The third date

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So I’ve been on a third date with the guy and I’m asking for advice because I have no experience what so ever. I am the most shy reserved self conscious girl ever. Getting help for anxiety and going out with this lad was the biggest challenge for me but I do like him... I have friends here and there but not like loads of mates like he has... he had them contacting him all the time tonight while we were out... they wanted him to go out... we have completely different lives I’m a country girl who can’t open up and it’s held down by a job. And he’s normal like everyone else.
Idk how to open up... we went to the cinema at 3pm, then went for food and he was gone by 8pm to his mates.... and I feel a little let down cause I enjoy his company now he isn’t even texting me... I’m worried I’ve lost him. We kissed. But there was so many parts of me that wanted to grab his hand in the cinema but I couldn’t... I didn’t because I’m like to myself and idk if it would’ve been to far... I’m not a touchy feely person but I want to be :( so much.

I guess I’m feeling butthurt but everyone I know is partnered up and I only have him so I’m getting attached anyway and I feel like I’m going to get hurt so I feel like pushing him away.

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  • Nickvey
    5 years ago

    its clear you are not ready to date a man . i think he knows it that why he is with his mates and not you, you know he should have been plowing your ass by now and you were not ready. its over lady. he figured you out.

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  • McBean
    5 years ago

    Google up, "how to know when youre ready to date for the first time".

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    • nikkiclaire
      5 years ago

      Oh stop. She is tots ready. It just sounds like she doesn't have any experienced female friends to help her.

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      • McBean
        5 years ago

        You're the sex expert, you know where to start. Go for it.

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        • nikkiclaire
          5 years ago

          I'm trying 😂😂😂

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  • e51pegasi
    5 years ago

    Not easy I know but try not to micro analyse everything. Let the relationship grow organically & if you really like him let him know.

    Physical stuff, kissing, holding hands, embraces just happen. The moment arrives it feels right & things just, well, happen.

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  • EnglishLad
    5 years ago

    This is your anxiety's doing.

    By curling up into yourself and not sharing how you feel, you're not allowing this guy to build up any kind of emotional bond.

    You should tell him about your chronic anxiety/depression. At least this may allow him to understand a little more about why you behave the way you do.

    If it helps, drink alcohol to lower your inhibitions somewhat. Your true feelings will come out when you're anebriated anyway.

    I understand that this may potentially be difficult due to your mental health problems, but try to stop thinking "what if" and just do whatever feels natural at the time.

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  • amg1028
    5 years ago

    Omg you are like the girl version of me, you described how i felt my first time getting out there. i went on 3 dates too but never had the courage to make the first move, so you are winning already because you got a kiss, sadly i was dumped, he said he had to "work on himself and he wasn't ready for a relationship". Don't loose hope and we are bound to get hurt in this life, you just gotta go through your emotions, cry when you gotta cry, you can stay down for a little but dont forget to get back on the horse and try again. Also dont compare your personal journey to your friends, you are you and your time table is different from your friends. It will happen for you when it happens. hang in there and i hope this made sense lol.

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  • nikkiclaire
    5 years ago

    Everything is actually ok. He is doing the dance for hand. Look up hand if you have no idea what that is. Google "Seinfeld hand".

    You can't let him have that.

    The date went well so next time, you'll be busy. Schedule the date on a different day than he wants.

    This is how the dance goes.

    Congrats, you are living in the fucked up world of dating.

    Always remember, you have the pussy, and that gives you every ounce of control.

    Ok its horrible, but I speak the truth.

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  • Iszzy123
    5 years ago

    Fart And see what happens can’t hold it in for ever. This is a metaphors but can also be taken literally

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  • TerriAngel
    5 years ago

    A guy that would rather be with his mates.
    He's gay.
    Date a real man next time.
    You won't have to put the moves on him.
    Unless you're fat.
    If you're fat loose weight.
    Knowone likes fat.

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    • nikkiclaire
      5 years ago

      She got a third date so the guy is obviously attracted to her.

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