So my family is disappointed in me for still being with the same guy

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My family doesn't want me to be with my partner, they've been trying to get me to break up with him but he's never done anything to physically or mentally abuse me and he's such a sweet guy, I don't understand why they think he's so bad and I don't know why they want to try and force me to move back home away from him, they've got mad about me moving out with him the first time and I've told them that I don't want them to judge him anymore. It's been a 6 year relationship and I feel like they're trying to tear apart my relationship but what reason do they have to want me away from the man I love

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    3 years ago

    If you're already moved in with him, then your family really have no control over you. Why do you let them get to you? Just because their family doesn't mean that you're obligated to trash your own happiness for them.

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    • Mizlead
      3 years ago

      They get to me because it's been 6 years almost that they've been try to get in the way of my relationship, I love my family and I don't want them to view my decisions as disappointments anymore and I feel like I'm being torn between them and him

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      • Cuntsiclestick
        3 years ago

        If you don't live with them, there's really nothing stopping you from shrugging your parents clingyness off. Since you've been with this guy for six years, you're practically like a married couple without the marriage.
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  • nopurpose
    3 years ago

    Mine are too but gotta get over with it since there are no prospects to change that. I occasionaly remind them they gotta be grateful for the little they have - that I'm still here, not killed, locked up in some prison or psychiatry..

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  • NotCoolAtAll
    3 years ago

    Are you perhaps their only child? It feels like you might be, but it doesn't change much if you aren't...

    If this guy is really great, and your parents aren't telling you why they dislike him then I think it's them trying to keep their little kid. Some parents have a hard time letting their children leave the nest, and try to find something or someone to blame when their child eventually leaves. And the one they are blaming is your partner, the one who "took you away from them." A friend of mine has this awful dad, that when she finally moved out he threatened to kill himself if she didn't come back. While trying to force her to stay he ends up pushing her away even further. From what I can tell, your parents aren't doing anything like that, like that but the mentality seems to be the same. You're an adult, you are allowed to make your own choices without their permission. Them being disappointed in your actions to stay with this guy feels like they are trying to guilt trip you.

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  • Somenormie
    3 years ago

    You should be together, you were destined to be with him.

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  • my_life_my_way
    3 years ago

    Maybe he’s just a bit of a weirdo. If they all don’t like him, there’s probably a reason why. But at the end of the day, it’s your business

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