Son keeps smelling my coworkers feet iin?

I dont think the issue is foot fetish per se ( hes too young to actually get sexual arousal out of it and he might grow out of it , he might not) but him imposing on others without their permission....

I wouldnt shame him, but just kind of shoo him away...." Dont bother Mary, Timmy, shes had a hard day" ...if Mary says, " oh I dont care" well then let him whiff away...but if Mary doesnt say anything you know it bothers her and he has to stop. It could even effect who even comes to your house and so you will probably have a little talk with him . Again I wouldnt focus on the " foot fetish" just the whole we cant impose on people and that they are not just objects for our own pleasures...no shame, no disgust, just we have to respect others and this includes close personal space as well.

I honestly don't quite know how you should go about this. I have quite a few fetishes myself (not for the foot), but the foot fetish is something that has always weirded me out. I don't think that it is uncommon for fetishes to start in childhood. Punishing or forbidding will not stop his fetish. It will probably cause him stress and emotional upset (feeling guilty). The effects of that could and most likely will carry on into adulthood.

The thing that most concerns me is that he doesn't take boundaries into consideration. He has a lack of control in his desires. I've notice this problem in other foot fetishists too. He needs to be taught this. When he grows up and does that to women, most of them won't be so lenient in their reactions. He could get himself into a lot of trouble if he doesn't learn boundaries and self-control.

He's 5.

Kids eat worms and do weird stuff when they're 5.

I think you're worrying far too much about this, and sexualising his behaviour too readily. He's a little kid, view him like one.

It's a bit difficult for me to accept that he has any established "fetishes" at his age - though admittedly, this may just be wishful thinking on my part.

You ask us if you should just ignore it. I don't know; for starters, how do your coworkers feel about it?

Keep your kids away from other people. That's really inconsiderate of you to let your son bother other people.

Perhaps he realises that your coworkers are attractive - and he should be attracted to them - but he doesn't know how to say it or show it and his attraction is manifesting through smelling their feet, which he doesn't realise is outwith social norms.

Try telling him normal people don't smell folk's feet.

I'll give you one of my mum's slippers to deter him too, cause they fucking stink. When we were playing up she would hold us down and suffocate us with the smell... *shivers*

How has this worked out?

I am a man in his 50s, and I had your son’s same desires at the same age. I am impressed how you navigated the difference between shaming and repressing the desire and the issue of violating personal boundaries. My parents were not as smart at all. The desire never goes away. It just gets stronger. However, it still has to be expressed in a manner that is respectful of others. Hopefully, he will find an acceptable outlet at the right time. It is a very frustrating desire to have.

Hi WorkingMom. I know this thread is older but I found it and wanted to comment. I have a foot fetish. I also have a shoe fetish and a hosiery fetish. It started when I was young. Apparently, when I was a baby, my mom was folding laundry, to include pantyhose. I must have thought they were soft because I grabbed the clean pair and rubbed my face with them. Totally normal. But, as I got older like age 4, there was a neighbor, she worn heels and nylons to work everyday. I would watch for her out the window when she got home from work, quite a bit. One day, I got brave and walked out of the house when she got home. I wanted to tickle her feet because I had no clue how to express my interest in her nylons. I hadn't smelled them before so I had no clue that was a way of expressing it. But I understood tickling. My grandfather came running after me and asked where I was going. I told him I was going to tickler her feet and he chuckled but told me don't do that. The neighbor laughed too and it was not embarrassing at all for me. I think that's true because a huge issue wasn't made of it.

In kindergarten, the teacher's aide wore suntan nylons to work everyday. I used to want to sit at her feet while she read to us, even fought with other kids about it. Nothing physical, just arguing and calling dibs. I realized at age 5 it was because of her nylon feet. Ever since my childhood, I've had a strong interest in nylon feet. Bare too, to an extent, but nylon feet especially. It is normal and common. I wouldn't say for me that it is a fetish. Fetish implies that I can on,y get pleasure from nylon feet. That simply isn't true at. I've been able to perform with women I dated who had ugly feet or who didn't wear pantyhose and no issues. But I certainly have a preference, and it is something I think about once per day.

