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An old ex friend contacted me recently.
Sparing a long story we were friends since I was 3 but the last time we met she treated me like shit(putting it lightly) and after being treated so terribly I broke off our friendship. That was 3 years ago.

For the first time in 3 years she contacted me by having a friend message me on Facebook (I had her blocked). I was curious what she could possibly have to say after 3 years so I unblocked her and listened.

She apologized profusely for how she treated me, told me about some dark shit that had happened to her to explain her behavior at the time and wanted to resume our friendship.

After 3 years I'm no longer angry I'm just done. I reached a point of literally not caring one way or the other. I told her I wasn't interested in resuming our friendship but if she had something she needed to say I'd listen. We talked and caught up on each other's lives but it was weird, years ago talking to her had been my favorite thing but now it felt no different than chatting with a stranger. Now for me i could've been chatting with an npc in a game and would've had about the same emotional response.

is it normal after 3 years and the incident preceding it, I'm no longer angry but I don't want to be friends either?

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  • Whatintarnation
    7 years ago

    You got burned so it's normal to no longer care. I think so at least. Had the same type of situation and it's amazing how you can go from being a great friend to the person to only hoping that they don't get hit by a bus.

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  • peterrabbyt69
    7 years ago

    Go down on her!

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    Forgive her.

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  • Jayemen
    7 years ago

    It's ok to feel that way and not want to pursue. And it's not lingering anger, it's that you've moved on.

    I had a business and personal friend who I was very, very close with. She and I did everything together, functions, business and our own, just because, dinners..People thought we were married or a couple, or, when we said we weren't, didn't believe us. Even my long-time college female friend, who'd met us a few times, gave me the question and look.."And, what about HER?", since college friend knows me so damn well and can pick off when I'm lying to her. Not that time, though.

    Anyway, the business and personal friend and I had a falling out about 2 years ago, maybe more, and, though I do miss her friendship at times..Also know she's an opportunistic drama queen who will throw anyone under the bus if it benefits her. I've thought about reaching out, as I was the one who ended the friendship, but..Know better. I've done better away from her than with her.

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