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I'm in an extremely toxic relationship and I can't leave it. Should I man-up and get out of it? I really love this person but they do me more harm than good every time we get back together.
Why can't I just leave them and move on with my life? is it normal to be stuck and not be able to free myself?
Please vote on whether I should leave and let go. Thank you for your time.
| no | 4 | |
| yes | 56 |
Why you are you asking if you should leave and on the other hand saying you can't leave it?
If it's extremely toxic as you say, then of course you should leave it, but you don't tell us why you feel you can't do that.
I'm very attached, sorry I didnt mention but Im still in love although he hurts me. Its like an addiction.
If you feel you're in love with someone who hurts you, please get some therapy or call a family violence hotline, because that is not healthy.
I'd love to do that but it's just psychological harm, never physical. I know I should leave but I feel so attached that I just can't. I don't know what to do anymore.
Thank you all for the 25 yes votes. Now part of me wants to know why the 1 voted against me leaving...
The person/people voting against you leaving are likely coming from the type of person you're trying to leave. Controlling, emotionally abusive narcissists stick together.
You can do it. You can cut him out of your life forever and move on.
Leave it, and don't think twice about it. Leave and never look back, it'll be best for you.
Might I also add that you'll stop finding him attractive if you make your mind up and stay away for long enough, I've seen it happen multiple times.
In cases like this you have to try hard to put the feelings of love aside and leave this person. If they're truly toxic, it's only going to wind up making you feel dead inside. Don't wait around for that to happen.
Don't leave, talk to your partner and work things out. Communication is key to solving problems. You can do it! gl :)
In the same situation, stuck in an abusive relationship because I signed a lease with my boyfriend I cant get out of. Maybe we can find the courage to leave together
Every single toxic relationship should be cut ties with as soon as possible and the abuser in the relationship should be dealt with by a legal team swiftly.
My honest opinion is yes. But I didn’t put a vote out, because this isn’t a site you should use to seek relationship advice. I don’t want that to influence your decision, it’s your life and you know what’s best for you - not us!
I keep believing it will all go back to what it was in the first few months. And it never happens, of course.
Go to YouTube, and look up a guy called Richard Grannon, he has a lot of good videos on narcissistic abuse.
Break up with the person, and start learning about narcissistic abuse! Seriously, google narcissistic abuse. Also go no contact. Block the person from all media and your phone as well. Move if you have to do so, and or take out a restraining order against this awful abusive person!
Find a good therapist, and a support group with whom you can meet as well.
I will google it, thank you. He really is awful and I think I just stay out of habit. It's so hard for me to leave anyone I have a relationship with because I rarely let anyone in. It's even harder to let go if it was extremely good in the beginning.
Everyone is on their best behavior in the beginning. The beginning for a narcissistic abuser is the time to love bomb you, and get you hooked. The abuser is counting on you being hooked, and wanting the good ole days back when his mask comes off.
When the mask comes off that is the real person, the one you knew in the beginning who was on his best behavior was just an act.