What's the closest level of physical intimacy you're comfortable with?

In a platonic relationship between you and a friend, and assuming neither of you have any notions of turning it into a sexual or romantic relationship.

As little as possible 8
Casual touch (e.g: handshakes) 11
Familial intimacy (e.g: hugging) 16
Very close intimacy (e.g: snuggling) 7
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  • ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet

    Anything non sexual.

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  • charli.m

    Spectrum between "casual" and "familial", dependent on the person.

    All my friends are huggy people and it took several years, but I don't recoil from it anymore. I don't initiate, either, though.

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  • olderdude-xx

    If this is a platonic relationship - or a more professional relationship I see no problem with hugs, some form of cuddle, and even massages without clothing.

    I learned many decades ago when officiating on an international sport circuit that a nude body is just a nude body. Athletes from certain nations think nothing of wandering the event course or other areas without clothing on nice sunny days. Their proud of their bodies.

    So for ladies who can handle it and are huggers or cuddlers, or who want a massage... No problem.

    I also learned that there is a difference between looking and admiring (which is OK), and staring and gawking (which is what I did the 1st time I saw it - got me a hard rap in the head that left me half dizzy from a French Female Athlete). I then got told that I needed to learn to control myself and proper etiquette and treatment of nudity - or I would be banned from judging on the race circuit. I learned fast as my goal was to officiate at an Olympics (which I did - and 2 World Championships too).

    I'd think nothing of giving one of the ladies on the race circuit a hug or a massage regardless of what they are or are not wearing if I were still judging. The would think noting about it either other than I just gave them what they needed as a friend or support person at the time.

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  • Chap

    I voted the last one. I've never actually done it, but would be perfectly fine with it. I love intimacy when I feel like it, and I love breaking boundaries of what considers you "just friends" or lovers.

    In my opinion lovers can do exactly what friends can do, regarding intimacy, but what separates them is the declaration and/or the feeling of a deep spiritual connection. The feeling of being able to do things you could never do with anyone else. The feeling of bliss in your hospital bed, as you dream of seeing this person again, whether it's Heaven, Hell, or maybe even another lifetime; no matter your beliefs.

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  • Contrivance

    Robbing a bank together and dancing and hugging after its success

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  • GuvnorsOtherWoman

    As little as possible.

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  • ellnell

    I'm on the asexual spectrum myself but I experience attraction to people which makes me want to touch them, and that would be snuggling and possibly kisses depending on how close we are.
    Otherwise with friends i'm comfortable with casual hugs. I am not comfortable snuggling with friends.

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  • a-curious-bunny

    A hug maybe. Even cuddles is pushing it. Sometimes guys will be like can we cuddle? No sex just cuddles its like bro my ass is gonna be pressed against your crotch you seriously expect me to beilive you ain't gonna try something?

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  • LloydAsher

    Maybe a pat on a shoulder.

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  • SkullsNRoses

    I used to cuddle with one of my friends, her husband was oversees, she missed the cuddles and I was a willing victim. I don’t see her very much anymore and haven’t had a cuddle in a few years now. I wouldn’t want to cuddle with any of my existing friends as it would just be odd at this point but maybe with a future friend I wouldn’t be against it, perhaps I’d even let them be the big spoon?

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  • 1WeirdGuy

    Sex is less cringy to me than hugging and cuddling. I hate that shit

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  • Mini69

    Depends who it is

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  • DADNSCAL

    I hug my female friends in a non sexual way, but I think snuggling would not be platonic.

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