To hate crying

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since i was a kid i hated crying and never cried in front of people even the ones i really know like my parents or my friends and when im alone i cry .... a lot. i think crying is weak and that i have to strong and not to cry. i think this is because my father used to always shout at me or hit me when i cried. also when im sad i just shut up and dont show that im sad i just put a poker face and keep it inside. then after a while i just blow up and cry at stupid things.

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Based on 72 votes (58 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Crying is good, it lets your release your feelings

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  • Mel
    13 years ago

    Im like that too, but not for a reason (like your childhood/Dad) I hold everything in, until it gets too much & I cant take it anymore. Little did I know that after a while it becomes second nature to do this & now I dont even know I bottle things up. Save yourself the Dr visits for stress & anxiety meds in the future & let it out!!!! It is completely ok to cry.

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  • Golden
    13 years ago

    Mel is so right! I use to cry a lot as a little girl and my cousins/classmates/some adults made me feel bad about it. Even though there were plenty of other friends or adults around to comfort me, the negative junk stuck and as I got into my teens and early twenties I started shutting down instead of allowing myself to feel sad emotions. The result: I can't talk about my feelings anymore, I feel shame for wanting to cry, I don't trust others even when they've actually proved themselves trustworthy. It's not worth it. The last couple years I've forced myself to talk and worked real hard on noticing my 'shut down' mode and pulling myself out. I've let myself cry and took risks in telling people how I feel. It's all been turning out very well and it seems the more I express the more inviting and close my relationships with those around me have become. I know that's like a 'duh' thing but I really use to believe that being silent about how I feel made me safe and less selfish. People wanted to be there for me and I just had to let them. I need to cry sometimes and now I let myself. It's been better than how I was before and I am much happier :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I find it weak too I cried as a normal child would (I had alot of shit happen when i was a child) but I think its because no one cared about my crying that I decided crying is weak i havent cried in about 7 years.

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      thats sad

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  • MBakke
    13 years ago

    Naturally...

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  • Mcdc
    13 years ago

    That's like me. I always keep it in. No matter what. The only person I cry in front of is my mom. All my friends at school think that I'm tough and don't cry at anything. There are some really mean guys in my class and I don't want them calling me a cry baby. Usually when I get home or even into the bathroom at school I just burst out crying. I've held it in so long I just can't hold it in any longer.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    you poor thing your father is a brute

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