Therapy is useless

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What's the point of therapy if I'm the highly self aware type and know everything that's wrong with me? I've been journaling for years now and know exactly all of my dysfunctional patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving and I also really researched on psychology and connected the dots to my childhood and why I turned out this way. I feel like I'd be wasting money and the shrink's just gonna tell me what I already know.

Plus I already know everything I have to do to make myself and my life better and even made a detailed list but the thing is the part of my brain controlling intellect and awareness isn't in sync with all the other parts so I feel stuck and can't consistently apply my realizations into everyday life. I feel like I need a 24/7 drill sergeant or some kind of freaking futuristic brain surgery to really change, not talking it out with a therapist:( Plus the shrinks here in my country aren't really that good, even my friend who is almost exactly like me tried and said she didn't get anything out of it:(

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  • CozmoWank
    5 years ago

    On some level you must feel you need it or you wouldn't spend so much time being unhappy and thinking up reasons why you don't need to go to therapy.

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    Is there any support groups you could go to for issues?

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  • urfamilytreelgbt
    5 years ago

    it's pretty normal to think theropy wouldn't be helpful i think id really recommend getting a therapist anyways because even if you think you know everything they can still help in ways you wouldn't think

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  • Caspersghost
    5 years ago

    A lot of therapist are idiots. If you are not trusting and overly self reliant or super reserved it wont help either. Someone offered support groups which I think is helpful in a lot of cases. I think most people might prefer a trusted network vs an auctual doctor. A lot of therapists are far too critical of literally everyone. When you get paid to help sick people you make more money prolonging the problems or masking vs auctually fixing anything. Psychology field is corrupted by big pharma. Theripists do not hold absolute confidentiality so if say theres a secret future serial killer or future rapist they will not be inclined to state thier true problems. So the worst off slip through the cracks and these are the people who need to be indentified.

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    • Ellenna
      5 years ago

      And a lot of therapists are ethical, empathetic inclusive of people with little or no money and lifesavers. In Australia psychologists can't prescribe medication so how could they be corrupted by big pharma.

      I've had invaluable support from therapists during my marriage breakdown, for child sexual assault and for rape.
      I've also encountered some moronic therapists, psychiatrists being the worst in my opinion, or recent graduates with no life experience and didn't return.

      And you reckon future rapists and future serial killers are the "worst off"? Really?

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      • Caspersghost
        5 years ago

        Obviously if someone has such horrible thoughta you want to indentify it early to prevent it. If say confessing this without doing it means it will be reported means you are less likely to confess or get help before its too late. So there is nothing stopping the fate of the person and thier future victems. This is common sense. Why would you not want to indentify a problem before it becomes a problem?

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      • Alichael
        5 years ago

        Yeh, I know, that's what I'm saying, "really?". Therapy can do a lot of good, unless the person, like the op, going to it has already made up their mind that therapy is useless. You can't get help if you've already stubbornly closed off your mind like that.

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  • Caspersghost
    5 years ago

    Im much like yourself and have quiet a few trust issues.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Have you seen a psychiatrist?

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  • rayb12
    5 years ago

    I'm not sure. But it sounds like some type of healing experience would benefit you. Intellectual understanding doesn't serve you that much in terms of what you're trying to accomplish as you can see.
    So I would recommend to travel or something. Or go some alternative healing method just to shake up this circumstance you have found yourself in.

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    • Ellenna
      5 years ago

      Why would travel help? And as for alternative healing methods, they're not regulated in any way and are mostly bullshit.

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    • rayb12
      5 years ago

      Also it sounds way more like NPD than BPD from what you've written here.

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  • _confused_
    5 years ago

    So...what kind of mental problem do you have?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      alcoholism, aggression(specially towards family who don't deserve it), social anxiety, chronic procrastination, attachment issues(sticking to shitty men).. I have a lot more other issues but this are the main ones really holding me back in life.. and I'm pretty sure I have BPD

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      • _confused_
        5 years ago

        I think that therapy would be just easier in your case since you have so much insight, not therapy like figuring out what's the problem or crying on your therapist's chest. If you find right method and right person it could help put your intentions for self help into action since you already know what to do. Maybe find a therapist online, or read self help books

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          yeah maybe I will, thanks:)

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      • lonewolf1253
        5 years ago

        You need meds. Lots of meds.

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        • Ellenna
          5 years ago

          Probably not, they're a bandaid and/or addictive

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      • Ellenna
        5 years ago

        You need to get yourself some therapy and stop making excuses. If you knew how to fix these problems yourself you would've already done so, right?

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        Try to find a therapist who specializes in treating people with BPD. Two of the better types of cognitive behavioral therapy for Borderline personality disorder are DBT and STEPPS. Just any old random therapy won't be as helpful.

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  • Nickvey
    5 years ago

    i think therapy is fine so long as somebody else buys it for you. but to work hard all day and just give it to a person without getting sucked off is crazy. its like getting raped by the-rapist

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