What does this mean if my bf does this?
whenever i tell my boyfriend how i feels out something he did or has done, he gets upset and immediately goes into victim card with saying things like, “ya i’m an asshole i’m a piece of shit sorry” and things like that. gets into defensive mode and shuts down and doesn’t act nice or be better until like an hour later. always makes me feel like i’m crazy or my feelings aren’t understood. always tells me i’m not listening to him and that i always cut him off when he talks (when he does the same) is always so hard on himself with everything he does, his weight, his profession, his hobbies, his friends. he used to not be like this when we first started dating, he would listen to what i would have to say and apologize and reassure and now he doesn’t. and i’m not sure why. he also is a big liar and i know a lot of things about his past that he doesn’t know i know, and even asked him about after finding out the information and he still denies and swears on my life that he didn’t do things that he has done. idk. just sucks. also got mad at me for me wanting to go skiing with my sister and her friends on monday and says it’s not safe yet he goes out and skates with his friends all the time.