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Seriously, what is special about them? They seem pointless and stupid. There is nothing exciting about it.
There are two main categories of relationships and intimacy, with variations between that incorporate aspects of both, and then a few offshoots that go in other directions:
1) Causal relationships and Casual intimacy: Its fun and pleasant, and there are no real emotional ties. Can easily be replaced by similar relationships with others.
In this case - there is nothing special about them.
2) Long term caring and bonding relationships and long term caring and bonding intimacy.
These either form over a long time, or from a significant joint event.
There is a depth and trust here that is not easily replaced; and these relationships produce significant health and other benefits to each other.
These are special and are significant.
It used to be in the USA that most people knew each other for months or years before deciding to ever have sex together. They were real friends first; and found that sex often pulled them together tighter than before. A good number of these developed into long term caring and bonding relationships. Real life partners.
Todays culture usually starts with casual sex hook-ups and some form of sexual release with most dates. Sex is no longer used to pull together a good and promising friendship. It's lets have sex and see if we become good friends.
My observation is that the fast entry into sex - and the focus on finding a good sex partner 1st often makes development of real friendship more difficult. So long term caring and bonding relationships are more difficult to find.
I have 2 long term caring and bonding relationships outside of several of my 7 siblings. My wife, and my 40+ year friendship with a lady I started dating for potential marriage over 40 years ago, that did not work out for that - but we were good friends. We also considered marriage again about 17 years ago as well; but, while we are close - there are things between us that would make marriage difficult.
My wife is clearly the right person for me; and I for her.
I hope that you all find a good for each other long term caring and bonding relationship someday. Then you will understand why they are so special.
Dude I wish there were more marriageable men in the world with values like yours 😭.
"These are special and are significant".
No the hell they're not. they are just as pointless and stupid as casual relationships. No relationship is special.
"I have 2 long term caring and bonding relationships outside of several of my 7 siblings. My wife, and my 40+ year friendship with a lady I started dating for potential marriage over 40 years ago, that did not work out for that - but we were good friends. We also considered marriage again about 17 years ago as well; but, while we are close - there are things between us that would make marriage difficult
My wife is clearly the right person for me; and I for her".
This has nothing to do with me. I don't give a fuck about your story.
"I hope that you all find a good for each other long term caring and bonding relationship someday. Then you will understand why they are so special".
Don't bother. I don't care for relationships, nor do I seek them. They aren't special so i'll save my time for something that isn't as pointless and unimportant.
Why the hostility? Romantic relationships and intimacy aren't for me either, but there's no reason to be bitter to someone just trying to give you their perspective.
I'm just saying. What's the point in telling me about their relationships.
idk, i can’t find much substance in romantic relationships in comparison to friendships. i don’t like the sexual attraction that often comes with romance either.
i feel like i’m treated more like an equal with friendships, whereas i’m “the girlfriend” in a romance. i wish i could express this easier, but there’s an amount of respect i get in friendships that i can’t see in romance
Yeah, like I find comfort in the fact that my significant other will drop everything for me in an emergency. And he pets me the way I like. And rearranges my guts like no one ever has. Very special. Very important.
Wasn’t your post asking why relationships are important? Balance out your meds homie. 😎
I don’t mind giving them a little nibble here and there. Lol. Yes, terrible trolling job.
Trolling? never. writing anyone you disagree with off as a troll does not work anymore. I will admit, Some of comments were a bit unnecessary, but still. this post is genuine.
If you're actually looking for an answer go and look up the scientific reasons for intimacy being important, for a start. The importance of relationships, or why we find them special, can also be found easily online. A good psychologist (Jordan Peterson probably has some answers for you on YouTube) would probably explain this better than any of us that you may find on this wonderful place that is Is It Normal. I hope im not offending any of the other members in saying that.
Yeah, I was asking what is so special about them. not your goddamn love life.
... to you, and in your opinion. It's still very special, and important to her.
If you don't care, then why ask in the first place? Did you only want validation for your own perspective?
The relationship I have with my wife is the greatest thing I could ever be a part of, there is no time or scenario in my life where I wouldn’t want her to be there with me.
It’s a very personal special experience, it’s different for everyone
I've even said some of the stuff was a little bit unnecessary, although I don't regret the things I said. But I will admit, It was unnecessary. I only said that because I don't know why these motherfuckers are telling me about their life. I'll let you think I care about relationships and intimacy though, keep up with accusations.
Simple, they are telling you about their lives because they're giving examples of their own experiences that back up their reasonings for believing the way they do.
Nobody who "doesn't care" reacts anywhere near as strongly as you have in your replies to these people.
Once again, accuse me of caring all you want, doesn't matter. At the end of the day, I'm the only one that knows if I care or not, right? and I know I don't, so trying to tell me otherwise doesn't matter. And like I said, I didn't need their experiences.
I'm not into intimacy and relationships either. Never have been and never will be. A combination of personal choice and autism spectrum problems. But I respect the right of others to be 'into' it. Just because I'm not, doesn't mean others should be.
It's so much fun to put your heart in somebody else's hands and have them squish it throw it on the ground and stomp on it.
The challenge can you recover?
Now i'm gonna correct you there. I never said I wanted y'all to be like me. I genuinely don't get the importance of relationships. I honestly do not care for these things. And lmao! How can I be struggling with these areas in my life if I have never cared to seek out any relationship? I never even had 1 romantic/sexual partner. I'm not struggling, because I never once in my life have had a relationship, nor have I ever cared for one. You can accuse me of caring about stuff like this all you want though, that's fine and dandy. I don't know what you think you're "identifying" but you couldn't be anymore wrong.