Should i be mad at my best friend for dating my ex?

If you just broke up with them a few weeks ago, it's not friendly.
If it's been months/years, you should be over him by then, so who cares.

after a breakup, your friend is supposed to be there to support you, not pick your ex up on the rebound because he's finally single.
If a friend wants to date the ex, it is always going to be a difficult situation.
I know because this happened to me. It hurt so bad to watch someone who I thought was my best friend hanging all over my first love (my ex). I told her that since I still had feelings for him, her behavior hurt my feelings. But she had her eye on him for some time so she didn't mind betraying me and going after him.

They completely ganged up on me and tried to convince me that the breakup was my fault and that I was a horrible person, and how they were so deeply and madly in love. Basically they made my freshman year of high school a living hell.

After they broke up, I found out that he just wanted her as a rebound girlfriend because he couldn't handle being single...

this girl doesnt seem like a very true friend if she'd rather date your ex than help you through a hard time, and I'm not sure what to say other than don't try to break them up. They're a mess and they'll probably do anything to make you feel bad and prove to you that it's ok for them to be dating.

Please, just back out of the situation, those two are BAD NEWS.

shes evil -_-

Your Ex is fair game, you do not own that person nor do you own your their emotions. This should not be him or me deal and you have no right to say who can date who. Since your Ex was once your friend you can think of it as your friends are dating each other not your friend and an Ex. You'll have more dates so whats the big deal? It's almost like you want to sabotage the chance of others finding potential happiness and love because you're miserable seeing what you once had. If you were a true friend you wouldn't be so selfish

if you're not dating her, then what the hell.

Yip she's now fair game. sorry mate, if you still feel strongly about her why not try to win her back. just a thought.

@ Pink Pggy- Maybe he just TOLD you he thought she was ugly and fat as to suppress your suspicions.

Anyways, Yeah- that is a relational transgression. I left an abusive relationship of four years and my childhood friends ditched me and still hang out with the fat fucking bastard.

This is why I would rather not have friends. Apparently my standards are too high when I say "dont date my ex's, and don't stop being my friend for no reason".

I don't think it's ever okay and all of my best friends agree with me.

What if your ex is the one and only for your best friend? Would you be the one to keep your friend from being with the love of his/her life? Would you be able to live with yourself, knowing that your best friend could be the happiest boy/girl ever?

It depends on how serious your relationship was with him. If it wasn't so much, then no. But if it really was, then for sure! Also, I would be mad because she should have asked you if you're okay with it first.That's always the first thing to do. It also depends on how close a friend she was to you! Was she close? Then yes. Not very? Then no. It just depends.

thats fuck'd up......lol, he/she is not your best friend

Best friends are not going to date other's best friend ex'es.

Get a grip, woman, the guy is your ex. It is no longer any of your business whom he decides to date. And frankly, you can't expect your best friend chuck him just for you. She is also pursuing her own happiness and you can't stop her from doing just that.

I just love that only 1 of the options there is a no, which means the writer is extremely biased towards a yes.

I agree with TheGuruOfTheSauce. (second reply)
Word for word.

He is your ex for a reason. Whoever he goes out with after breaking up with you is none of your business.

It depends how long.
If it's been only a week or two since the break up, then your friend is being somewhat of a bitch.
If it's been a month or two since, I say it's fine. By that time you should be over it anyways.

Just depends on why you guys broke up.
If it was on good terms then sure!
If you guys broke up because He/She was being an ass then no.

Honestly, if that were me, I wouldent care. She is my ex, why should I care?

To quote one of the great poets of our time, if you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it.

Okay I actually think that, don't be confused by the shit I dress my opinions up in. You broke up with them, they're not your problem anymore.

It's a problem if they start talking about your genitals behind your back or something, though. watch for that.

It's ok to be mad, especially if you still have feelings for the guy.
But you have to understand that you and your friend obviously have similar likes, or you probably wouldn't be friends, so liking the same guy can easily happen.

No you shouldn't be mad, unless they did it intentionally. I think you would be the faggot, if you get mad.

ummm... the obvious answer is yeah~! you shouldn't even be her friend if she abuses you like that! what kind of friend is she?!?!

If you consented to it, then yeah it's ok. But if she starting dating him out of nowhere, then obviously she doesn't have your best interest.

Shes not a true friend at all.

