Someone say about relationship advice

Youre aware thats the guy that fucked a kid, right?

Well if you're going to post somewhere like IIN... *shrugs*

In all seriousness though, I feel offended. What's it going to be next: that people who don't share your sexual preferences shouldn't give advice, either?

Unless you have spent your whole life under a rock, you have a perspective on human nature and human interactions. And even if you do spend your whole life under a rock, reading and listening can teach a person you more than you could imagine.

Nobody's forced to listen to anyone, but we shouldn't be shouting people down and saying they oughtn't speak up, just on the basis of their relationships.

I've currently been married for more than a decade. My previous marriage lasted more than twenty years, and ended with my wife's death. Before that marriage, I was in a relationship with a woman for about three years. Even though my first marriage was a huge mistake, it lasted about five years. The other relationships I've been in have lasted at least a few months before it became clear things just weren't going to work out.

My point being that I'm not someone who's clueless when it comes to long-term relationships, and I've always wanted long-term rather than hook-ups.

Sometimes, OPs give enough details in their relationship questions to make it pretty damn clear to me that they're involved with someone who's at least borderline psychopathic or maybe just simply toxic. I'm sure there have been times when the relationship sounds so negative that I've said a breakup would be in the best interests of the OP. But usually I give my perspective on what the OP has said and try to suggest some questions that the OP might want to ask themselves regarding what they actually want from the relationship, their expectations and how they might be in conflict with the needs of the other person and the reality of how people are, why the other person might be treating them the way they are and so on.

Fair enough, but I don't think a so called romantic relationship is something worth putting up with a lot of bullshit for, and I certainly don't think it's something worth sacrificing everything else for... nope, not worth it. If I met a millionaire who told me he wanted to be with me, but that I couldn't have a dog, or cat I'd tell him to just fuck right off. I don't think changing fundamental things about my personality, and lifestyle is worth it to not be alone.

It's been over three, and half years since I left my most recent ex-boyfriend who was a narcissistic abuser, and it's so much better to be alone than with the WRONG person.

I don't see it point in being with anyone who doesn't treat you well! 🤔