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My wife for 25 years is obsessed with wanting to spank me. I refuse to let her as it is not needed and I am a good husband. I am a bus driver and work long hours and she invites people to my home to spank them and for them to spank her. Now she has invited a horrible nasty man to stay in my home to spank me. Is this really normal thing to do?
I meant to ask you in my last post what sort of jobs does your wife expect you to perform when you arrive back home from your work? Does she expect big jobs like for example painting and decorating a full room or is it smaller household chores like washing a few a few dishes? Also please explain what you mean regarding fetching and carrying for her. You also make no mention of anything your wife does for you. I note that you travel from Staffordshire but where do you travel to each day. Is it out of the county or further in Staffordshire.
I cannot understand the negative views expressed by some of you who have replied. I am married and my husband will spank me real hard if it is needed. Likewise I do to him. We respect each other for it and it certainly helps to make a happy marriage. We don't let matters fester, we speak our minds, accept our faults and then put it right with a good hard spanking on the bared bottom. Like the man who wrote the post my husband is a bus driver and he works long hours. This however in my view does not excuse him from a spanking when he needs one. If he has been married for 25 years his wife must love him and surely he must understand that he must have faults that need addressing. My husband has on more than one occasion had to drive his bus through the West Midlands with a very sore rear and believe me he learns from it. Likewise I am a motor cycle courier and I have often had to ride my bike with an extremely sore rear but we both accept this and learn from it. I suggest as another person already has done that you sit down, think about this then bend over and take it . You will both be happier in your lives and be able to move your life on.
Thank you for your post, good to read that someone got the right idea. He don't work for National Express does he? As I know another driver who works for that group and comes in regulary from work very moody. And gets a very hard bare bottom spanking for his attitude and been told on more then one occasion , you will be getting an old fashioned over the knee bare bottom spanking that you be feeling for a few days if you keep that up.
So yes, from time to time, when persistently stepping out of line, sadly it is needed and then to really learn from it they do need a very hard spanking that they won't forget leaving them with a burning backside. They have to learn and sort themselves out.
Thanks for your comment.
Not sure if I should say this but yes my husband does work for National Express. I agree with all you say and reiterate that it works both ways.
I am amased at what I have read here. My partner is driver with National Express and yes I spank his arse when he goes to far with his attitude and could not care a less way that he treats our home. Like you it is a two way thing and he does spank my arse occasionally when I go to far. We both accept it although he has difficulty taking it from me. I agree that the original post does not tell us everything and notice he not replied to postings which I think tells us a great deal about him. My advice to him is that he should take it on the arse from his wife if he does not want to lose her, then they can both move on.
Well I am pleased that I am not the only person who has this problem and that many others seem to deal with it in the same way. It certainly corrects bad attitude and make for a happier life. My husband tried to blame it on his work but now realise that it is no excuse. A week ago he arrived home at 1.30 in morning. I had been expecting him at around 11.30pm. No call or message from him and then tells me there no staff bus so he had to walk from the bus garage. I went blazing mad as he not phoned me and he not answered my messages. I then took him to dining room and caned his bared rear bloody hard. He been as nice as pie since and message me each day.
I think you are not telling us the full story here.
My husband and I spank each other when either of us has got it badly wrong. it clears the air and it allows us to get rid of our frustrations and move on.
If you have been married for 25 years your wife must think something of you to still be with you. She clearly has some issues with you and wants to settle them with a spanking. I think that you need to think hard and really ask yourself if you are in the wrong on this one.
you say that your wife has others around when you are at work and that she spanks them and they spank her. If you are not there and your wife is enjoying this life, what is your problem?
You mention a nasty man she has invited to stay in your home. In what way is he nasty? are you asking us to really believe that after 25 years your wife has all of a sudden 'changed'?
Really I think you need to get a grip and accept a spanking from your wife and then move on.
I have been married for 28 years. if is fair to say that I spank my husband more than he spanks me. But we both accept it and we both are then able to put the issues behind us and move on. I seriously suggest that you do the same.
Maybe he did nothing wrong and she's just a fetishest, ever think about that? Don't support spouse abuse.
Who mentioned abuse. Discapline and abuse is two different things. She is not beating him around the house from pillar to pillar, that is abuse. She obviously just wants some respect, something has gone on for her to want to spank her husband and even in adults it's a way to put things right and move forward.
A good bare bottom spanking as a way of a learning curve is not abuse.
