Transgender but im afraid to tell

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Hi, i'm transgender im a boy and im scared on how my parents are going to react when i tell them i really want to tell them but i am so scared on telling them because i want the transgender hormones thing and i dont know how are they going to react sinse my father is christian im not comfortable with being a boy im just 15 i want to take the transgerder hormones right away but i just dont know what to do because of my family and my cousins keep calling me gay and i just dont know how to open up to them

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    When I was 16, I looked back at myself at 15 and realized how stupid and childish I was. Same goes for 17, 18, 19, 20.

    You aren't capable of making life-altering decisions yet. Transgenders and depression go hand in hand. Embrace your masculinity, accept yourself. A lot to ask for at your age.

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    • _Mehhhh_
      7 years ago

      Hmmm, I hear you, but then if she (OP, you prefer "she" right? sorry if I'm wrong) has been feeling this way for a very long time ever since she was a young child, I'd say it's a pretty solid identity that isn't going away. I could understand the concern if it's a recent fad that just came on suddenly, but if it's been going on a long time, the identity holds more weight.

      To the OP, I don't know how possible it would be for you right now, but would you be able to see a gender dysphoria therapist? They can help you research and explore your options. Otherwise, you could always do some research of your own on the internet. Transitioning to the opposite sex is a massive life choice and it's very difficult to reverse once you get to a certain point, so you have to be sure.

      Also on an un-related note OP, ma haqq, please learn to use some punctuation. That was difficult to read.

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      • riffraffy
        7 years ago

        Your advice for him to seek a therapist is good but naive. If he's afraid to confess to his parents he probably isn't able to seek professional help. Hell, a 15 year old is lucky to be able to drive there, much less handle legalities.

        OP, you're young and it's hard to be self aware at your age. But be aware enough to know life-changing hormone drugs will mess you up physically, mentally and emotionally—and you won't be able to go back. Your body is the only tool you truly own in this life.

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  • helpful_demon
    7 years ago

    sorry to hear about the turmoil you've been facing. just remember, you don't owe anybody an explanation of your identity, and only you can decide for yourself who to come out to and when. always make sure to keep your own personal safety in mind and, if somebody rejects you, then that's their problem, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. stay safe, stay true to yourself as much as possible, and best of luck!

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Your to young to be on this site. Look for teen support sites you'll get a generally more helpful and accepting group of ppl to discuss this with.

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  • Birdprince
    7 years ago

    try seeing how they react first before telling them, ask them what is their opinion on transgender people or tell them about some recent news involving trans people. if they react negatively you should wait until you're 18 and try to move out and live with a friend or other family member who is positive about trans people.

    if they react positively don't think right away that they would accept your true identity as they may just be saying that. test them out more by saying your friend came out as trans, or jokingly ask them what they would do if you told them you were trans.

    you need to be absolutely sure that they will accept you, because it can turn out dangerous if they find out and are unsupportive, they could degrade you, kick you out, force you to see someone to make you stop, etc. this is the reason why sucidel rates of transgender people are so high, because they come from families who are transphobic.

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