Should i date a single mother?

Of course you can date her... and if your decent she will probably be willing to have more kids with you if you want a long term relationship with her.

I have dated divorced, widowed, and unwed Ladies and many had children.

While your 1st couple dates should be private. Then you need to start planning family dates (take her and the kids to the zoo, a park, a museum, and a variety of other things). Show her that you are willing to incorporate her existing kids into a relationship with you. That matters a lot to single moms.

yes date her, we all have done things in our life that has effected who we are and our responsibilities, she has and so have you! so why are you holding this against her, ????? she may be a really nice person, but you will never know if you dont talk to her, go out if it is not right, then done, you never know if you dont

A date’s a date but before you get involved set your boundaries. If you think it might get serious and lead to marriage think carefully about whether you want to be a stepdad. I’m a stepdad and a father and being a stepdad is more complicated.

I can't decide this for you, dude.

I wouldn’t, her little brats will always come first.

I agree with what others have said about the challenges of joining an existing family, with all its history and particular dynamics, and being a step-parent. One thing you'd be really stupid to even try would be to ever deploy the classic, "Because I said so!" line when you wanted a step-kid to do or not do something. Only crap parents do that in any case, but they at least have some authority from having been in the poor kid's life from the start.

Step-families can be a minefield, and there's usually a lot of negotiation and patience required on the part of the new person to make them work. Having said that, I have heard of step-families which have worked out very well, where the children grow up to be adults who are profoundly grateful that they had their step-parent in their lives.

However, if being a father in that sense doesn't seem to you to be a noble aspiration and passing on your genes to the next generation is right up at the top of your must-do list, then I think you need to consider very carefully whether you want to get involved with a woman who already has children. For all you know, the woman may not be able to have any more children due to medical issues or a decision she's made (this isn't really something that often comes up in casual chats with acquaintances). Or, having gone through all the hassles of pregnancy and childbirth and dealing with a baby and toddler twice, she might have decided that it's just not something she's ever going to put herself through again.

It really depends. Its a lot of baggage especially if you dont have kids as well. Also I would meet the kids and see if I can stand them because Ill be a step dad and I need to like them. Also you'll never be able to discipline them the same way if they do wrong because you "arent their REAL dad" so you have to parent a different way. You have to be more of a friend to them than a dictator. Ive seen alot of step dads come in and try to be the man of the household and tell the kids what to do and it failed miserably everytime.

I think the biggest question is will it be an absolute deal breaker if she simply doesn't want more kids and you will never get your own biological ones? That is a possibility. Both my parents dated several other partners long after they had us and went from each other, and they never had more kids with any of them. But regardless just the connection and time you have with each other could be valuable enough in itself that it is worth it, and if you think otherwise you may not like them enough. If your own kids is something you feel you "must have" you should probably seek further for someone who doesn't have but want kids

By now I think my parents have actually found who they want and are gonna spend the rest of their lives with. Its not impossible to bond just because you had some partners before

It's really up to you.

If you like her go for it. Kids or no kids it's about connection and if you fall for her eventually you'll love her kids just as much. Maybe you can still have a kid with her if everything goes well. You don't know the future.