way. It's very much up to you in what you want to do, but remember that it's a very delicate situation and instead of thinking about what you in you marriage, try thinking about what your future husband will think. It's not uncommon for men to save themselves too. But make sure that ultimately it's YOU that has to be comfortable with YOU. remember that if you do save yourself youmust be very open with your partner, communication is one of the most important traits in a relationship. You'll make the right decision in the end but make sure it's the one YOU'RE comfortable with.
with a religious upbringing its normal, just not practical in real life. I believe you should care about the person you with, you don't need to be a slut, but sex is a vital part of a relationship and sexual incompatibilities have destroyed many. How do you know if you are sexually compatible, what if he wants sex 2 times a day and you want it 1 time a month. Waiting to find these questions out after you are married tends to lead to divorce.
everytime sex is brought up , it is painted as a sin by people who hold religion up as mirror to everyone else but themselves. sex is a biological need, which we have tamed and use recreationally.
now here's the kicker,
Do whatever you want to do as long as it doesn't hurt or take advantage of anyone else. If you and another adult want to have sex, do it. don't be barked at by some Christian who reads into abstract moral messages in a literal way and is secretly busting one out in the bathroom thinking about something they preach against.
Just be the best person you can be and as the beatles said,
in the end The love you take is equal to the love you make
it's normal to think like you do. i don't think it's sinful, i just think it's best to save it until marriage, or at least until you find someone you care about.
thats true. i mostly think of it as a wast to do it b4 marriage to. why the hell would u want someone thats had sex with someone else imo
Yeah, this is normal. Even though, I have been having sex since I was 15, but I believe everyone has a right to their own opinion. So, if it's what you believe in it's okay.
Honestly: I believe saving yourself for marriage is not a bad thing. Personally I believe in waiting for "the right moment". I'm 21 and a virgin, because I don't want to rush into anything. I'm not waiting until I get married, I'm just especting for when the timing is right. If you think your wedding night is that time then do as you please.
But do it for yourself, because you decide it, not because some guy in Italy whose never had sex tells you that's what you have to do.
no nt at all.... pre marriage is ur lyf.. live it da way u wana lead...
I'm not into the dogma of religion and judging every behavior sply because it's considered a sin. So, maybe what I have to say is of no interest. Practically speaking, I think that sex is aMUST before marriage. You delve deeper into each others personalities and may find you are not cpatable (which many say divorce is a sin). So, you sin every which way you go...lose either way. Whatever the case, sex bfr or aftr marriage, you can always invite God into the relationship. Aftersll, isn't that part of the deal?
Thank you for all the comments. I learned a lot...hmmm i still want to save myself for my future husband but now i can fully understand that sex before marriage is NOT a sin.
i dont think sex is a sin, but its completely normal to think so, i agree with WayOutThere, i also suggest you think about a lot of society's taboos from your own perspective and with logic, when you do that, you realize that when you put logic up against society's rules, logic seems to win most of the time
Actually, I think these days that there's an unwritten rule that most people think it's a sin to have sex AFTER marriage! Ok, not really a sin, but it's apparently all too common for the quality and frequency of sex to get worse after marriage, for whatever reasons.
In my screwed up environment, boys as young as 7 will try to actively rape their little baby sisters, and girls as young as 12 will rape their babysitters in their sleep, so I didn't even think people like yourself still existed these days. You should be proud of yourself and your strong values, but I don't think you have anything to worry about. "Sin" is more of an individual opinion.
How do you feel about it? Go with what feels right to you, but remember that these days, if the man isn't getting any, there's not too much of a chance of ever making it to marriage in the first place.