And what gives her the right to do that? Would you say the same if he wanted to spank her? Obviously she hasn't told him why, so even if he let her he wouldn't learn anything from it. So it's not a learning curve. Discipline is about teaching someone what they did was wrong and showing them the consequences of doing it. Hitting someone for unknown reasons, to put fear into them, or for a fetish is obviously abuse.
Well let me just say that we have a marriage, that works both ways. If I need a spanking, I bend over and take whatever he sees as needed and respect his wishes. It is not one sided at all.
I have given my husband a good spanking from time to time for continually showing no respect towards me and having no respect and appreciation of what I do for him. He does learn, it adjusts his behaviour and attitude and things are better again.
So some people have these rules set out in their marriage.
It is not abuse at all, far from it, it is consented and that is how it should be. And if he has done wrong, he should do the same otherwise he showing no respect towards his wife by not taking what probably is deserved.
I have to say I totally agree with you.
My partner has often spanked me when I have been out of line and I have also spanked her.
We both understand that a spanking is sometimes required and we both accept this.
I agree that it has allowed us a very happy relationship and quickly as it were, clears the air. We never spend days and weeks letting it fester, preferring to address the matter and accept our spanking and then move on from it.
to be honest I would not want it to be any other way. We have a great relationship and spanking has helped it along no end.
Like a previous posting I also agree this man needs to think hard, accept something is wrong and then accept a spanking for it.
Again, you really don't know if he deserves it or not. She could be unreasonable. And since she invites people to her house to spank/be spanked then she's most likely just a fetishest for bdsm and not actually wanting to teach him a lesson And the OP hasn't said he knows what he did wrong. That means even if he got spanked he wouldn't learn because he doesn't realize what his error was. Neither of you know if he actually deserves it or not.
Dont let her get away with it.
Give your wife a bloody good spanking and the nasty man.
let her know that you will not stand for it and that you are putting a stop to it.
Firstly that is very arrogant statement to say, don't stand for it and give her a spanking.
In a marriage you give and take, you give respect to earn respect.
Something obviously has happened for the spanking to be deserved. And so respect her wishes and show your love by accepting yr punishment.
It's not all one sided....
But HAS he really done something to deserve it? Maybe his wife is overly strict or a sadist. In which case he might not deserve it at all. You don't know.
Well reading between the lines and speaking from experience, I would say if he is honest he probably does deserve the hard spanking.. Wife's do not usually give out punishment unless it is essentially needed. Hence I asked what the full reason was, but no response as yet.
Most husbands deserve to be given a very hard spanking from time to time, it clears the air and is a way of moving forward and helping with forgiveness.
Be glad she wants to put it right that way and not show him the door.The problem I read is for some reason he does not seem to want to take it, but these things need to be addressed firmly when husbands step out of line in a big way.
Well firstly husbands wife's partners etc do things in different cultures and what you see is wrong, someone else may find it acceptable.
Can I ask your location?
OK, for example lets say maybe you do deserve the spanking, but being an adult you wont accept it and your in denial that you need it. Am afraid to say that even husbands can benefit from time to time from a good spanking from their wife's by her putting you across her knee and administering a good old fashioned very hard sound bare bottom spanking when it's needed to bring you back in line and make you learn from it.
If your refusing for her to do it, and she feels whatever you have done warrants a spanking. Then ideally you should respect her and take what you deserve to clear the air and move forward. Job done, if you dissaprove then the only answer is don't find yourself in this situation again for her to need to do it again.
In your eyes you may think it's not normal, but maybe you want the upper hand and refuse to accept it. So maybe in her view if your not going to take it from her, she will get someone stronger to take you in hand.
Tell us more about the situation so anyone replying can get a clearer picture into the situation would help before commenting . You say your a good husband, but are you? All husbands slip up from time to time and if you were honest with yourself you would realise that actually maybe I have done wrong and do deserve a strict bare bottom spanking as you have obviously have done something to need the punishment.
Let us know more, for example : has this man given you a spanking as yet? Why do you call him a nasty man? It's a rather interesting subject and I will report back.
Thanks for reading .....
Well it may not be normal in the sense that it isn't the majority of wives who do this. Nevertheless it happens. My wife does it because I ask her to. Not for discipline. Simple because I enjoy it so much and it makes me feel really close to her. I think she is a great sport.
There is such thing as male spouse abuse.
That is what this is.
She has absolutely NO love and respect for you and I dare say may even hate you.
Get the hell out of the hell she is making for you.
Have her charged and move out while she is temporarily jailed.
