Should trans people disclose they're trans on their dating profile?

I personally don't find trans people attractive because I am only attracted to biological males but when I was on a date with someone from an app, it turned out they were trans and I had to sit through the dinner trying to figure out what to say.

I knew right away because their voice was not a real male's voice and they had very female features. I finally asked them after dinner and they said they were born female but are trans male, I asked why they didn't tell me or put it in their profile and they said because they're male but I don't agree. Trans is not male, it's trans and I wasted my time on someone.

What do you think?

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  • olderdude-xx

    If its a dating site, then it should be on a dating profile.

    If its a social contact site (where the key reason for contact is interest and friendship), then there is no reason to list it.

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  • JellyBeanBandit

    I would consider him as male, just specifically trans male, but yeah I do think they should disclose that on their profile. You don't need to be transphobic to not want to date a trans person. And so, regardless of whether they are transphobic or not, they'd just be wasting that person's (and their own) time if they don't mention it.

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    Yeah I think it should be disclosed. If a person leaves that out of their profile and then drops it a date or two later I'm going to be suspicious and wonder what else they're hiding. To me it's on the same level as the people I met with who hid the fact that they're a hard drug addict or have several kids with several people. I wasted my time and money opening my heart to baggage ridden balls of bullshit and I'm not going to go that route anymore. XD

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  • litelander8

    I don’t think it should be on their profile Bc of safety reasons. But it should definitely be early in the conversation before meeting. Also for safety reasons. Lol

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  • LloydAsher

    Yes. I hate to see on a dating website in the female section being clogged with dudes.

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  • profanity

    Yes they absolutely should, so people can avoid them entirely.

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  • bbrown95

    I believe so, or at least that it should be mentioned privately when they start talking to someone. Naturally, there are people who are not attracted to trans people and don't want to date them. Also, really, is someone you can't be open to about who you are (and they will find out eventually, most likely sooner rather than later) really relationship material? Putting that information out in the open (or at least being upfront about to any potential dates) weeds out plenty of incompatible people.

    Not to mention that trans people have unfortunately been killed from withholding this information about themselves to their dates. I think it would be generally safer for them to disclose that they are trans ahead of time. Even if they don't feel comfortable putting it on their profile, I think they should let anyone they start talking to know right away.

    It's really a shame that it's a potential safety issue for them to publicly disclose that they're trans, or to withhold it until later. Seems like they're damned if they do, and damned if they don't.

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  • Vvaas

    it's a tricky situation. if a transgender person advertises themselves as transgender openly on a dating profile there's a risk of attracting people who just fetishize trans people, as well as people who hate and violently target trans people. if you keep it private until you meet in person on a date or something there's the risk of the person reacting violently anyway and the trans person being straight up murdered.

    there's no winning for trans people. when there's people out there who will literally murder or violently assault a trans person for being trans i personally think the trans persons safety and comfort is more priority over someone who only has to worry about having time wasted over literally being beaten or killed.

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