I understand what you are all saying thanks a lot for helping me.. But it's weird because when me and my ex were talkin before (when we were dating) he said that he hates my best friend and thinks she's ugly. Then a couple weeks after we broke up and they started dating my ex said haha look we are so in love and I hate her (me) and then they kissed right jn front of me so
I really don't think I should be her friend and yellowchalk

my best friend really likes my ex, even though she knows he treated me horribly and broke my heart, she even kissed him last week. what she doesnt know is that he thinks shes ugly and fat and only leads her on to get rides because the lazy piece of shit doesnt have his own car.... i tried to warn her but she doesnt want to hear it. whatever, shell figure it out soon enough.

i would put posion in my friends soda if she ever dated my X ... i would seriously try and murder her and she would seriously deserve it.

HELLYEA!

He is your ex. It is no longer any of your business whom he decides to date. And you can't expect your best friend chuck him just for you. She is also pursuing her own happiness and you can't stop her from doing just that. You dont need to be mad at her, just stay away from her (if you feel weird). just wait and see what will happen between them. They finally married? Ohhh good. They find their happiness. Or they breakup? Its up to you how u feel when they breakup.
And If it's been a month or years , i think it's fine. Your bestfriend is not "betrayed" you. Grow up. Dont ignore the truth that you can't accept. The truth is he is not yours anymore.

unless shes rubbing it in your face its not really any of your business who she is dating.

It depends if you really liked him, and she should have asked you if it was okay with you if she dated him just to make sure she was not hurting your feelings.

is this a girl lesbo we are talking about or a gay guy or is he/she straight and with your fiend he/she isn't a true friend of yours.

there are SO many other chicks out there, did he HAVE to pick your ex? Guaranteed this relationship wont last.

It's different depending on the situation.

Sometimes the person you're best friends with, you're best friends with because they're very much like you. The same thing goes with people you go out with. That means in all likelihood your friends and your ex's will get on well.

The problem is, if posed with the question "Would you rather deny your feelings and stay beside your friend, or risk your friendship to embrace the person you have fallen for?" Most would take the love over the friendship.

Depends on how long you've been broken up for. If they've already consoled you and you're fine, why can't they date them? Of course if you aren't okay with them dating your ex then it's a different story

Isn't that against the bro code??

If she asks first and it's been a few months, it's fine. If she didn't ask, hell yeah!

Go 'head Karma. Tell it like it is!

I would be upset. My mom recently dated a Guy I had hooked up with and I was super into and it was the weirdest thing. It really bothered me and she said I was "jealous". I wasn't jealous it is just sonething you don't do.!!

If one of my friends dated an ex, I would be furious. It's just so awkward and uncool.

i've been on the other side, and it is ugly. i fell in love with my best friends ex boyfriend, who she hadn't been with for a long time and it caused a lot of issues between us, but we got through it and we are as close as ever now.

pass it ON!

"Oh you're dating my ex?Hey,I'm full,you want the rest of my sandwich,too?"

Well after me and him got to know each other (we lived on the same street) she moved across the street from him directly across the street. So then we all became friends.. So 2 years after that me and him dated. And I found out from my so called best friend that he was cheating on me with her. So I was like there I'm done, and I broke up with him. They continued going out until last feb. Then he asked me out again. So we dated for like a month and then I realized why would I go out with some one who cheated on me? So the same day I broke up with him she asks him out! What Kinda "friend" is that!! :(

It depends I guess. like when did u guys break up? is she just a skank and wants to make you jealous? Did she like him secretly maybe before you dated him? Is he really that great to even care? I'm sure it hurts, but what can you do? If your still friends with this girl, then how is she to know its bothering you so much? Or did you confront her. I don't know toots, maybe you should just go find someone better :)

For whom ever wrote your Ex is "fair game"? I question first if that is a female who said that and second if so and most likely if they have done the same thing as you speak of.

Secondly you already know the answer to the question you pose, or you would not be sitting on here tearey eyed and deeply hurt posing it.

There are just things in life that people that were raised right and those with integrity know how to react to and or not react to and how to conduct themselfs.

As a rule and common sense I would and never have dated/slept with or would that of a significant other of a aquaintance or let alone "Friend"! Nor a married man/seperated or involved. Too many people use the word "FRIEND" quite loosely. Also integrity aside, I do not like sloppy seconds. That is also why I am very careful in whom I call a friend, I would rather have one real and true friend than five or ten aquaintances that are and never will be a friend.
I am assuming you told her private details of your realationship? And all along they were attracted to oneanother? Assuming that nothing had occured with them during your relationship?
Regardless, it is common sense that no one would truly be comfortable with that. Like if a clerk gives you too much money back for change? Some would say, well it was his mistake, heck yeah take it! Well there is such a thing as Karma.

I understand completley she really shoudve been theree for me!