What do you consider as being "mature"?

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I've always been told I'm too mature for my age. Honestly I never understood why people would tell me that. I'm 19 and they still tell me. Just because I never liked partying or getting into trouble with alcohol/grugs..and also because I'm nice to people. Okay so I'm not some wild child, but I don't understand how that makes me mature. I'm still clueless on somethings and honestly don't have much experience in anything just yet so I wouldn't know how to react to some things.. For example, I've never had a boyfriend (not the big picture of the story lol)so I wouldn't know how to react if he ever broke my heart, bought me something too expensive, or even how to be a girlfriend in general. I always believed to be "mature" means to be experienced enough to know how to act on any situation. Am I wrong? What do you think?

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  • rin
    12 years ago | pl

    I think you're mature in the sense that you know you don't know everything and you don't act like you do.

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  • bananaface
    12 years ago

    The definition of maturity is someone who is fully grown. So I think that's mostly age and experience, along with choosing the option which is the most beneficial, not only to yourself but to others. I think maturity is subjective, what's mature to some will be immature to others:) It doesn't really matter either way, you sound like a good person:D

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    Nobody knows how to react to every situation.

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  • SingleandChildfree
    12 years ago

    This is an interesting question. Everyone and I mean everyone who ever told me to grow up were themselves, THE most immature people I'd ever met. It went beyond hypocrisy into delusion the way they could, with a straight face, make this comment to me. Maturity is the ability to mind one's own business and make sure to check oneself before making a hypocritical/delusional comment about someone else.

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  • karmasAbich
    12 years ago

    I have been told many times that I am very wise from a psychologist. That doesn't mean anything though. If your happy with who you are, then don't worry about it.

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  • Stern_rules
    12 years ago

    mature = responsible

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    • Alison89
      12 years ago

      Responsible and being able to make an appropriate decision.

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  • equanimity
    12 years ago

    I think maturity is being able to recognize that things are never black and white, everything is just a varying shade of grey. Also, it is the ability to control one's emotions and overcome self-pity & selfishness.

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    • Alison89
      12 years ago

      I don't agree with that. Some things are purely black and white, and having an inability to recognize that isn't good. I can provide some examples of purely black and white situations if you'd like.

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  • 1marcelfilms
    12 years ago

    Arround 13 years it startet to me

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  • i.eat.rapists
    12 years ago

    I think you're mature compared to others your age about drugs and alcohol. Lots of people haven't been in a relationship. Don't worry. You seem like a good kid.

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    In my opinion, there is no such thing as "too mature".

    Maturity is how you feel about yourself; nobody else knows you inside-out, so only you can work it out.

    Personally, I think I am very mature in some areas and very immature in others. I don't know where that leaves me. Mature is a strange word, as it is a summation of so many things that are unrelated and maybe even mutually exclusive; emotional maturity, academic maturity, physical maturity and more. Maturity as a combination is hardly worth measuring because everyone succeeds at different things; measure the different types of maturity INDIVIDUALLY to define yourself.

    My thoughts.

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    • Alison89
      12 years ago

      Yeah, what would "too mature" even mean?

      I think there's a difference in being mature and not having an interest in doing things that other people do at a certain age.

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