Waiting till marraige to lose your virginity: worth it or not?

I say... make your own choice on this and forget what others tell you to do or not do.

Others shouldn't be deciding what is or isn't good for you in bed.

Believe it or not, sexual incompatibility can ruin a relationship. Do you really want to wait until after marriage to find out that he just can't keep up with you?

I would suggest waiting until you realize that you truly love each other, that doesn't necessarily mean marriage.

It is worth it,but take time to develop a strong sense of self, and please do not marry so you can have sex . Fall in love with yourself first, find out who you are, and then find someone who is worthy of you. Good luck to you.

I'm not religious or anything but I have a boyfriend right now and we will wait till marriage even though if he maybe isn't good in bed I don't know but well I also don't care as long as I love him.

don't wait..sex is awsome

I think it's worth the wait. But I probably wouldn't wait that long myself anyway!

Sex is sex.
Love is love.

It is up to the individual whether or not those two should be mutually exclusive. And personally I wouldn't want to commit to someone if I didn't feel we were working in all aspects... if I couldn't satisfy him and the fire was dying, I wouldn't want to keep a half dead thing going on the premise of some long dead, dogmatic sense of morality.

Act in accordance with your nature, that it harm none do as thou wilt, and the world would be a better place to live.

I don't care what you choose to do with your body. Kindly do not tell me what to do with mine. Slut is a word used by Christians, conservatives, and *mostly* women who fear their own bodies. In my opinion the only true slut is the one who has sex for validation :/

It is so worth it.

lost it when i was 17.

thank god i didn't wait until i was married to do it and think "was that it?"

I actually don't even believe in marriage anymore. But that might be because I'm from Holland.

How, oh how, did yes get more votes than no

Nooooooo! Have SEX!!!

do you buy a car without test driving it first?? Hehe

It's your decision, ultimately, but if you want to have the best relationship you can possibly have, then wait... Marriage is about so much more than sex and any relationship should be, for that matter :) You decide, but that's my advice :) Also, Don't listen to the people saying, "Why marry them if you don't know if they're good", well, how would you know if you're a virgin? :) Society is so screwed up making it seem like sex is more important than the rest of what a relationship is supposed to be... Besides, would you like to simply "have sex and forget it" or find the one you're going to spend the rest of your days with and then "make love?" Waiting is soooooo hard and believe me, I know cause I'm personally a horn dog, but it's worth it, in the end :) I waited for my husband and he waited for me and we are so incredibly happy :) Wanna know why our sex life is so great? :) We've had zero sexual experience before each other, so we're truly happy and aren't unhappy in bed :) But Yeah, Your decision :)

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Sex has become something to be ashamed of isn't it? People invented marriage to try to keep that 'vulnerability' of sex and to force people to keep sex for after marriage. Sex however is the core of life.

To me if my wife to be is not a virgin it means she don't give a crap about marriage or me. I will dump any woman over that fact.

Kudos to those who don't just take up on the first oppurtunity given to them but as for holding out for marriage...not worth it, sex has so many benefits and is just an all around euphoric experience, marriage and sex are two sepwerate things, marriage is a legal bond of commitment sex is an act of love and/or reproduction. Or alternatively recreation and/or stress relief, or perhaps even a workout lol. whicever way you look at sex I don't see commitment being a part of it which is what marriage is all about.

I don't really believe in "love" so I'm not going to say wait until you "love" someone, and I'm not really big on the whole "soul mate" thing so marraige doesn't mean much to either, but my theory is this: sex is for making babies. The best way to raise a child is for him/her to have both parents in his/her life. I say, wait until marriage incase someting happens, but I'm not going to judge anyone who sees it differently. If you can't wait, then that's fine. Use a condom, of course. I, however, think that it is best to wait because I know I won't be having sex unless I want a kid, and I refuse to raise a kid by myself, so I guess I'll be waiting until marriage, but that's just me.

To be honest I think its a pretty silly idea. By all means wait until you feel ready to have sex but dont for a second think that the arbitrary threshold of marriage is any different from any other arbitrary threshold.

I am all for waiting until you feel like the time is right but don't feel forced to wait by these holier then thou types.

And on a side note what about gays that cant get legally married where they are or me who doesn't plan on ever getting married.

I'm still in the I don't ever want to think about marriage time, I chose neither though because I probably would have chosen both.

you should wait. it only makes it as special giving up something that you can never get back is precious don't you think? Wait, is for the best

not worth it. you will think so too after years of being married

Worth it? why would it be worth it? What difference does Marriage make? You have a legal document that says your partnered with somebody? Yay.

If you asked me if it's worth it to wait til you feel like you are in love I'd say yes.

In reality 55% of couples have sex before marriage. This number has not changed since the early 1950s

Like NeuroNeptunian said, I think it depends on how much emotional value you attach to sex, or if you're religious or something.

Maybe waiting would have made my first time more special or whatever, but it also would have made sex seem like a really big deal to me, and I prefer to think that its just a regular part of relationships.

Personally, I do not think that I would be able to wait until after marriage. I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with people who do believe that it is best to wait, that is just their choice.

Don't wait. You could regret it later! If your partner is not satisfied sexually he/she could cheat on you and ruin your marriage. Sex is not everything in a relationship, but it's still an important part of it.

Know yourself and know other people sexually before getting married. And of course do it safely

Who the hell would want to get Married?

SIN.

It depends on how much emotional value you attach to sex.

My husband wanted to wait until marriage and we waited until we were engaged :P We both have a wicked sex drive, though. I would have died of sorrow had I gotten married and found out AFTERWARDS that my husband can't put out at LEAST once a day.

Its nice to think this way, waiting til marriage and making it "special" by doing that. But the simple fact of the matter today is that people just dont wait for marriage anymore, so if you are someone who is doing this then feel good about being pure yourself, BUT dont get upset or confused when you find out that the person you eventually wish to marry lost their virginity years before and didnt share your same sentimentality.