Well as Campervanman has not replied to my post I will now give everyone an update. When he stated that he travelled each day from Moorelands to Stockport I immediately knew who he was and as stated in my last post I called a friend who was able to give me his address and phone number. I telephoned his wife who I had known for several years and arranged to visit her. When I arrived at her house she was alone and we were able to talk. She told me she was having a living hell with her husband and that she did not know what to do. I told her that I knew what she must be going through and also that I knew how arrogant and nasty her husband was. I told her I had something to show her and assured her of confidentiality (ref spanking). I showed her the posts and she was deeply upset but thanked me for showing her. She confirmed she had wanted to spank him but he would not take it. She then decided that enough was enough and she was throwing him out when he arrived home. Furthermore she was determined that she was going to spank him first. We then went up to her bedroom and she took all his clothes and cut them up, black bagged them,and put them in the bin. She then rang the ' nasty little man' and told him. He came around in less than 30 minutes. He was really nice and anyone could see that he really cared for her. I was asked to stay for a bite to eat and she told me he would be home by 7.30pm. Just before 7.30 he arrived home. His wife confronted him with the posts and then I walked into the room. He went white in the face. He was speechless. His wife told him he was in for a spanking. Rob, the so called nasty little man then appeared with a belt and cane. He was petrified. She told him to get hi s pants off and to get over the back of the chair. I told him I would force him down if necessary. He eventually went over the chair, and she caned his arse good and hard. He squealed and shouted and cried like a baby. His wife then took the car keys and house keys away and put him out . The following day her friend Rob changed the locks on the house and his wife started divorce proceedings. I am visiting again on Monday and will let you all have any update. Personally I am delighted with how it has all turned out.
I cant believe how you all think that my wife is right and that spanking is normal. I am 50 years old and do not ever need to be spanked. If there is a problem you sit down and talk it through. Spanking is never the answer. It you went to marriage guidance they would never advise spanking. You are all wrong. I am a bus driver and work long hours with National Express. I drive a long distance every shift from my home and my wife starts from the minute I walk through the door. She expects me to do jobs round the house, shopping and fetch and carry for her. Thanks to the very nasty man she invites to my house she no longer works. Yet she expects me to do everything for her and wants to spank me when I don't obey her. I will not be spanked by her as It is wrong and I am a good husband . This nasty man has caused big problems but my wife tells me she thinks highly of him. He spanks my wife and she spanks him in my house as she does with a few other men. This can't be normal despite what you say on here. I can't believe there are other bus drivers out there who accept this degrading way. The pain from it is to much to take and with a long journey from Staffordshire to work every day it could also be dangerous.
I have just read your post with interest and I am trying to see this from your perspective.
I understand when you refer to talking matters through but maybe your wife has tried this in her mind and it has not worked and she views spanking as the way forward.
You mention that she starts the minute you walk through the door. What exactly do you mean?
I have always thought that in a marriage you give and take and help each other. You appear to think differently. Do you not think that helping around the house and doing some shopping is part of married life? I also note that you refer to my house and not our house.. Why is this as surely being married the house belongs to you both.
You state that you are a bus driver so I assume that your work takes you around the retail areas and therefore collecting some shopping must surely be a simply task. Maybe your wife finds it difficult to get to the shops.
Does your wife drive and able to visit shops?
You mention a nasty man and that because of this man your wife no longer works. Can you explain what you mean by this please?
You also mention that your wife brings other men to the house to spank and be spanked. Has this nasty man spanked you.?
You have been married for 25 years so your wife must think well of you to stay with you but wants to clear the air and move on. You do not see that you have done anything wrong so why does your wife of 25 years want to all of a sudden spank you?
Tell me does your wife every prepare a meal for you, clean the home and show you any affection at all?
It seems to me that your wife can see a major problem or issues that need addressing and that you do not seem able to accept that there is a problem and accept your punishment accordingly. I can only say that whilst I do not know you personally, that if I were in your shoes I would accept this from my wife of 25 years rather than end up losing her.
You really unbelievable. You say you try to see it from my side but it clear to me that you think spanking can be right. You are plain wrong and I will not be spanked ever. I am a Christian and I am head of my house and always will be. How would you feel after a long shift driving a bus, then a long journey home and you walk through the door and your wife starts with her demands. The animals need feeding, you need to go to the shops for this and that and many other demands. She cannot drive but can easily walk round to the shops in less than 10 minutes. If she spent less time being lazy and more time working at home things would be better. Yes she cooks a meal most days and so she should, it is her duty . Even at weekends I get no rest from her. On a Sunday even when I need to get ready for my meeting there is no end to it with her. She thinks more of this nasty little man than she does of me. A marriage is a two way event but the man is head of his home and family. You seem to think differently. If you had to obey your wife's demands day in and day out you might understand a little better. It is intolerable. Do this, do that, get me this, get me that, feed the cats, get to the shops, clean the car etc etc. My wife's biggest problem is herself. She has one or two medical issue's and she plays on them constantly. I am a good husband and I will not be spanked by her ever.
