Was it wrong to leave my mother?
So for about 5 years my mother has been extremely dirty. She is depressed because she has reached a certain age and feels like she has accomplished nothing. No significant other, no major career, and has financial problems. Every time I come to visit I feel helpless. If I’m stern, she gets defensive or cries. If I’m sympathetic I end up helping her clean up a little but when I return the mess is back. This time when I came back from uni I had-had enough. Everything was disgusting. There was no surface available for me even to prepare food. Dirty dishes over flowed everywhere. Maggots, dead roaches, even the showers made me feel gross. The next day I began to help clean and then I said “screw this” the fact that no matter what, I stay in this house gives her confirmation that she doesn’t have to change. I will be staying with friends for a few days but will return for Christmas. I’m hoping this is her wake up call. Should I have approached this differently? Was I wrong?