What do i do?

13 Comments

I'm really quiet in college, I only have a few close friends and I only talk to the popular people when I REALLY need to because they don't think I'm...normal (see other stories).

But recently there's this really popular, good looking, nice guy has been messaging me on Facebook and commenting on my wall posts (this was only for a few days) and then he stopped, Just stopped for 3 weeks since I've been accused of liking another guy that I really DON'T like! Then he started talking to me on Facebook again:

Him: Hi
Me: hi :)
Him: Do you fancy Andy then? (I changed his name)
Me: No it was just a joke made up by my friends :P
Him: Oh, do you want to know who I like then?
Me: Um, no, what would I do with that? I wouldn't tell anyone!
Him: That's why I love you.

Then he signed off and I messaged him back:

'Is this some sort of joke? Are you trying to get the information out of me about Andy? You don't even know me that well!'

I was really shocked and I didn't mean to be so mean to him, it was just that I've never been approached by a guy like him before and I thought his friends had made it up as some sick joke, after that he just looked at me in classes in a really weird way, like he was confused or something, and now I'm not so sure...I don't think I can approach him after that since he has a girlfriend now and he might treat me the same way I treated him.

What should I do?

Confront him, ask him if he was serious 7
Try and talk to him about it away from friends 11
Try and be his friend and coax it out of him 0
Slip it into a random conversation 4
Leave it, and hope he approaches again. 12
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 13 )
  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Become an alcoholic. In time, I think you'll find that it's really opened a lot of doors for you. Are you ready to unleash that potential?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • anti-hero
    12 years ago

    Suck his dick.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -1
    -1
  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    Try to tell him that it was just nerves. Tell him how you feel and that you're sorry. True, you killed the mood, but whose to say that it's not mendable?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • thinkingaboutit
    12 years ago

    Uh? He's about to tell you he has feelings for you, and you reply with a conspiracy theory? You low self esteem, right? Because that's just OD.

    You scared him. Away. far. away. The only way you can fix this is if you pull him aside and apologize for accusing him. Tell him you were having a fat day or something, that you weren't feeling so receptive.

    If you two can't build a friendship afterwards, no worries.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • everlily76
      12 years ago

      at the time i was having a rough week (my big brother just went on a tour of duty) but since his happened he got a girlfriend but we're friends now, but this incident hasn't been mentioned since it happened.
      But I didn't know what to do because I'd had guys like him do the same thing and drop me. THROUGH THE GROUND. I was so insanely mad that he would say it but not to my face at least. i know what i said was completely the wrong thing to say and i will probably never get him back after that but i'm happy being his friend.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • joybird
        12 years ago

        He tried to build a rapport with you and you killed it dead. He wanted you to ask him who he liked -duh! I hope you don't make that mistake with a guy again. It takes them a while to open up so let the conversation flow.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        1
        1
          -
        • everlily76
          12 years ago

          I KNOW it was completely the wrong thing to say, but when you've spent your entire life being picked on by popular people like him, what do you expect me to do? I regret it with my very being and I DO like him OK? But I was so confused and shocked I couldn't say anything that wouldn't of sounded worse. I was mad because just two days before his best friend came up to me and said these exact words "Your people and my people, we just don't mix, Ok sweetheart?"
          I though he was patronizing me...

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
            -
          • joybird
            12 years ago

            I think I'd be a little wary now that I've read about his best friend's rudeness. Maybe this nice looking guy was setting you up for a fall.

            I hope you told his mate that he's dead right, 'your people' do not mix with @ssholes like him!!

            Seriously, I would've said, "Don't call me sweetheart you fucken wanker. Now fuck away off out of my sight!!"

            Downright ignorant prat!!

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            2
            2
              -
            • everlily76
              12 years ago

              Oh yes I agree!! :D

              Comment Hidden ( show )
              0
              0
  • myownopinions
    12 years ago

    Okay, from what I just read, I think it's pretty obvious he likes you and that you like him, so go for it.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • everlily76
      12 years ago

      he's got a girlfriend :'(

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • myownopinions
        12 years ago

        Okay, if it doesn't work out with his girlfriend, them go for it.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • everlily76
          12 years ago

          i won't hesitate lol

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0