I too can understand why your wife feels as she does and wants to spank you. You are very fortunate she has stayed with you for 25 years. Your views about married and home life are pre Victorian and intolerable. If you were my husband I would have divorced you long ago and yes sent you packing with an incredibly sore rear.
Well I now understand why your wife wants to spank you. Your attitude stinks. You deserve to have your rear well and truly lashed. I now see fully why your wife is like this with you and I also now know who you actually are. Yes you left Dudley and moved to Staffs and transferred eventually up Manchester way.
One other point is some days it takes me two hours to travel from the Moorlands to Stockport and can be the same coming home. Up to Four hours travelling time each day ontop of a shift. Then I come back to my house and expected to fetch and carry etc for her.!!!!!
You must be working on the coaches with National Express. As to my knowledge their is no National Express buses operating in that area.
Yes but you said you were a bus driver not a coach driver. Someone telling porkies. I just gave you a way out to say your now a coach driver. A coach driver is half the salary then a bus driver so i very nuch doubt it.... A lier always gets found out and your attitude is appalling. One thing that has stood out in all your posts, is your arrogance. You really have got a problem, especially for a religious man. In scripture it states. .. husbands love your wife's. ... etc etc Maybe you need to look at your approach and your manner. How wonder you have got people's backs up. I can see why ....
Getting back on topic, to get respect from your wife, you earn respect.
And you obviously do not think anything of her, to speak about her the way you have. Which is another reason you need bending over her knee and given a really hard spanking. It would certinaly bring you down a peg or two, that's for sure.
And I think if my husband spoke about me in the way you have, i would be appalled and am sure she would be. I see it as another reason why she should give you a punishment that you would feel for a few days. Then see if that adjusts your superior arrogant attitude...
Another point, you refer to a nasty man, you didn't explain why he is a nasty man. Whats he done to you? It sounds like you have no respect for him either ....
Thank you for yr interesting comments handyman jack. Glad to read another male thinks to make a marriage work, it is all about giving and taking and helping each other whenever possible.
For some reason some men do not accept it is their place to lift a finger around the marital home. Or collect a few food necessities on the way home from work to assist their wifes.
Yet they would soon complain if they arrived home to no house cleaned or no meal prepared. I personally always have a meal for my husband ready for when he arrives home. So it is important to fully appreciate each other and be greatful for small mercies.
We do not know the full extent of this situation to pass full judgement, but as we all know their are always two sides to every story.
I feel saddened thou to note he runs his wife down of 25 years of marriage, all because she has or wants to give him a spanking, for something that has gone on, deserved or not. It is very sad that some men think they are above their wife's, or in charge of everything and will not take a spanking. Ok i appreciate it might hurt and you may feel humiliated. But at the end of the day it's dealt with, and over with in no time at all. Campervanman, If you really do object to be treated that way then all I can advise, is do not find yourself in the situation again. You too must love your wife to make it to 25 years, so sit down, give her the time and the respect she deserves and work it out. Letting things fester and go on is only a recipe for disaster. I would rather live in harmony and have a happy husband than not accept my punishment if I was in that situation as that would cause a unhappy stressful marriage. But it all depends if you want it to work, and more importantly how much you love your wife. Looking at it with your comment in mind about picking up shopping, it makes me think you do not care about her that much if it is too much trouble to pick up a few necessities enroute home. It maybe worth helping the situation with a big bunch of flowers, greet her with a loving kiss. Say sorry for whatever has gone on, and accept you have been wrong and take yr spanking from her in order that she can feel the matter has been dealt with and then you can both move on happily together. At the end of the day this will be done privately in your own home, and nobody other then yourselves will know about it.
Man don't listen to these other people, it's wrong to let someone spank you if the reason they wanna do it is because you won't obey them completely. She sounds completely unreasonable. If she wants you to help around the house more, then she ought to get a job and let you stay home. You aren't her slave. Forced unnecessary violence won't solve anything and will only rise tensions between you two.
As I said before, if you truly did nothing wrong, don't let it happen. Plus if she brings home other people to spank, then your wife may be a BDSM fetishest and wants you to fulfill her kink.