Here is how it progressed for me. I suppressed it as I got older, like age 7- high school. I was too embarrassed. I masturbated quite often thinking about a girl or woman I saw, as it was an instant trigger. But I never told anyone nor did I attempt anything with feet or hose. By the way, I fount my moms feet hideous and never tried to touch her feet, shoes, or hose. After high school, I went into the military and again never let it manifest itself, except privately
with myself. My first foot experience was actually with bare feet. I sucked on my girlfriend's toes in the bath tub. She liked it and saw how excited it got me. But she never wore hose and I just couldn't touch her feet unless they were clean. But, I knew if she had on hose, I wouldnt care how long she was in her shoes. I eventually got a gf who wore hose often. She couldn't understand my desire to smell her feet but she indulged me. But I was never 100% satisfied with it because for me she never wore the right heels. Sometimes she'd wear boots and sometimes she'd wear sandals with hose. Boot feet can get gross quickly, depends on the girl. I was more interested in heels or flats with hose and without. She liked it. She got lots of foot rubs and she love having her toes sucked.

When the internet became popular and I didn't have a gf anymore, I turned to the internet to satisfy my desires. It became unhealthy because I'd spend a lot of time doing it. It only intensified my desire. I should state that up to this point, that while girls I dated indulged me, they never had the smell at all because as you know that takes time. We call that well worn. Meaning the shoes and or the hose must be well worn. Worn nylons in brand new shoes won't smell like much. It is also true that nylon feet air out quickly so the longer the shows are off the less likely they are to smell like anything. And, from experiment, nylons that have been in a hamper don't smell like much either. Doesn't mean we won't indulge, but doesn't mean they have that smell we like.

Over the years I dated wome,n all who thought I was a great, caring guy. None of them broke up with me over feet. One of them didn't want me messing with their feet if they might be stinky. Some I never got to introduce them to it, again out of embarrassment. I can tell you that the internet thing is the hardest to overcome. That did cause issues in one relationship. She didn't like it. I eventually quit. It was a curiosity thing. I knew I had this desire and I wanted to explore it in a harmless to others way. The fact that I never really got to he smell I thought I'd get from nylon feet didn't help any. It fueled it. But, some women just don't develop an odor and some don't wear them long enough.

I'm now married to a great woman. She has a job where she is required to wear heels and hose. But, she breaks the heels rule. And, ironically when we first met she didn't wear hose either because she had a choice of pants or skirt. Pants = no hose, skirt = hose. She now wears hose. But not though. She switched because they changed the pants and they look like guy pants, so now she wears hose with flats and a skirt. She knows I love it. And she indulges me. I benefit bad so does she. Her feet hurt a lot. I rub them for her when ever she asks. I only kiss them when they are in hose or when they are fresh out of her flats, no walking on the ground.

My point in all of this is that, you are correct to tell him not to sniff others' feet. It is not normal for a babysitter to let him sniff her feet. It borders on something sexual. I know first hand. I say borders because if he had sucked or toes or kissed her feet, how would that have gone over? Those are the next steps after sniffing. Rubbing feet, while harmless is another gray area. It should only be done with permission. To volunteer to do it is a bit much, unless the woman says my feet really hurt or I wish I had someone to rub my feet. Even in those cases, unless I'm in a relationship with that woman, I wouldn't dare sneak a sniff. I would just rub and let it be innocent. Feet are sexual,object to me, just like boobs are to some guys. It's very difficult for me not to look down at women's feet. I do it daily. I cannot help it. But I don't do any thing without permission bad now that I'm married I only do it with my wife. Also, because it's a sensitive issue, I stii have a tough time asking my wife to wear hose. She used to do it when we wee dating just for me, now I must ask her if it is outside of work. And when she is on her way home from work I ask if I Cavan rub her feet when she gets in. She knows what that means, it's unspoken. I still have difficulty communicating it with my wife. I'm still embarrassed and I'm 43.

As for how foot fetishes occur: in the brain, the part if the brain that recognizes genitals and feet are right next to each other. If they touch in any way, more than likely a fetish for feet or at least an interest will develop. It's more common in men than women. As for why we like the smell, it's hard to say. One it could be a submissive thing, although I'm not submissive. I think what is more likely is that there are pheromones in women's sweat glands so it is a sexual scent. Also, whether we admit it or not, our culture promotes this sort of thing. Why else do we associate sex with sexy shoes? Why else do women worry whether their feet are funky looking or not? Why paint your toes?

Your son will likely try to date women who wear hose. He will likely be embarrassed about it at first. He will probably be an adult before he makes himself vulnerable with it. I'm in a heathy relationship/marriage now. She's happy to get foot rubs. I just don't her obsessed with it. If she takes her shoes and hose off before I play with them I don't mention it. I respect her bad love her whether she indulges me or not. In fact, she doesn't wear heels at all and I still have yet to sniff feet that were in heels, only boots and flats. There is hope for your son. As long as you teach him boundaries at a young age he will not be a deviant when he gets older. But he might make a woman who has been on her feet all day very happy to have him rub, even if he is going to smell them too. He might reserve that for a women he trusts though. If not he could be embarrassed, like I was one time and still am if I see that particular girl.

