Very envious of youths (not hate)

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I am tuning 30 in a matter of months, and never had a fun filled youth life to look back on, had only 3 friends through high school, needless to say we were considered uncool, stayed away from highschool graduation party, never socialized much with others, when all 3 of my friends went to University, I couldnt because of financial constraints, So I spent most time indoors (voluntarily), working from home @ 17. Never partied, never went clubbing, never went on holiday trips, my life was just boring and i did nothing to change it. . . . Well, time passed, my friends found new friends and moved on. I grew up to become pretty good looking guy but couldnt shake my introversion, had a couple of relationships (they asked me out. I couldn't/can't! ), they have all ended due to my boring and reclusive lifestyle. . . Well, I always thought things would get better with time, but got a rude reawakening last week when I realized I was well into the last months of being a youth. . . I feel like I have wasted it and its draining me psychologically. I see young people hanging out or taking carefree walks with time to burn and I feel OLD and grumpy. Wishing I could go back and do things differently. DEPRESSED!

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  • Holzman_67
    9 years ago

    hmm time to reinvent yourself and rediscover your youth. I know 36 year olds that are more youthful and sprightly than some 22 year olds.

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    • DumBellle
      9 years ago

      This is true. Some of my family members still act like 20 year olds. I forget their age sometimes. It's funny, just today I was thinking of a sibling and how youthful they still are.
      There is time, age should not dictate how you live or how you perceive life, at all. There is so much time and at 30, plenty of it. You have to get out and find things to live for -- do not remain stagnant, or hung up on a number. My friend (25, quarter life crisis) felt the same. I explained the same thing. You're too young to feel as though your youth is wasting, since technically at 30, you're still "growing up" and stressing over this IS wasting time.

      Find things to do, something that gets you out and around like-minded people. Being an introvert will not hinder you. I myself have always been introverted, but once I turned 21, I was going out multiple times a week; clubs, packed "college" bars, casinos, dub-step clubs, dive-bars, basically everywhere and anywhere you can get drunk and dance with strangers. My friends and I hit up every spot in every town within a 2 hour distance for a good couple of years...
      Then I was over it. Now it takes a lot of convincing for me to go out. It was fun and definitely crazy times, but it gets old. Getting pepper sprayed with 5 of my friends was one of the last times I went out. Great memories.

      Although I'm still in my early 20's, I find calm and small get together type of situations much more enjoyable. However I see how not experiencing the party life and crazy nights can make someone feel as though they are missing out.

      Why don't you join a gym or find something you would have in common with others to make a big group of friends? Once you have a "group", you can start going out and create memories you'll enjoy looking back on.

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  • Pastafarian
    9 years ago

    Trust me, the whole crazy teenage party scene is not as cool as it sounds. I grew up a long time before my peers did. I was over the whole heavy drinking and partying phase by the time I was 17. I also left highschool at 17. The way I see it is I've been there done that and it really isn't all the rage, infact its quite unfulfilling. I'm 19 now and I live with my boyfriend of more than a year. For the first time ever I actually feel like I have a purpose. Trust me, you're life is not depressing! You don't need to have partied it up to feel like you've had a fulfilling teenage experience.

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  • Icyblueeyes
    9 years ago

    You call 30 old..?

    /sigh

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    No matter what you feel you missed, whether you actually did or not, it's certainly NOT too late to change your lifestyle now and have a grand life.
    It only takes a desire and action. Decide what you want your life to be like and make it so. There is absolutely no plus in moaning and being envious of what cannot be changed.
    The saddest thing would be to be laying on your death bed, regretting the things you didn't do.

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  • funlovingbitch
    7 years ago

    You are only as old as you feel me I'm 57 and still have fun filled active life stop complaining and live you only have 1like so enjoy it while you can

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  • Bunnyears
    9 years ago

    You act like you’re turning 40, not 30.

    You say 30, so by no means are you an old burnout yet!

    And if you had spent your twenties partying all the time, you might look even older than you do now. I think that is something to be grateful for on your own part :)

    Of course not everyone loves parties, or is very social… males and females like-wise. Partying does not define youth, please…

    I’ve got news for you: As a good-looking, 30-year old man, you will be very attractive to women in their early twenties! You have no idea how many young women prefer older guys with a mature head on their shoulders, and a somewhat older look. Your chances now are greater than before.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    Join a nudist resort, study mixology, try a few exotic prostitutes. Variety is the spice of life.

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  • smalltownboy
    9 years ago

    As for if its normal, I think it is. I'm 28, and me and my friends have felt the exact same way. I think alot of people feel it at some point, whether or not they choose to admit it. However, we still have plenty of time to change our habits. Lets just focus on not feeling the same way on our 70th birthday. Carpe Diem!

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