Sometimes kissing is not the door opener

The key door opener is to talk to her about her interest and appropriate touching that she accepts long before you ever try to kiss her.

Ok so i have an update, went to hang with a girl I've known for years she's actually somebody I knows cousin, but we're all adults and i always knew she wanted it, anyway we hung didn't work out the 1st night but she was explicitly clear she was down for a fwb type of thing, she just got out of a 20 year long relationship, had two kids with the guy and everything, but relationship went super steel. Long story short, went to hang with her a second time, not a girl i would kiss, pulled out my dick she went and sucked it and swallowed good. No issues afterwards, actually hung with her for a few hours after cause we had nice convo, laughs etc, we smoked pot together before and again after bj, and being she my friend cousin i didn't want her feeling like i just went there for some head but that would have been okay too given fact she kept saying just tell me when you want to leave. But i felt bad leaving one cause we were having good convo but mainly cause she my friend cousin, and this was the first time I've ever done that but it worked out great

Go ahead, see what happens.

It can be hard to get a girl to just drop on her knees without a kiss. Depends on the girl i guess.

Are you asking if you should whip ya dick out at the doorstep when dropping a date off at her house?