Be concerned but teach him those things require permission. If you do, he'll grow up with the same desires but they won't land him in hot water.

Hope this helps!

From the age of 5 I had desires like this, and it got worse after a kick from a woman in high-heeled boots, and worse as I had pretty teachers who would wear sexy clothing, and much worse when I started reading foot stories on the internet, and MUCH worse when I started meeting women that indulged me and wanted to push the boundaries.

I'm glad you realize you don't help your son with either babysitters that let him smell their feet, or by you leaving things around for him to sniff.

From about 1994 until 2009 I did view foot fetish pictures, and masturbate over them.

Bear in mind, what I'm about to say will be difficult for you to believe, but I hope you bear with me.

Good news: I've had porn demons cast out, as well as foot fetish demons, and although they want back in, they are still GONE.

I went to at least 2 churches and got prayer until I found a Pentecostal Church that actually had faith to do this. They are rare, but you can find them, especially from Tulsa Oklahoma and in the Bible belt. That being said, I've seen churches do this in California and New York.

It's a demon, pure and simple. Here's a video testimony of a young man who had homosexual demons cast out of him, to where he enjoyed sex with his wife and had TWO CHILDREN with her. If you want to skip straight to the young man, it's about 36:10 into this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=56XYmsEhgi4

From what I think I heard about the young man, the demons got to him, and he went back into the homosexual lifestyle, BUT that doesn't have to happen to your son, just as it has not happened to me.

Summary: Your son can be free of this, but finding a church can be difficult.

I sent u some info if u need any more ill try to help you working mom

Hello. I write because I am deeply concerned about the well-being of your child both as a foot fetishist and as a father myself. By the sound of your story about him turning to your used clothes, and crying - I think you have gone beyond teaching him boundaries. I think that by trying to remove his fetish from his life, you have exasperated it and made it far worse. Intervention in these kinds of things is dangerous in my opinion, as even specialists don't understand it yet. I think you need to let him satisfy his desire, while also teaching him that if I woman doesn't want him to do it, then he shouldn't. That includes you too, obviously; if you don't want him to do it to you, don't let him. But, I don't think any harm was coming out of the relationship he had with your old babysitter and I think the fact you fired her shows you are being too protective. I completely disagree that a foot fetish results in the objectification of women. If a boy is taught that women are not sex objects and real humans that should be respected, he should incorporate that into his sex life. I think that the anecdotal evidence provided in this thread are personal issues, rather than scientific and should be taken lightly.
Obviously, this is your child and it is your decision as to how you approach this problem. However, I advise you to let his sexuality develop naturally, rather than artificially intensifying it and causing distress for your son.

Thank you for your time, I pray things get better for you and your family.

Hello working mom...

First of all, I am psychiatrist..... I need you to understand that you don't have to worry about your son current behavior as redirecting him at this age is quite easy....

I have seen you are not interested in going to a specialist... but I can offer you some free consultation (doing that as a part of my church service)..... if you're interested, we can arrange something....

I don't think you have to worry about him sniffing anyone's panties.
And truly, I think he is not so much interested in nylons or pantyhose as he is with the way feet smell themselves. That being said, he may want to smell your bare feet and the bare feet of your friends.

I am only saying this from my perspective as a footguy. Some guys like nylons. But I only like bare feet. I like to smell them and lick them, tickle them, etc.
It is the feet themselves that make socks or nylons smell good.

Hey,working mom.
I know this is an old post. But I think I wanna share something with you.

1st of all, let me put it in a harsh way, your son's behaviour is out of boundary. Even though he is just a 5 year old kid. I think you should consult someone professional, like a psychiatrist, or a counsellor. Before you bring your son to him/her, you wanna go there alone first , to ask the person and let him/her give you some advice. He/her should be able to tell you whether you wanna interfere your son's act or not, or better, how to interfere.

However on the bright side, your son is just 5 years old. His act is gonna be easily corrected. Also I do not think that a 5 year old understand sex is we adult do. I remember when I was 5 years old, I think I started to find out that masturbate feels good. What I am saying is, this kind of act can go away. Tell you the truth, when I was 16,17 years old, I was crazy about sex, sadly I dun have a girlfriend, and I did do some weird act , as time pass by, they go away. Especially when I was older, had some sort of sexual activity, those weird acts go away.

