Should i tell my mother i’m autistic?

She will not accept this as truth unless you get a proper diagnosis, no matter how sure you are. Even then, she might not accept it.

It sounds to me like it’s a bad idea and will only lead to her being nasty to you. You are not obligated to have a close relationship with your mother or tell her personal details of your life if you can’t trust her to respond in a respectful manner.

If you really want her to believe you, maybe you should get professionally tested? I dunno. Its hard to go by self assessments alone. I could sit here all day and say I have a sensory disorder, but until I get tested, that really means nothing

*Rolls eyes

I always think its best to be transparent with your parents but in this case it seems like you already know how this will turn out.

Some parents just don't want to admit that their child has problems and instead of getting them the help they need they just deny it and ignore it. The important thing is you know. You know and now that you're an adult you'll be able to help yourself and surround yourself with communities that will help you through. wish you the best.

What are these other co-ocurring mental disorders that you claim to have? Are these other disorders self diagnosed as well, or were you diagnosed by a mental health professional? You don't have to answer my questions of course, but this place is anonymous, and I'm kinda curious.

I'm sorry that you mother came from a family, or environment where mental illness was highly stigmatized. I think you need to detach from your need to gain your mother's approval, and acceptance with regard to these sort of things.

If I wanted to start shit with my mother right now I could literally walk next door, start a conversation about my crazy, abusive ex, and sure enough she would say some bullshit about how she thinks he was this wonderful person. I'm just choosing not to engage her, because I don't need to be in agreement with her in order to know I'm right about the ordeal I had to live through. She'll just gaslight me, and invalidate me, so there's no point in engaging with her. She'll never truly understand. Besides she's a bit of a narcissist herself as well.

It sounds like your mother has been indoctrinated in what to believe, which is hard to overcome because she'll have to make the rationalization herself, not be told

It might be stretching the truth, but you have talked to a therapist; you could say it's a professional's assessment of your psyche

I would think she would dismiss that too. It would be kinda funny, she would ask how they would know. I wonder if she thinks she's the only one who can trust their judgement

I'd just leave it, dude, unless there's a reason to bring it up

I am always wary of self diagnosed mental disorders. You are not an objective observer. ASD is not black and white, as the label suggests. I have friends on the spectrum and they aren't any more or less weird then the rest of us. Some just get more anxiety over it. We label too much. We all are having identity crises and can't cope because everything in our environment is overstimulating us. The reality is that we are all on the spectrum, some just swing wider faster and harder.

As for your mother, she knows. She may not be willing to place a label on you, but she will know.

But don't you know Autism is normal?

I know I have said this many times I have it myself and people say that kinds is normal.

But if she dismisses it then there can be a problem. Because believe me autistics can see things differently.