Strong feelings between niece and uncle

Don't listen to these "Abomination to God the Almighty" idiots. The fact of the matter is that happiness is hard enough to find without putting extra restrictions on things. Like you yourself said -you're both LEGALLY adults, and neither of you are related by blood. As long as you both approach this with openness and honesty, who are any of us to say that it won't work?

I guesss the real question is, how old are you? how long have you known this girl?

I say go for it if its just a weird 'my sister married you dads brother' thing, but if you've seen the girl missing her two front teeth yo need to rethink things.

You sound like a nice guy so as long as you're not a pedophile, have fun.

Please don't act on your feelings, you say she is younger than you, how much younger? and even if she is not related by blood clearly she sees you as a member of her extended family/ a relative and with you bein golder and she very young she probably looks up to you and respects you. She is too young to know what she wants, its a confusing age and she is especially vulnerable to you if she has feelings. A relationship with you, especially sexual and maybe her first will never last and will really mess her up. It's not worth all the damage it will do to the rest of the family, it will cause a lot of problems for both of you, leave it alone, these feelings will pass if you try not to see each other much.

Love's love. Do what you feel like.

You are related through marriage - and strangely silent on this, other than to justify your wolfish & predatory appetite for a young niece as being OK because she's not "blood" related. Ugh ....

Acting on this is incredibly selfish & craven, and is going to trample on a lot of spousal family feelings and wreck relationships & cause pain. Just cause you have the hots for her, and you think she does for you.

Face it - you are a shitty old lech. Leave the girl alone.

Well obviously you can do whatever you want but it comes down to getting caught. If you both can keep it a secret that you take to your grave, then you can pull it off.

We still live in a very barbaric age and people will not understand it at all. They will prefer to judge, label and punish, rather than appreciate and respect your love for one another.

I really don't think it's anyone business what two consenting adults do together as long as no one is being harmed, even if they happen to be related.

I'm in a similar situation and all I can say is that the love she and I have for each other is like nothing I've experienced with any other woman.

She's quite attractive as well and I feel very lucky that she's crazy about me. It's difficult for us to be together but we'll make it happen I'm sure-love always finds a way. :)

Both parties are over the age of consent.
There is no blood relation.

Thus, there is no problem.

Not blood related, go for it

Are you that kind of bald 58 year old fat belly'd pervert mustached uncle ? If yes then uhhhhh you are a freak

You are the ADULT Eww don't mess her up

I say your fucked up... big time.

If your not blood related and your not married then go for it. You may get some friction from other family members, but if this is real it shouldn't matter.

If you are not blood related, then she is not your niece. She is your brothers step daughter or your wife's niece....

One of you is likely to get hurt if it goes wrong, and how will family get-togethers be, uncomfortable for everyone because of you two?

The age difference is what concerns me- how much older are you? If you are close to her age, you will both end up w/ someone else faster than if you are much older [older generally does not jump into things as fast, you may feel awkward at the next family function]...

just think before you leap.

I doubt her parents would see it in quite the same way you do mate, but if you're convinced it's ok, then you don't really need anyone's approval.

But I doubt anyone will welcome the idea.

please don't prey on ur niece...men are such dicks!but thank u for ur honesty...let her be a child. u didn't mention ur age so u must be at least 30....

Play the game and be happy with it as far as you can, but keep in mind it can't be more than a game; not for you both, surely, but society out there could become hard to live if you make it publicly real. The sad truth is that it can't be a "normal" relationship and a day you'll get tired of living keeping the secret (and you must keep the secret or you can "break" the family), the secret itself will ruin your relationship. So maybe it is better to let the things fade out smoothly, softly and lovely.

I  say go for it.My mom wanted to have sex with me whe I was 15 and she was 31. She came to me and told me she had seen me naked and wanted to have sex.We did for a few months and she became pregant.We had a daghter together.She was prefectly healthy.We continued to have sex for about 3 years until I went away to school. I`m now 31 my sister/daughter is 16 does not know I`m her dad and still sometimes have sex with my mom.If she didn`t want it 16 years ago and acted on it we would have both missed out on something we both loved. I say go for it it`s normal to us.

