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I like this guy and we're in the stage of flirtation/ getting to know each other. I really just met him, but I keep having vivid dreams and daydreams about my future with him. Like getting married, kids, etc.
It's driving me crazy because I don't even know if this is going anywhere, so it's weird that I'm experiencing this...right?
There's nothing better than a new beginning with someone new but you gotta be realistic. He might not be what you're looking for or the infatuation might cause you to overlook red flags. Good luck though. Hope it works out.
You don't know him well enough so it is impossible to see a future, I think you are moving way too fast.
Not normal, high expectations at the beginning are a one way ticket to getting your heart broken.
You don’t know him well enough yet to paint a realistic picture of him in 2 years, 5 years or as a father. You’re not thinking about who he is, you’re thinking about who you want him to be. I suspect you are slotting him into a pre-existing fantasy of a man saving you.
It is in fact normal to fantasize and dream about things going very well. That is in fact a good thing (and totally normal).
However, you should also ask yourself what happens if things do not work out.
Be positive about the future; but also, check for signs that you are not perhaps the match you want, and have a plan to address issues that could upset your concepts, dreams, and goals.
Something you might wish to do: Write out a list of what it is you want in a partner (all key attributes). Does he actually meet them (or just some of them). Some common features take a bit of discussion with the other person on their beliefs, dreams, goals, and standards.
I wish you well with this,
Yeah its normal to fantasize about that stuff but just know its not likely. Its also something adults tend to not do as much because they like to limit expectations. Its a good thing you at least see those things with him, could mean hes the right type of person for you. Question is, without changing yourself, are you the right one for him?