Another thing that I think you may neglected is that those uniform you and your co-workers put on, those black and white dress, tight skirt and pantyhose may triggered your son A LOT. I have foot fetish, also I have a HUGE turn on when it comes to those OL dress and pantyhose. Do not freak out, a lot of men have this kind of feelings. My point is, if you can ,separate your son from your work environment. Do not let him went back to the same scene that make him excited. Let him play with girls that from the same age. I think he is gonna feel so much better.

You put a 30 year old professional sexy as hell secretary in front of a 5 year old boy, ohh man, he's gonna get excited. You think he is a kid, but what you dun know is he is already picturing things he wanna do with her.

Again, dun freak out. This is what men do . We all feel this way.

Good luck and dun stress yourself too much !

Don't ignore it and let him do it. He won't be able to get enough of it.
Liking the smell of feet won't pass.
Liking the way feet smell is not unusual but it is not socially acceptable.

At age 4, I felt like I could tell my Mom anything. I told her I "liked" the smell of feet. She immediately jumped my case and began yelling at me. I guess it was fortunate I didn't tell her how I wanted to lick feet too. From that moment I had to keep my love of foot smell and my desire for feet a top secret. She tried to straighten me out. But the fact of the matter was I had an enormous fetish for feet even at age 4 and earlier. And I have had it all of my life.

I hope you can let him express himself to you about this. He might be embarrassed. Eventually he might open up about it with encouragement. Then you can explain to him that it is not good manners to be smelling people's feet. You can let him know people will say bad things about him.

After discussing it with him, tell him he can't behave like this. You can't let him behave inappropriately. You may have to punish him because this desire he has acted out on has become SO STRONG, he will need punishment to make him desist. This won't make him crazy as an adult for stopping him.

Even though it was repressed in my childhood, I turned out alright.
I've been married for many years. Yes, I enjoy my wife's feet as part of our lovemaking.

First of all, to say that what your son is doing is worse than finding women attractive is wrong. It is wrong for a mother to say that her children are not in complete and utter control of their sexuality by the age of three.

Capitalism has conditioned you to think this way. You need to get yourself some of the Spirit of Socialism­™ that your Father has and free yourself of your misconceptions.

The perfect path to sexuality can only be achieved by revolutionary means. Some times one must divest themselves of these earthly garments to understand that their love is not rooted in pure socialism but fascism.

With Love,
Reverend Casey Blaylock, Cleveland TN

Dear workingmom,

I am not sure if you are even going to read this, as the post is 8 months old, but as I read your concern and read all the answers I felt that I needed to answer. First of all, let me say that I have had your sons desires for most of my life. The question that I ask you is do you want your son to grow up to be a self focused man, or an other focused man? The thing with foot fetish or obsession is it really is all about me. It also makes women objects...like a flower...instead of recognizing them as persons. The obsession may not start off sexual...but once the two [smelling a woman's feet and sex] are joined it is hard to separate them. How does this obsession make a person selfish [unless they fight it]? I see a woman's feet, I want to smell her feet to turn me on [sexually or not]...but what about her? What does she get out of the deal? Many guys don't care, they haven't even thought about it. We live in a culture that treats women as sex objects and wonder why so many men are selfish and immature. I would begin teaching your son that in any relationship in life it is best to invest and serve and give to others. Teach him that women are not merely objects for men to ogle over and use...but are people that should be respected and treated so by men in their words and actions. I would not encourage him to smell your friends feet. I would not encourage someone with a serious drinking problem or Meth addiction to give into it...it only further deepens the problem. Try wrapping a piece of thread around your wrists...then snap it. Then wrap twice...then snap. Eventually, even the strongest person won't be able to break free. I still struggle with this obsession...but I do struggle...and I am much better off when I don't give in to it then when I do. Teach him to say no now.

Hi workingmom,

From a person that likes the smell of women's feet, I doubt it's anything sexual. I didn't realize I had a foot fetish until I was like 12. But it all started from my mom's friend's feet though. So looks like your son will most likely develop a foot fetish when he gets older.

Honestly though, there's really nothing wrong with having a foot fetish. He probably thinks your coworkers are pretty and likes their scent. Does he like Doritos by any chance? JK... Don't worry about it. Let's him smell their feet.

I think he'll grow out of it. He's five. Little boys love stinky things, its probably harmless. My little cousin likes to sleep on people's feet when they're wearing socks; we never thought anything of it.

Let him smell their butts?

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