Act in what way?

Have sex? Get married?

You're both infatuated, you said so yourself; so, unless you're really looking to set yourself, her and the entire family up for a whole lot of hurt, you need to shake this sh*t off.

You might also want to bear in mind that Dads don't react kindly towards brothers who are horny for their daughters.

I 19 and uncle touched me wen was 3 and thanksgiving is always awkward I speculate a lot cuz he takes care of his 8 yr old granddaughter

At a very tender age, I became "friendly" with a younger niece. She was 2 years my junior, and was fully developed as a woman physically.

We began by pretending we were bf/gf. It started lightly - kissing, mostly. With hormones beginning to race, in progressed - quite by accident, as neither of us knew what we were doing. We simply enjoyed feeling "those feelings."

Our "affair" lasted 2 years or so. We had a great deal of pleasure, and both learned from our together experiences how good sex could feel.

BTW: I still masturbate to the memories - reliving our encounters in my mind.

my mom began touching me when I was 13 !

Best thing to do is erase those thoughts out of your head. That will hurt a family. Only thing I could think of reading this is my niece. I wouls never look at her or anybody in my family that way.

If you do, don't tell a soul!
My now 58 year old wife had a pedophile uncle by marriage, who began kissing her at age 12, performing oral sex on her/she on him at age 14, and penetration by 17. He'd warned her not to tell anyone, or he'd deny it, being the good, usually drunken pedophile he was.
Problem was that it didn't stop in her teens or 20's, but continued untils she was 36, and well after we'd had three kids (twice while I was in the same house, minding our three kids during gatherings.)
Other problem, the prick is dead (cirrhosis of the liver), and I just found out a few months ago, because if he hadn't died in 1997, I'd have beaten the selfish prick to death, myself!
I'm all for consentual sex, but why not go fuck some other 19 year old, instead risking fragmenting the entire family? She could lose everyone in her world, all so you could get your rocks off.
I'd think twice, or even thrice!

Its kind of like me hooking up with my uncles wife after they divorced. It was hard to deal with the family on both sides, and after 8 years it was what killed the relationship. Just walk away.

its normal n the animal world but not in human society, (which I hate) so dont do anything with her but you can think in ur head it wuld be fine if humans werent civilized

look to 'christians' we are all brother and sister and aunty and uncle anyway... through the lines of Adam and Eve... to Ham, Japeth, and the other one of Noah's son (sorry i forgot)... but back then it was acceptable to be able to have relations with close family members because the 'genetic pool' was completly pure.... thats how come Adam and Eve's children's children never came out with feet on there head... but its all a matter of belief... i have been taught by my school that homosexuality is wrong... but my family and some friends view it as acceptable... and personally i believe that it is genetic... i find it funny that some christians can possibly believe that naturally straight men and women CHOOSE to enjoy and Want a partner of the same gender just because someone else said to them that they were gay... like it was some fad... but if it were a fad then wouldn't it pass... just lyk every other fad... i am a christian... and i believe in Christ... but i have a gay second cousin and he was gay from the moment he was old enough to know.... that isn't to say if he was never told about the word 'gay' he wouldn't be gay because to him it wouldn't exist... but i am refering to the time when he first developed sexual attraction... sorry for deviating off coarse... i was gonna tie something up here but i'vve lost myself.... but i do not agree that you will go to hell if anything happens with you or your neice.... and it may help to pray about your feelings... if you dont believe in God... who cares just try to be sincere and try to believe... if only just for ten minutes.... it may help...

thank you if you have read this
its taken me a total of 15 minutes and i feel that i lost everyone because in reading through this again i lost myself...

i should have listened to the quote;
"it's better to be thought an idiot; then to open one's mouth and remove all doubt."