Think it would b depressing to find my 1st ever date w/plussize dating site

Don't take yourself too seriously. I am sure you will find someone who loves you for who you are! Good luck :)

Just coming at this with a lense in psychology, but if you don't want to date someone who is overweight and you're overweight yourself, that says you have a problem with being overweight

Which on one hand you're handling great by acknowledging what you can actually do to change that

But on the other hand, it would be really immature for one to find a date just to say you had one, for two it wouldn't be fair to whoever you found if you're preoccupied with their weight, and for three both of these things should be a red flag that you're not ready to be in the dating game, whether it's with an overweight person or otherwise

Congratulations on your continuing weight loss. It rarely is easy and it often involves other factors than just the concept of "eat less and exercise." There may be hormonal imbalances or other medical issues working against you, and diet changes may be required that are not obvious.

I've lost about 80 Lb over a dozen years - often in chunks with year + pauses in weight loss. Most of it I attribute to diet changes with a few targeted exercises (and at this point I have totally cut out almost all commercial prepared items and eat grass fed beef and pasture raised pork, wild caught fish, etc - which really made a difference). I've got another 30 lb to go yet...

As for dating: It's more about personality and common goals than which dating site. You just might find someone who is actually working on loosing weight and looking for a partner who has been though that...

I wish you the best with this,

On a date? Like in da movies? Just fuck people and at some point one will be your girlfriend.

You probably shouldn't try to find a date on a plus size website. The second you start to lose weight, it'll cause problems with the person you're with.

Yeah, it is kind of depressing. But you have to settle in life. I'd be more worried about finding a good match on there. Ngl, you're probably right; guys won't date you because you're obese.

Your option is to either sift through the bottom of the barrel in search of guys and hope there's someone good in there, or lose weight and attract higher quality guys. It's not suuupper depressing to find your first date on a plus sized dating app, but the date itself may well be given the guys who are likely to frequent such a site.

If you have used one dating site, you have used them all pretty much. That just means they are all the same. They really are not demograph specific like site names suggest.
They all have the ones who don't have time to date, the swinger couples looking for a young woman to join them, the husbands looking to cheat, the single moms collecting disability and living at their own parent's house, old people, etc.

Now assuming you are a straight woman, just know this about men - men do not want to date heavy or unattractive women because he knows others will judge him. Though a woman does not care if someone judges her choice of partner, men just don't put up with it. Kind of like how women do not want to date lazy or effeminate men.

It is true that men will sleep with nearly any woman who is willing to put out but that doesn't mean he wants a relationship or to be seen in public with her.

Im not into online dating really so I might be totally wrong here but I think those plus size specific dating sites attract a lot of fetishist feeder types.

It seems you're in the similar shoes as me.

eat healthier quite candy and soda. Dont diet they don't work. Just eat better and continue doing so. Do some exercise get a job thats physical or at least makes you walk alot. Your paycheck being your excessive motivator is the best one in the world.